keep calm and love yourself

Stop talking yourself out of opportunities because you don’t feel like you’re “ready” yet. It’s time. You’re ready now.

You are such a lovely person. A beautiful addition to this planet. A wonder to this universe. No one is really quite like you, and that’s what makes you so special.
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
Helpful Advice

If you have trouble sleeping or staying asleep, drink a glass of milk before bed. At the very least it will help you stay asleep for longer, since the body usually wakes up from lack of protein.

If you wake up from a particularly scary night terror or nightmare, try putting clothed ice where the bags of your eyes would be. There’s a gland there that will automatically lower your blood pressure, since it’s a reflex for if you were to drown. It lowers the thoughts and helps calm you down.

If you have a night terror that makes you want to self harm, grab a piece of ice, hold it in your hand for as long as possible, and only focus on the sensations. If you can, try doing some deep breathing at the same time. The hand is one of the most sensitive parts of the body, and the cold sends a small shock to the nervous system, and your thoughts and bodily functions start to slow. At the same time, the psychological need for pain also gets met in a more healthy way to your body.

These were some things I learned while trying to help with my PTSD, and I thought I would share them for those who are in need. :3


Apapun yang terjadi besok, hadapi yaa. :) Keep calm and love yourself. Because Allah created you special in your own way.

Jaga prasangka baik baik yaa! Jangan menakuti dirimu sendiri dengan segala kekhawatiran yang belum terjadi. Jangan buat syaithan bangga bisa bikin kita resah mikirin hal hal yang sebenarnya sudah di jamin Allah. Besok, saatnya belajar lagi.

Dan semakin hari semakin belajar dari kesalahan, kemarin kamu sadar kamu salah dan kamu menyesalinya. Jadi hari hari selanjutnya sudah sepantasnya kamu buat lebih menjaga semuanya baik baik supaya ndak salah lagi, supaya ndak kecewa ndak nyesel lagi.

Besok kalo ada sesuatu yang rasa rasanya bikin kamu rapuh atau hampir terjatuh, inget inget bahwa hari sebelumnya kamu sudah melewati hal yang sama dan kamu dimampukan melewatinya. Jadi ndak ada alasan buat nyerah dan berlarut larut sama hal yang ngga ngenakin, yang ngga sesuai dengan ekspetasimu.

kuat yaa! Belum saatnya berhenti.
yang lapang yaa! Luaskan hatimu untuk menerima seperti apapun sikap manusia padamu, belajar baik baik dari karakter mereka. Yang baik padamu, hargai sebagaimana kamu ingin diperlakukan. Yang ngga menyukaimu itu jadiin pelajaran berharga supaya kamu ngga kaya gitu ke orang lain ya.

Jaga lisan baik baik, kumohon.
Jaga hati baik baik, ini yang sungguh sungguh kumohon.
Besok ujian mungkin akan menyapa kembali, maka jadilah sebagaimana Allah memintamu.
Berserah pada Nya, mengaku lemah pada Nya, mohon pertolongan Nya.
Selalu seperti itu sampai nanti saat tiba waktunya kamu pulang.

Sadar yaa bahwa kamu sungguh tiada daya dan upaya kecuali dengan pertolongan Nya.
Tak ada ruang barang setitik dalam jiwa untuk menyombongkan diri.
Sabar yaa, sebentar.
Ndak lama, ini hanya dunia, hanya sendau gurau yang melalaikan.

Tetaplah menjadi harum dengan apa yang di cintai Nya.
Semoga Allah memberikan cahaya Nya untuk menerangimu, hingga kilaunya sampai kemana mana.
Bersinar, terang sampai benderang menyinari sekelilingmu bahkan semesta.

Alhamdulillah ‘ala kulli hal.
Astaghfirullah wa'atubu illaih 🌸

Jakarta, 25 September 2016.
Tulisan ini sungguh kutujukan untuk membahagiakan, menguatkan diri sendiri.

A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.
—  Unknown Author

anonymous asked:

mark and 16????

16. A Promise

Mark was always late. Everywhere. To dinner. To hanging out. He woke up late, he fell asleep late, and he was late to kiss you for the first time–he waited until you’d been dating for a month. So you were determined to make sure he was not late to your anniversary celebration.

It wasn’t much of a celebration, just a whole evening at your place–no members, no phones, no interruptions. You’d have dinner and maybe watch a movie but mostly just be with each other. Neither of you talked much in public but something happened when you two were alone. You felt comfortable and like he cared about everything you said, so you told him everything. Your text conversations were endless and constant. Your snapchat streak was still going strong after nearly a year. Your friends and his wondered what you two could ever have to say to each other but the truth was that you had too much to say. Too many words that no one else could ever appreciate like Mark could.

It was going to a perfect evening. Except that he was two hours late.

You’d done everything right: you’d reminded him of the time, you’d texted him this morning making sure nothing had arisen in his schedule, and you’d called Jackson to remind him to leave the dorm on time. And he was still late.

The food was already cold and you were worried about it going bad, so you stuck it in the fridge and went to the couch to wait some more. Right then the doorbell rang.

Mark stood in the doorway and he looked apologetic before he even opened his mouth. “I’m sorry.”

“Two hours, Mark! What held you up for two hours?”

He followed you into your apartment and held out a bag. “You told me once, when we first started dating that you really liked this candy and that you couldn’t find it anymore, so I found a store that sold it but it was thirty minutes away and they said,” he took a seat on the couch and handed you the bag, “that they were holding it for me but they didn’t. And they sold out. So I had to find another store that sold it. That’s why.” He kissed your cheek as you opened the bag and gave you a satisfied smile, knowing full well you couldn’t get mad at him now. “Happy anniversary.”

You peeked into the bag and gave him a look of disbelief. “You didn’t have to go through all that. I didn’t even remember I said that.”

He shrugged. “Well, it was worth it because…I love you.” 

He looked at you as he said it and your heart beat erratically. You fought to keep yourself calm. “Oh. I love you too.”

He smiled again and you looked down at the bag in your lap to keep him from catching you smiling back.

“But you have to promise not to be late again. At least not to the important stuff.”

He held out a pinky and you intertwined his with yours. “I promise.”


I actually really like what I do for a living. I fell into it after i left my career path of an Occupational Therapist and child therapist ended 10 years ago. I had finished college early and went straight into my field of study and burned out in less than a year.

A friend asked if I wanted to be a shop girl and after traveling around the states, I figured I needed some cash.

I now run, 6 locations of a locally owned retail, fitness and advocate group who caters to all aspects for adult performers, industry professionals, and sex workers. I’ve had the same boss and staff for over a decade. I have traveled for the company and just all around have had a freaking blast.

I’m still able to travel and take photos for a living. I’m a published author and artist as well. All while working in a field I never thought I’d ever be in.

Why am I telling you this? Because college is going to burn you out. Your job is going to exhaust you and maybe, just maybe you have been going and going since highschool and even before that. Maybe you haven’t stepped back and taken a look at what makes you happy or taken a deep breath. If you found your place in life with out hesitation, I’m so happy and proud of you. For those of you who haven’t, it’ll come. I promise. I really do promise.

I hope today treated you well. I hope, even through out the day’s setbacks, you remain strong and ready to work, laugh, and love even harder tomorrow.

Keep fighting, little fighter. You’ve got this.

Hey, Superhuman.

Next time you start to feel incapable and unintelligent, remember this;
Our mind can process 126 pieces of information every second.
You, my friend, are anything BUT unintelligent.
You have the heart of a burning fire and the mind of a super-human.

You’re amazing.