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Going back to school can be stressful enough with packing, getting books, making new friends, and figuring out your class schedule. Today I offer up helpful tips so that you can keep your mental health on track while moving away to college.
1. Get your new team together. Who do you see now? If that’s a nutritionist, therapist, and psychiatrist, make sure you have all of those people set up in your new city. Call your insurance and get a list or ask your current team for referrals. Also, set up your first appt for a few days before school starts!
2. Talk to your school ahead of time. They are there early setting up and preparing for the coming school year, so call and see what resources they have. Do they have free counseling on campus? What about IEP’s or their equivalent? Make sure that we ask for all of the help and resources we need and get that set up before school actually starts.
3. Keep in touch with your support system! If you always talk to your friend, grandma, sister, cousin, whomever. Make sure you are still making time to call or text with them. That way we still have their support when we need it most.
4. Bring all of your tools! Any distraction technique or coping tool that has helped you in the past, make sure you pack it and bring it with you! That way no matter what’s going on, you have plenty of resources available.
5. Lastly, get your medications set up! Get a full refill before you leave and set up your next one at a pharmacy near school. Maybe even see if they do mail order and set that up. Whatever you have to do to make sure that you can continue taking your medication without any issues. xoxo

Please share this video! You never know who may be moving away and could use these tips!

Here are my other back to school videos:
https://youtu.be/EHsG59dwfoQ
https://youtu.be/BZKxoAvzK-8

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Hi guys!!!! Here’s the Paleyfest in full. 

audio and video is a bit out of sync towards the middle bit, i’ll try to re-edit it after school ends at the end of the month cuz will be busy with papers and exams.

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The hardest part about dealing with toxic family members is that they are family and we feel we have to treat them differently, or put up with their behavior because we are related. Remember, family can just mean that they are blood related to us, and THAT’S IT! Giving yourself permission to only keep positive and supportive people in your life is the first step in managing those toxic family members.

Now let’s get into some hopefully helpful tips on keeping healthy boundaries with toxic family members!

1. Figuring out when you know your boundaries have been crossed. Usually our body gives us signals, like feeling anxious or wanting to avoid certain people. We may feel angry all of a sudden or even sad. Whatever it is, it’s usually our body’s way of telling us that this isn’t right or we don’t really like that person. Listen to it!

2. Pretending that their behavior is okay, is not okay! It only ends up hurting you. If we don’t tell them that speaking to us that way isn’t acceptable, they may not know. That’s why communication is so important in setting up and maintaining healthy boundaries.  

3. Give yourself permission to not have a relationship with them. I know I talked about this a bit at the beginning, but it’s an important point. Permission is at times all that we need, but we can struggle to give it to ourselves. I think this is what should be worked on in therapy most :)

4. Toxic people are toxic. It doesn’t matter if we happen to be related to them. When it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. The only way that a toxic relationship can become healthy is if both parties are willing to work through it and better manage the way they interact with each other. If one or both don’t want to, it’s not going to get better.

5. Passive aggressive behavior is what they thrive in. Not communicating things to you, and instead saying it behind your back, or any other time when they do something hurtful instead of expressing what’s going on, it’s all passive aggressive behavior. And it’s NOT OKAY! Communicating directly to them and calling them out on it will stop the behavior. They may not respond well to it, but then again, they aren’t really being nice to you, and that’s not okay.

I hope this is helpful as we go into this holiday season. We all deserve to be respected and enjoy our holiday, and I hope these tips help you do just that. Please share! You never know who may need this information. xoxo

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Today I define what a counselor, licensed professional counselor, therapist, social worker, psychologist, and psychiatrist are.
When you are struggling with depression, anxiety, an eating disorder, or other various mental health issues; it can be hard to know who to get help from. I talk about their level of schooling and what they are able to do in practice, and how it will feel different to someone going to see them for help. As you will hear, most of these mental health professionals do very similar things, and to you (the client) it won’t feel much different.

Licensed Professional Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, Social Workers, and Psychologist pretty much do the same thing. They will see you in their office for 50 minutes, listen to you and offer some helpful tools and techniques. The most important thing to remember when picking a mental health professional is that you like them, feel they hear you and understand you, and you know you are working together to get better. That’s it! It doesn’t really matter how much schooling they had or how long they have been practicing, you just need to like them.

I also think it’s important to know what their specialties are so that you know you are getting the help you need most. I hear from many of you that feeling like you aren’t getting any better or being given helpful tools can be really frustrating! Finding someone who specializes in what you are struggling with can help lessen the likelihood of that happening.

I hope you found this helpful! I know finding the right professional can be scary, difficult, and often confusing. I hope this video helped clear up any confusion around who can do what and who we can look to for help. Please share! You never know who may be wanting to reach out for help and doesn’t know where to even start. xox

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Transference is when someone unconsciously transfers old desires, expectations, and feelings onto someone else. This most commonly occurs in therapy, but it can happen in any relationship. They think that it happens in therapy most because the relationship we have with our therapist is so different, and a place where we are supposed to be open to all that we are feeling, needing, etc.

Now countertransference is another component of this because if your therapist responds poorly and lashes out as a result of the transference, then that would be countertransference. They are reacting to the transference that’s happening. This usually isn’t a good thing and it can mean that the therapist needs to do some of their own work in therapy so that they can remain calm and helpful instead of reacting to the possible negative situation happening in the room.

Transference can also be romantic or loving in nature. We can be seeking this out in our lives and maybe have had a tough time with it, and therefore we are trying to figure that out in therapy. That’s why we can get a crush on our therapist or find ourselves wanting to see them more and more often.

In order to move past this and stop it from happening, we need to talk about it with our therapist. I know you just cringed and are wanting to shut off this video, but trust me! This is so common, and it’s actually really helpful. What it really tells us is what else we need to work on in therapy and it gives a better idea of what past relationships we should spend some time processing and working on. This will inevitably stop us from transferring things on to others in our life because we have processed through those tough relationships.

Another trick is to look into all the ways that your therapist is different from that other person. If it’s your mother or father, how is your therapist different from them? Last, know that if transference is getting in the way of you being able to participate in therapy, you can ask for a referral.

I hope this was helpful and reminds you that transference is okay and part of the process in therapy. Please share! You never know who this could help! xox

5 self care tips by Kati Morton!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiu021hKLSE&feature=share
1. See your professionals!
2. Exercise!
3. Lean to say “NO” more often!
4. Get enough sleep! (sleep hygiene is so important!)
5. Take your medication!

Fun fact!:I have a tag on my blog for self care related content! so check that out if you’re interested!

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