They aren’t allowed to get angry when people bully them because by reacting people believe they justify the abuse. They are forced to deal with adult situations often without support from any of the actual adults around them. When they look for leaders in their community they often find no one who is like them and are left with only scraps of representation in media to look to. And they don’t have the support system they deserve, the support system heterosexual/romantic cisgender kids are given without question. They are forced to hide parts of themselves from their family members and we pretend that it is normal. And if they decide to discuss that particular part of their identity it is picked apart and examined often before the kid even knows how to process it themselves. Their own identities is branded as “too adult” for them when it is not their identities that is too adult, but how we treat them once we are informed of these parts of their identities.
Queer kids deserve so much better than they are given.
I’m celebrating marriage equality by with some Beach City Pride. These are all my gender and sexuality headcanons for the show right now.
I got the flag colors off wikipedia so please tell me if I got anything wrong.
I finally realized what bothers me about the whole “Teaching kids about asexuality somehow sexualizes them!!!” argument.
Like… my parents gave me The Talk when I was about 7 or 8. I got my first sex ed class in school when I was in 5th grade. That’s a class full of 10-11 year olds being taught about sex.
So, it’s okay to teach really young kids about sex – before a lot of them have even hit puberty, so they probably don’t get a whole lot of sexual urges – but it’s not okay to tell them that they don’t need to want it?
Is that what the aphobes are telling me? Because that really sounds like what the aphobes are telling me.
TBH I have to remind myself pretty often that as someone who is asexual, I do get to be a member of the LGBT community, and I do deserve support and love. I really wish there were a way for me to reach other ace kids and tell them it’s okay.
I thought I was straight for so long, and then when it clicked I guess I kept this idea of “oh no that’s not for me, don’t talk about it, it’s not your place to talk” because I was afraid of overshadowing /real/ LGBT people.
Asexual kids are valid members of the LGBTQIA+ community and deserve love too.
Sexual attraction fades after initially
meeting someone. (Say you see
someone on the street and you are sexually attracted to them, but then upon actually
meeting the individual, you lose the sexual attraction)
Experiencing sexual attraction,
nut not wanting it reciprocated. (You are essentially sex repulsed, but only
when it is to do with you. You don’t like the idea of people being sexually attracted
to you; or the idea of you being involved) Also could be aroused by sexual content
ONLY experiencing sexual
attraction AFTER a strong bond has been formed. (Could be that you have boon romantically
interested in someone, and you have never experienced sexual attraction before
then. NOT not wanting to have sex with someone until you get to know them)
Disconnection between oneself and
sexual target of arousal. (Say you are watching or reading something with
sexually explicit material, now you may be aroused by it, or it may not gross
you out, but you yourself, don’t want to be put in that situation.)
Wanting a sexual relationship,
but you don’t experience sexual attraction. (One will want to perform sexual
acts, but doesn’t feel an attraction)
Experiencing sexual attraction.
Your sexual identity fluctuates
between the different identies and level of sexual attraction/drive. (Sexual
attraction could also fluctuate between genders)