katie and her boyfriend

beginner’s guide to horror movies

Okay, so you’ve seen a few scary movies and enjoyed them, and now you’re looking to expand your horror prowess. Maybe you’ve been reading/listening to a lot of creepypasta, and you feel like you’re ready to take the plunge. Or maybe you just have a feeling that you’d like horror, but have no idea where to start. 

I’ve been a huge fan of all things creepy and scary for years. I was just reading an article called, “Horror Gems You Haven’t Seen Yet” and realized that I actually had seen almost every film on the list, so I guess that makes me an expert. So, my new baby horror fans, allow me to introduce you to the genre.


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Tyler Seguin #2

so this little imagine just kinda came to me, sorry i’ve been sort of shit with posting lately and i can’t find any inspiration but i hope you all liked this even though the end was horrible :)))

Word Count: 2,253

Originally posted by paulina58

It was the first official day of the teams off-season. Yet, here most of them were in Jamie’s backyard drinking some beers and splashing in the pool. Honestly you were glad Jamie and his wife, Katie, decided to have everyone over. It meant you actually got a evening off to sit and relax while slipping a martini and smiling as Katie rubbed her growing belly. 

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Her First Official Date.

So wanted to give everyone and update. First off I haven’t spoken to my kid’s father since he left Monday night. I am leaving all future contact to my Lawyer. Secondly i would like to thank everyone for their support, and since many of you have asked i will say my daughter is doing well and actually had her first official date last night.

Saturday we started off the day with our normal breakfast and chores. I worked out with my son and i teased him and myself. Soon it was us grinding against each other. We moved into his room and soon he was sliding deep into me. I love how hard and deep her goes especially early in the morning. We both came, me more then once, and as we cuddled in the afterglow of our sex we talked about things at the house. I asked him his feelings about my choice to divorce his dad and everything that happened. He told me he felt it was the right choice and that i needed to be happy. The subject of him dating came up and he told me that he wasn’t going to be looking for a steady girlfriend. When i asked why he told me he wanted to focus more on his school and college prep his senior year. He said he’d still go out with his friends and maybe date a little but he wasn’t going to be looking for a girlfriend. I was both impressed and a little relived knowing that but also knew he would still be with me and Katie. Soon after that we showered, unfortunately he used the shower downstairs while I used mine. Around lunch Katie came over with her overnight bag, and we began talking with my daughter about her plans for the night.

My Daughter was going out with the boy she has had a crush on for the last year. I was nervous to let her go out but knew it was just me being a mom. She asked fir help to get ready and the three of us looked through her closet. Finally it was decided that she would wear a pale red sundress and a pair of strapy leather sandles. I excused myself while Katie helped her with her hair and makeup. Then Katie and i got dressed. We drove to the young mans house. Yes we were picking him up. I spoke breifly with his parents and let them know what we were planning. After that I drove the young couple over to the theater and let my daughter and her date out. He was quite the young gentlemen and opened her door as the went in to the movie house. Katie and I didn’t stay but headed across the lot to the mall where he shopped and killed the couple of hours until they were done. Katie and I did sneak into a secluded area of the mall to makeout and tease each othe, but we only edged each other close to cumming never crossing the line. I love how exciting it was teasing her in public and not being sure if anyone saw.

After the movie ended we were met by my son for dinner. We made small talk and discussed the kids plans for the summer. My daughter is planning on summer camp for three weeks at the end of the month. Her date also was going to be at a training camp for freshman football players most of the summer. We had more small talk and decided that it was time to head home. It was still early and i had the young man ask his parents if it was ok if he joined us at our house to relax in the pool ( or hot tub). They agreed and asked if we would drop him at home before 10 which was his curfew.

We returned home and while the kids changed into swimwear. I made some snacks. I also opend a bottle of wine for Katie and myself. My son and the young man finished first and they took the food outside and my sone started the hot tub as i went to change. Once i got to my room Katie stepped out in the string bikini we had bought together. I was immediately aroused. She told me that she had laid mine out too then nodded behind me. I turned to see my daughter was also wearing the bikini that she had worn over Memorial Day only without the shorts or the coverup. I was shocked and impressed at how bold my sweet little girl was. Katie whispered I’ll keep an eye on them. I changed and soon we were all relaxing and having fun. Katie, my son, my daughter and her date played in the pool while i watched. I was feeling amazingly happy watching my family enjoy the night. At one point Katie and my son were with me in the hot tub while my daughter and her date were alone in the pool. I thought i saw a couple kisses and when they joined us the were holding hand and my daughter was beaming.

Sadly time got away from us and my son volunteered to take my daughter’s date home. I watched as they said their goodbye and saw him kiss her goodnight before my son ushered him to the car and left. My daughter rejoined us in the hot tub and gave me a big hug thanking me for everything. We talked and she told me they were going to start dating. I smiled thinking about how 13 year olds are. Katie took the roll of older sibling and asked all the embarrassing questions and it was a great time. My son rejoined us and were relaxed being very happy.

I sent my daughter to bed around 11 and watched her go inside. Once she was gone i looked at my son and Katie. Then removed my suit. I was confident that my daughter was in her room texting both her girlfriends and her new Boyfriend. Soon Katie and my sone had done the same. We all three made out together. After a while Katie was sitti g on my son’s lap riding him while i was making out with her. I decided we need to adjourn to my room and we went in the house. We spent the night pleasing each other and falling asleep in each others arms. My son excused himself in the early hours of the morning as was custom. I got up with him and made extra sure he left my room completely satisfied.

After he left i got back in bed with Katie. She stirred and we kissed and cuddled. We talked a bit. I asked Katie what she thought of our life and she agreed that she never expected things to turn out this way. After a lengthy talk, It was decided that when her lease ends in November. she is going to move in with me and my kids. I have never been more nervous or excited. We haven’t told my son or daughter yet, but i know they will both be happy.

Too many uncles - Jordie Benn

Requested by anon: Love your last imagine. Can I have a Jordie Benn imagine where his wife goes into labor?

A/N: Hey! First of all, thank you. I’m glad you like my imagines. I hope you like this one as well. Thanks for requesting it.

Word Count: 1056

Warnings: the word ‘shit’

Originally posted by bennyandthestars

Your biggest fear has become true, you were going into labor and Jordie is on the road. Okay, that might be a little dramatic… you were indeed going into labor, but Jordie was on a charity trip with the team just an hour away from Dallas.

“Do we have everything you need?” Katie, Jamie’s girlfriend, asks you and you give her a quick nod.

Not having the guys around has made everything go a lot smoother, to be honest. Instead of freaking out when your water broke, you had called Katie really calmly and put everything you needed together while she drove to your place. Katie had got out of the car and called the hospital to warn them while you got in, ready to go.

“I probably should call Jordie, but I kind of want to wait until we are there, so he doesn’t freak out too much” you tell her and she agrees, starting to drive to the hospital.

Your pregnancy has been incredibly smooth; you didn’t have a single problem. Jordie, on the other side, has been a mess during the nine months. You knew that he was scared to be a father, you were scared too, and he has worried about pretty much every single thing that could go wrong. At first they were smaller things, like you not carrying any weight or banning anything with alcohol inside the house, but the last trimester of your pregnancy has been absolutely crazy with him not wanting to leave you, even for games, and controlling absolutely everything you did.

“Are you excited?” Katie asks and you smile.

“Yeah, I can’t wait to hold my little bean” you say and your heart flutters with anticipation.

Jordie and you decided to not know the sex of the baby until he or she was born, so you have been calling the baby ‘little bean’.

 

“And” you add “I can’t wait have Jordie off my back and stop having cravings”

“You have had the weirdest cravings ever” she laughs and you join her.

“Celery with peanut butter and anchovies is absolutely delicious” you defend yourself and Katie makes gagging noises, both of you cracking up.

And then you feel it, the worst pain you have ever felt in your life. You let out a sound in between a sigh and a scream and Katie looks at you, and moves her hand from the wheel to hold your own.

“Hey, (y/n). It’s ok. You are having a contraction” her voice is calmed “just keep breathing and think about how soon you are gonna have that baby in your arms”

The pain goes away and you look at the clock on the dash.

“It’s 1:35 pm, let’s time up contractions” you say and she nods.

By the time you get to the hospital you have had just another contraction. They were waiting for you, so your room was ready and the paperwork filled before you know it.

“Let’s get you in the gown and then we’ll call Jordie” Katie says and you shake your head.

“Katie, you are gonna kill me, but can you call him and tell him?” you ask, pulling your best puppy eyes “he is going to be mad because we haven’t called him sooner and I don’t want to have a fight hours before our kid is born”

She nods, helping you into the gown and leaving the room to make the call in the exact moment the doctor walks in and checks you, assuring you that you were dilated already and that it shouldn’t be long.

Katie hears the doctor and looks for Jordie’s number before pressing the call button and waiting.

“Hey Katie, what’up?” Jordie answers the phone and she bits her lower lip.

“Hey Jordie. I’ve called to tell you that I’m in the hospital with (y/n)” he doesn’t let her finish.

“Is she ok? What happened? Is the baby ok? Did she fall?”

“No, no, Jordie. She is going into labor. She is having the baby today” and he goes mute “Jordie? Are you ok?”

No one answers and Katie starts to worry when she hears noises on the other side of the line.

“Katie? What’s wrong?” it’s Jamie’s voice.

“(y/n) is giving birth today. Her water broke and she called me. We are in the hospital and it seems like it is gonna be rather soon” She informs him.

“Shit…ok. We are in the bus right now” Jamie says and Katie hears everyone wondering what it’s going on.

“Alright, I’ll see you soon” and they hang up.

Katie walks in the room and catches you sending texts to your family and friends.

“He is coming” she informs you and you smile.

“My parents are getting in a plane” you say.

“This is so exciting, (y/n)”

You spend the next hour talking with Katie, your contractions becoming very frequent and the doctor tells you that it could be any minute now. You start to become a little anxious; you didn’t want to bring your kid to the world without Jordie by your side.

“Hold on a little bit more, daddy is going to be here soon” you say, rubbing your belly.

Your contractions are happening minutes from each other when you hear the door of your room open and Jordie walks in.

“I’m here, baby” he runs to your side, ready to be with you during childbirth.


 

You are holding your baby girl in your arms, your head on Jordie’ shoulder when there is a knock on the door and Jamie’s head pops in.

“Can we come in?”

Jordie and you look at each other and nod, so Jamie walks in and behind him the whole Stars roster, Coaches and Katie.

“Let me meet my…” Jamie doubts and you laugh.

“Niece. You have a niece”

“Guys, let me introduce you to Jacqueline Louise Benn” Jordie grabs her from your arms and walks towards the guys, so everyone can get a look at her.

“Hello, baby girl” Tyler coos and everyone laugh “you are going to be a spoiled princess. Look at how many uncles you have”

“God, I’m sorry for her boyfriend” Katie says and Jordie’s head snaps up.

“No boyfriends until she is 40” and you shake your head, feeling happier than you have ever felt.

[A fifteen year old Katie is sitting on the steps of the Demeter cabin, cutting the tops off of strawberries before putting them in a bowl. Travis is pretending to help and stealing every third strawberry for himself. Billie Ng, having been at camp for all of two days, watches in confusion]

Billie(Slowly): So… are you her boyfriend?

[Katie and Travis both pause before turning to look at each other. Travis grins before theatrically throwing an arm around her]

Travis(Melodramatically): No, I’m her fiance!

Katie(Deadpan): We’ve been promised to each other since birth.

Travis(Fake whispering in Billie’s direction): Our wedding isn’t until March!

No Trade Backs - Josh Pieters

Request: Hiii can you please do an imagine where reader is dating josh and he hears her talking about how she doesn’t deserve him and he gets mad or something and it ends with fluff??

Requests are OPEN!

A/N: I hope you like it! :)

Masterlist

Easter weekend was always your favourite time of the year. Your family gathering to spend time together instead of receiving gifts was something you appreciated more than anything. Living in London was great but most of your family lived elsewhere so getting to see them made you incredibly happy. However, this year was different. You were bringing your boyfriend, Josh, with you. You and Josh started dating a year ago and although he’s met your parents and siblings, he had yet to meet your extended family. You insisted he didn’t have to come along but he did anyway. It wasn’t that you were embarrassed, you loved the kid to death but you didn’t want him to have to go through the interview stage all over again.

“(y/n) dear, can you grab an extra plate? Katy brought Ben.” You laughed as your mom ran around the kitchen, trying to get everything ready for everyone.

“Way to go, Katy, you put her even more on edge.” You said, jokingly, causing your sister to roll her eyes in response.

After the meal, everyone gathered in the living room and entered into the food coma you had been looking forward to for weeks. Katy, however, enjoyed spending time outside so you thought you’d join her.

“How’s it going?” You asked, sitting down next to her on the porch swing.

“Really good.” Katy had been having trouble with her boyfriend, Ben, which is why no one thought he’d be at dinner today. “We’re really working on things.” You smiled as you didn’t know what to say back. You were unsure of their relationship but he made her happy so you kept quiet. “What about you and Josh?”

“We’re good.” You replied, smiling as you watched passing cars on the street. “It kind of freaks me out.”

“What?”

“Well, he’s just so sweet to me. We’ve never fought; he’s just so understanding and supportive of everything and he puts in a crazy amount of effort with me…it just…sometimes makes me feel like I don’t deserve him, you know? Like, there could be someone out there who could treat him a thousand times better than I do…I dunno…he’s just…he’s too good for me.”

“Hey, we’re watching home movies.” Derek, your brother said, popping his head outside. “We’re on the one where Dad runs Katy over with his toboggan.” 

Later that night, You and Josh returned back to his apartment, deciding to watch a movie to relax. Just as Dear John was getting good, Josh paused the TV.

“Did you really mean what you said?” You propped yourself up and turned to look at him in confusion. “To your sister. I heard you outside…Do you really think you don’t deserve me?”

You smiled awkwardly in embarrassment since you didn’t exactly want Josh to know you felt this way. “I just feel like…I don’t treat you as well as you treat me. The things I do for you could be better or bigger or with more thought, you know? You’re so incredibly amazing to me and to you…I’m mediocre.”

“Babe, you’re not.” Josh retaliated, taking your hands in his. “The little things you do make me so happy and thankful that I have someone like you in my life. You make sure I’m on time, you cook me dinner, you make me feel better about myself, you’re the most supportive person I know and if it helps, you’re pretty hot too. You make me a better person and I wouldn’t trade that for anything” 

You wrapped your arms around Josh’s neck and pulled him towards you. “I love you.” You whispered just before connecting your lips with his.

Pidgance Cat Cafe AU

blame @gladelockwood for planting this little seed in my braid.
In this AU the cat’s are all adoptable and taken from kill shelters meaning they are given second chances, some have injuries, but the staff takes care of them very well and they also have experts come in when needed for the babs. Also on the summer basketball practice, that’s something my school used to do so I added it in for memories sake from when my brother had to go and do then came home like dead af from heat because we live in the kinda south.

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Well, You Found Me

Prompt: Hi! Could you please write something angsty for Matt Holt? The lack of imagines for him makes my heart hurt. Maybe when they meet again? (Also, maybe she was in the garrison too and that’s how she’s in space, bc she was with Pidge that night in the garrison’s roof and now she fights alongside the paladins/allura/coran) Ugh I’m a sucker for angst honestly.. Thank you lots! By anon

A/N: This isn’t super angsty? Sorry, about that lol

Y/N sometimes couldn’t believe she was in space. So much had happened since they left Earth that it was hard to grasp that it was really happening.

Not that she regretted it. There was no place she would rather be than with Team Voltron. Well, maybe there was one place.

Before the Kerberos mission, she and Matt had been close. Well, closer than close. They had been dating. Shiro liked to tease them by calling them “lovebirds” and “garrison sweethearts”, but it only warmed Y/N’s heart to think about how much she loved her boyfriend. She had tried not to think about him being gone for so long. If only she had known what was to come.

She had been hanging out with Katie when they got the news. With Matt gone, the two girls had become close. Y/N spent many nights over at the Holt’s house talking and watching movies. She was there the night that they got the dreaded news. It had felt like all the color had left the house.

She didn’t come over as much after that. Not because she didn’t care, but because she couldn’t go to the house where so many happy memories had been made. She couldn’t see his pictures on the walls and mantel. She couldn’t look into Katie’s face without seeing the face of her dead boyfriend.

Not that Katie let her break away. Not too long after the funerals, “Pidge” showed up on her doorstep and passionately declared she didn’t believe Matt was dead. Y/N thought it was just a part of her grieving process and decided to help. Then the data began to pile up and she realized the girl wasn’t wrong.

That night when Shiro’s ship fell from the sky, Y/N felt her heart come alive again. If Shiro was alive, that meant Matt had to be out there, right? She wouldn’t stop searching until she found out.

Her search led her to where she was now. She and Pidge had gotten a lead about a planet on the edge of a secluded solar system. Not a lot of galra activity happening there, strangely enough.

They landed on the surface of the planet and watched as aliens with varying armor and uniforms gathered to greet them. They appeared to be kind, so Pidge and Y/N exited the lion and stepped forward to meet the crowd.

When they removed their helmets, a cry came from the back of the crowd.

“Y/N! Katie!” A figure made its way to the front of the group, the aliens stepping out of his way.

“Matt?” Pidge gasped as she moved forward. She threw herself into her brother’s arms and he spun her around. When he pulled back, they were both crying.

Y/N felt her chest tighten when he lifted his eyes to meet hers. He slowly removed himself from Pidge’s hug to move towards her.

He stopped right in front of her, hesitant but longing to draw nearer. Y/N closed the distance and kissed him with all the emotions she had been holding back. The love, the fear, the relief. Matt kissed her back with as much emotion.

Y/N pulled back first, resting her forehead against Matt’s. “It’s really you.” She sniffled.

“It’s really me.” He answered as he wiped away her tears. “What are you doing in space?”

“I was looking for you, you big dummy.” Y/N laughed as she pressed close to him and buried her face in his shoulder.

“Well, you found me.” He laughed. Y/N giggled as Matt held her to him.

“We’ve been here less than five minutes and they have already gotten all mushy.” Pidge grumbled to Green. The lion just purred happily. She loved happy endings.

So guys I didn’t want to say anything on this Supergirl mess but I never cared much for my health so bring the hate people just like you did when I said that I like Mon El

Jeremy Jordan was rude. He could have avoided that line in the song. But from saying that he was rude to say that he’s an homophobic asshole that enjoys making fun of lesbians and invalidate their sexuality… well let’s say that we could fit an ocean between these two things

Chris Wood laughed. How dare he? It’s not like he was laughing before the line, he started laughing for that line (*sarcasm alert*)

Melissa was wrong backing Jeremy up. But I can see why she did it cause she has to see her boyfriend get so much hate, that even Katie Cassidy probably got less… from a fandom that for my experience is even more toxic that Nolicity. ( and in both cases I speak from experience since I was the target of the hate of both fandoms)

Bottom line. Yes Jeremy and Melissa were rude. No Jeremy and Melissa aren’t homophobic assholes.

If you want to drop the show for a wrong comment said in a fun moment without too much thought… well you’re welcome to do so. Personally I’ll keep watching

freedom

so there’s for sure going to be a part two to this, i don’t know how any of this happened to be honest, i’m sure this wasn’t what the person who requested this was expecting but… it kind of just happened. i’m sorry if you’re disappointed :/

request: can you do something along the lines of jock harry and cheerleader y/n? that would be awesome

warnings: abuse

It still felt like summer as we were moving back into our apartments. The sun beat down on us, scalding and unforgiving as we hauled our suitcases upstairs.

“Hey,” Katie grunted between stairs that we were hauling our television up, “Did you hear about the transfer from Britain?”

“It’s a big school, Katie.” I blew a piece of hair out of my face, almost to the top. “Why would I have heard of a transfer at a school of thousands?”

She frowned at me as we put the TV down, “Didn’t Jack tell you?”

I narrowed my eyes, “Didn’t Jack tell me what?”

“The transfer is his roommate. The transfer contacted him on facebook basically begging him for the extra room in his apartment. He’s joining the soccer team.”

“Why do you know this and I don’t?”

Katie raised her eyebrows, “How should I know why you and your boyfriend don’t communicate? It’s not my fault people tell me things.” I opened my mouth, but Katie held a hand up, “No, it was not Jack who told me, I don’t remember who told me.” She sighed when she saw the look on my face, “You’re gonna leave to go talk to Jack aren’t you?”

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anonymous asked:

Okay but why? Lmao. I know you don't like the fandom, but speaking on behalf of everyone, why? I have my reasons as well, I'm wondering yours

Well, since you asked.

1) Hate

They are reckless, careless, despicable little things. They truly believe - and I mean that with all certanty - that what they do will make them saviors somehow. So they bully people into oblivion, they hate because apparently is the ony thing they can do, until it’s enough to break someone. They don’t care about how you are, the life you have, what you have been through, they just care about shoving a misguided truth into you until you give in, until is enough to make you discredit yourself, until you find yourself questioning the kind of person you are. 

2) Mental Health

I’ve seen people doing jokes about it, sick jokes with the intent of hurting others. Using something as serious as mental health issues is disturbing and fucked up. I know people here that have depression, bipolarity, PTSD, anxiety, boderline disorder… And they don’t care. They don’t bother asking these people how they’re feeling, they just ignore everything in name of a fake social justice. 

3) Triggers

They claim to hate abuse, and yet don’t think twice before triggering people who have been in abusive relantionships. Seriously, I usually don’t throw this information - unless someone asks or pisses me off - but I’ve worked for six months with abuse survivers. Abuse comes in different shades, shapes and sizes. Is not something only heterosexual relantionships have, is not something women go through. If there’s a divorce, and a man is prevented from eeing his son by his ex-wife, this is abuse. It’s funny because while working there I’ve met 2 men that went there - even being a woman’s hospital - because things were getting out of hand. I loathe seeing being become something so trivial, a word people throw around as if it meant nothing.

4) Disrespect towards actors

The fact that this people proclaim themselves as feminists is laughable. I’ve seen so many auto proclaimed feminists slut shaming Mel for daring to be with Chris. Seriously, go read a book about feminism then we talk. 

Then, Katie says “Melissa will kill me if I sign this” and she suddenly becomes homophobic. Tumblr is amazing because something is so taken out of proportion by people that suddendly a wind becomes a tornado in here. Melissa is well aware of the bestiality of this fandom, I assure you she doesn’t want what happened with Lana Parilla happening with Katie. If anyone followed OUAT, they’ll know what I’m talking about. 

And, her boyfriend, that one that has done nothing wrong gets hate beause he supports his character. Then, when Melissa does it “it’s okay because it’s her job”, how come is not okay for him? My answer: It’s because it’s a him. We see this on the show, we see this off the show. Feminism is about equal rights, is about being able to go out wearing the clothes you want to, is about to be paid the same amount as men, is about being heard and not being called crazy, is about being respected. What I saw some people doing is misandry, and there’s a difference. Feminism is not about throwing stones at others, or creating even more impediments to women, wether is about their sexual or love life. 

Chris fights hard to break stigma around mental health, he lost someone dear to him for it. He’s an amazing, kind, compassionate guy. He’s humble, and sweet enough to give time to people that hate him out of spite. He’s so passionate about what he does, and he is talented, and it’s clear that Melissa cares for him, and he cares for him.

Say what you will: that he’s an abuse apologist, that he’s ungly (really?), that he can´t act (again, really?). It shows me that - as a future psychologist - we pain the world as we wish. It doens’t matter what we say or do, people project and introject what’s easier for them. Melanie Klein can explain…

The Friendzone

You know that little space between “girlfriend” and “girl friend?” That’s the Friendzone. As potentially depressing as it is to say, I consider myself to be an expert on the art friendzoning–for it is after all an art form. Sometimes I friedzone, and I don’t even know it’s happening–let alone the poor guy. (That’s how good I am.)

The Friendzone is the place where we corral the men we don’t completely want to date, but we still want them in our lives. As I mentioned in “Laws of Attraction,” each person we surround ourselves with sustains attractive qualities, even if said person isn’t necessarily attractive to our specific tastes. These are the people we friendzone. 

Mr. Collins is the perfect example of a man stuck in the Friendzone. As ridiculous as the man is, he found himself in a rather good situation at the service of Lady Catherine de Bourgh, though he didn’t have much else to recommend himself with. His manners were unpolished, thought not necessarily offensive (unless you’re Mr. Darcy and he skips social protocol by addressing you first–the impertinence!).

Poor Mary Bennet should have been his bride, possibly the only woman in the book who could’ve improved him in both manners and mind–rather than the toleration and coexistence that resulted from his union with Charlotte Lucas. 

Most guys obtain female friends in the hopes of the relationship evolving into something a little more…physical? Sure. Girls can have guy friends (though personally, I’ve never been able to successfully accomplish it).  But the difference is that once a guy is deemed a “friend,” it’s very difficult to move up into the ranks of “boyfriend.” 

Such a girl has deemed a guy suitable of being her personal confidant, but she doesn’t necessarily find him attractive enough to actually date. So instead, he is situated firmly in the Friendzone, where he must listen to all her problems (including boys problems), but alas, he reaps none of benefits of being the boyfriend. 

There are the occasional exceptions–the ”He was here all along!” stories. But I’ve never experienced such a moment myself. My friend Katie had that moment with her boyfriend Rob. Junior year of high school, they were set up by our other friend’s boyfriend, Rich. Everything started out sweet, all those adorably long text messages that you get in the beginning of a relationship–still shaving above the knee, if you know what I mean. But when she graduated a year early and moved away to college, she wanted to see what else was out there.

It took her a few months to realize what has been my daily struggle–good men are hard to find, so when you do find one, hold on to him. She bounced between frat party to frat party and kept finding the same sort of guy: well dressed in J. Crew, but with little interest in any serious intention of a relationship. (”I don’t want to be a traitor to my generation and all, but I just don’t get how guys dress today.” No words better encapsulate my sentiments about basic-looking frat boys.) After experiencing the horror of what it is to be single at a school dominated by the Greek system, Rob and Katie got back together and are still dating. (I suspect a serious proposal imminently.) 

Returning to the idea of a friendzoned guy not receiving the perks of a boyfriend–is this why guys get so pissed about being friendzoned? Because believe me, I can’t say I’ve ever received positive feedback from friendzoning. Sometimes I get frustrated–just because I’m nice to a guy and want to spend time talking with him doesn’t mean that I have to like him as more than a friend. Can’t a girl just be nice without having any ulterior motive?

This is where the stereotype arises that men and women can’t be friends–have you ever seen What If? with Daniel Radcliffe? (He plays a British med student–because having a British accent wouldn’t make him desirable enough, they had to make him a doctor, too.) Are all male friends secretly waiting in the shadows, hoping for a status upgrade to boyfriend?

I think something many men don’t know (or don’t consider) about the Friendzone is that if you’re there, she’s already taking you into consideration as “boyfriend material.” The difference is that you didn’t make the cut. This means she said “no” when she could’ve said “yes.” (I realize that’s harsh, but i’s the truth.) So as a compromise, she now gets to keep you with all your wit and whimsy, while continuing to look around for Mr. Right–or in my case, Mr. Darcy.

I often feel bad for men. In my personal experience, it’s much more common for a man to be the friendzonee, rather than the friendzoner. Men have to put up with a lot of crap from us fickle women. 

One of my best friends is firmly set on me marrying a kid we went to high school with. Granted, he’s adorable and very deserving of his senior award for “Nicest Guy,” but I’m not as certain she is that he’s my Mr. Darcy. I love to talk with him, and and he’s always available to listen to me, but I’m just not convinced that I feel “that way” about him. And if I’m not sure, then obviously I’m going to keep looking for something I’m sure of. 

I hope that I’m being clear that we women don’t friendzone for no reason. If you know that you’ve been friendzoned, it’s not because she doesn’t care. Once she knew it wouldn’t work or that there was no chemistry, she didn’t want to lead you on and hurt your feelings. 

It’s not intentionally bitchy–she’s just being honest. There is no ulterior motive for telling a guy “Hey, I’m just not that into you.” It’s saving both parties time and energy they could be spending with someone who could potentially be their Mr. Darcy or Elizabeth Bennet.

I started this post thinking I’d shed some light on friendzoning, and I hope I’ve done at least that. (Though, I don’t think I’ve quite gotten to the root of why it happens so often in my own relationships.) I have to believe that I friendzone for a reason. I’m not intentionally hurting anyone’s feelings, and in reality, I’m saving you precious time that you could be using to actually find a girl who loves all your little quirks that I just couldn’t get past.

Think about Lizzy and Mr. Collins. She rejected him, and that allowed him to move on to Charlotte–a woman who could accept him for what he was. A fundamental part of the friendzone is the unwavering resolve to not settle for something that is less than what we want.

At times, I’ll admit, it can be an option used too frequently–an eject button if a relationship moves too fast or we start to have doubts. I’m certainly guilty of overusing it myself. But the main takeaway is to ensure that both parties involved can find a happier ending, and isn’t that what we all want? Isn’t that why we date? 

The point of dating is not to just keep on dating; it’s to find love. We date so that after the twists and turns of life, the unreciprocated “I love you”’s, that weird guy who you went out with that one time who braided his beard, after all the no’s and uncertainty, we may all find a happiness that equates that of Miss Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy’s epic affair of the heart. 

ok katy ok bonnie ok darry do you want to know what? i love katy with all of my heart i love her hot model up town boyfriends i love her side eyeing the hot french canadian chick i love her making bonnie laugh (they haven’t even tickled yet). and i love really really really really really drunk darry rubbing his tits on everyone just take it about 80 percent down there katy’s poly she’s not gonna be monogamous no matter what you try to tell me.