(ftm)one of my friends kept misgendering me after I told her to do not?? she wouldnt stop using my deadname and saying things like "but youre a girl!" i really don't want to talk to her anymore but I dont think she gets why it was so harmful to me :(
If you don’t want to talk to her anymore, you’re not obligated to do it. Clearly, she’s not respecting you.
Okay, is it... weird... that my binder literally feels looser and less constraining than my sports bras? Like, I'm talking ONE sports bra at a time hurts my lungs and chest more than a binder. Do you think my binder is too small (I was between an XXS and an XS gc2b, and I went up bcos shoulders), or do you think I'm just an anomaly? Like I seriously could run in my binder and feel better than in a sports bra.
Some people find binders more comfortable than sports bras, and that’s totally fine! (But don’t run in your binder.)
Is there any alternative/replacement for aftershave (regarding shaving one's face)? I'm a broke college student and looking to not buy anything expensive ($10-15 CAD tops is my budget) but instead use something I already have. Would normal lotion or astringent face toner work in replacement of aftershave? What is aftershave's function? To kill bacteria on the face, or to close pores, or to moisturize?
Hey there! I'm having top surgery in a couple months and I'm wondering if I have to take a semester off for it. Ideally I'd take a couple weeks off and power through the rest, but maybe that will impede with my recovery too much and bite me in the butt. I can take the semester off if I want, but uni involves a lot of computer work so I thought maybe that's not too much of a strain... I won't push myself if i can't, just trying to get some insight here. Thanks!
I know people who haven’t taken a semester off, so it’s definitely possible! However, I would definitely look into mobility assistance resources if you have to do a lot of walking around campus.
For example, my campus has an on-call bus service that will transport students around campus if they register with the DRC. They are inclusive of temporary disabilities/injuries, so if you told that you were getting surgery, you might be avle to use a service like that if your college offers it.
Okay so about not using the term gay for het relationships? I'm genderfluid and dating a guy and like is it gay on masc days? Is it only gay on masc days? We're not the same gender so that's "hetero" but is it? It's a very muddled concept for nonbinary people and I'm just wondering where the line is. Is it gay if I'm male-aligned but not if I'm female-aligned? What if I'm both? (And I don't mean is it gay more can I call it gay?)
Well, that’s not a heterosexual relationship, because you ID as a nonbinary gender, so yeah, you can use gay.
URGENT: im going to disneyland (1 hour plane followed by rollercoasters) and new york (9 hour plane) soon and i don't know if i can wear my binder? i've never felt any pain or discomfort wearing it and i've been to carnivals and really intense concerts and slept in it (accidentally) but is there a scientific issue as in will my lungs explode or anything? please tag as "shark" if you can, thanks
Binding on thrill rides is very unsafe, but short plane rides are okay!