So I know Pride Month is almost over but I wanted to say a few things while it’s still going on. Forgive me if I ramble a bit!

Last year coming out publicly was terrifying yet liberating for me, and since then some lovely things have happened but also some true natures of folks came out.

I was, and still am, told that trans people arn’t real, that I’m not a woman and never will be, that I’m unhealthy and I need “serious help”.

There are often days that I have extreme anxiety wondering things like “do people see me how I want to be seen?”, “will people actually respect that I’m female?”, “what kind of hate will I get today?”

I’m constantly worrying about all of these things and so much more, but I’m much happier being out about than I ever was holding it all in.

I’m so happy and lucky to have Val with me, they’re such a source of encouragement and support. And of course some very caring friends!

I’m a pansexual transwoman who is finally feeling more comfortable day by day. To those who have and continue to support me, thank you so much! 💖

This may just be me, but I feel the only person who should be able to correct someone on my pronouns is me.

If I find no ill-intent with how someone refers to me, then I find no real reason to correct them.

I don’t like the idea of people correcting or getting angry about something on my behalf.  That’s up to me to decide, not anyone else.  And by doing things like that it often feels like those people are “speaking for me”, which I don’t approve of.

I have to do this all the time, and then I end up apologizing to the person who was corrected, as they meant nothing negative when speaking that way.  Often the person correcting pronouns will be aggressive and immediately take offense -for me-.  Please, do NOT take offense for me.  It is up to me to decide if I am offended by the way someone addresses me or not.  And it ends up making me look and feel horrible.

Nine times out of ten, when someone uses “incorrect pronouns” they mean no harm and often feel bad about.  Not to mention, almost everyone who tends to correct pronouns for me does not know me personally, but their actions reflect negatively on me.  Which isn’t fair to anyone involved.

This is NEW to many people and allowing ME to go at my own speed and deal with things as I see fit helps with the transition BETTER.

I do appreciate how considerate and kind most people are being towards me, but remember to be kind towards EVERYONE as well.  Assuming the worst of someone or a situation will only hurt everyone involved.

So, in conclusion, the only ones who should be able to correct anyone about how I should be addressed are myself or my partner Val.


FAHC AU where it focuses on the girls and it’s pre-relationship Lindsay Tuggey, Kat Teebagy, and Meg Turney and they start a Grease-inspired crew called the T-Birds

They steal cars and pimp them with Mica (and maybe Laurie?)

They take said cars to illegal street races where Cati is the ref/announcer

Griffon races the cars

Kdin is the girl who waves the flag between the cars at the start/waves it when they finish

Then the FAHC boys show up and bet/challenge them and end up losing all their cars to the girls

It's #THICKSETTHURSDAY! (Feb 2nd 2017)

It’s time to make some cute art or take some cute selfies to promote body positivity!

-What Is #ThicksetThursday?-

To help promote body positivity, every Thursday we will be spreading the hashtag #ThicksetThursday on Twitter and Tumblr with Art and Selfies!

#ThicksetThursday will be to showcase positive ART and selfies of chubby body types of ALL kinds and sizes!

If you’re an artist and want to participate, all you have to do is draw your favorite characters, celebrities, friends, etc who don’t conform to the “typical” definition of beauty.

Not an artist but proud of your body? Feel free to take a selfie and tag it as well!

This is also not just locked to one gender, art and selfies of and from ALL genders are welcome and encouraged!

Q. “Can I draw an OC?”
A. OCs are allowed!

Q. “Is this just for women?”
A. ALL Genders are welcome! Men, women, trans, agender, everyone!

Q. “Who I want to draw isn’t ‘human’, is that ok?”
A. Yes! Of course!

Q. “Can I Draw _______?”
A. The answer is YES, so long as it has POSITIVE feelings and thoughts!

Q. “What is #ThickThursday all about?”
A. Body positivity and positive thoughts/energy! There’s a lot of negativity in the world, and this is a small way that we can all put out some much needed good feelings!

If you have more questions, PLEASE feel free to ask them, and I will answer!