I love Supergirl. I love Kara and Alex and Winn and James and J'onn and Maggie and Lena. I love the show and I loved what it stood for, but I cannot watch a show that romanticizes a strong female character with a bigoted, sexist, stupid character, that I’m supposed to find funny.
I’m not saying the writing is terrible because these are the same writers that wrote the wonderful season one, the Sanvers story and even Lena’s story has good background to it. But Mon-el’s horrendous character has ruined it for me.
As a teenage girl, I feel like seeing their relationship is telling young girls that it’s okay if a man repeatedly disrespects you. It’s okay if he lies to you. It is encouraging an unhealthy relationship.
You can’t have a relationship like the one Alex and Maggie have and also have a relationship like the one Kara and Mon-el have. It is almost contradictory. To have a relationship where both people respect each other and care for each other unlike Kara and Mon-el who seem to fight in every episode.
Also, a friendship like Kara and Lena’s or the relationship Kara and James had are 10x healthier than whatever Kara and Mon-el have going on. James and Lena both support Kara. Lena called Kara her hero. James said that Kara doesn’t need Supergirl to be the great person she is. Mon-el goes and calls her his kryptonite and says she makes him a better person, yet I don’t see him changing his behavior.
Mon-el is the worst character I have ever seen. Kai Parker was a sociopath and I still feel like he was a better person than Mon-el.
I find ridiculous that fans keep saying, that Kara being with Mon el makes her weak, or less of a feminist, since it's anything but that, because unlike James who took control of their somewhat romantic relationship, Kara took full control in her romantic relationship with Mon el.
See even though James was fully aware of Kara's crush on him (because it was obvious as hell to everyone with eye or good hearing) and he was fully aware of his growing feelings for her (yes not at the begging) but midway throughout the months/weeks he was with Lucy, despite his awareness of feelings for Kara, he still continued his relationship with Lucy while still at the same time continued to explore his feelings for Kara, he was CHEATING on Lucy.
cheating doesn't necessarily means kissing or having an actual affair with another person, by just knowing you have some romantic feelings for another person and continuing to explore it instead of distending yourself from that person (Kara) that makes you a cheater because continuing to spend more time with a person you have crush/feelings(while in a relationship with another person(Lucy)) will eventually lead to physical cheating.
Lucy moved to a new city just to be with James and he DOESN'T even appropriate what she did, DOESN'T even fully commit to the relationship like she was committing to it (yes because he has feelings for someone else, of course no one can control who they fall for) but what they can CONTOL is NOT hurting a decent person who they care about, (they were LIVING together for god sakes) even Win told him to just break things off with Lucy because it was NOT FAIR to Lucy to be strung along/lead on, yet despite that he still continued his relationship her, HURTING Kara and Lucy at the same time because he was leading Kara on as well.
It was just luck that this show is about feminism and supporting strong female characters because in any other show these two amazing strong women would have be turned against each other , they would have been at each other's throats over guy.
Kara was always like the shy nerd girl waiting on the jock (James) to reciprocate her feelings, she always acting awkward and nervous around him, lacking any confidence with him. just look at how their first kiss went down (before the mind control) she was nervous (in her own apartment, her home where she should feel safe and comfortable) so much so she had to reference/quote someone else (Barry's advice) just to get through it as she found it difficult to be honest to say what she's feeling with her own words, so she used someone's else words.
James always in charge when this relationship could become romantic, first he friend zoned Kara because he's in a relationship with Lucy while still giving her a bit of hope that there's something between them, second he wanted time and space from her (because of the red kryptonite thing), third he acted all jealous of Barry as if she's his or something and didn't like her clicking with another guy, and finally fourth when Kara "broke" things off with him (because she was going on a suicide mission to save the world) he again took charge to start things between them (by following the gift with a kiss, a gift of a picture where Kara finally saw how James sees her, a picture that made her a bit uncomfortable because she felt like he doesn't really see the REAL her, what he sees is the SHY, AWKWARD Kara who is squinting) without discussing/talking to her about her feelings or where they were at this point of their relationship, he just simply ASSUMED that they will just pick up from where/how they last left it, not really thinking about how they really left things, because how they left things between them was an almost something, how they left things before her mission was uncertainty especially on Kara's side.
so really all this bullshit about how being with Mon el makes her weak or less of a feminist check your facts because being with James did exactly that, it has made her feel uncomfortable, shy, awkward it was always on his terms while she just pained and waited for him to notice her or reciprocate his feelings for her while still helping him with his relationship and supporting it (which of course hurt her) she was treated like his back up, so when his relationship with Lucy ends he would already have someone else.
we got very lucky that neither of the women were mean/greedy, that despite this triangle, despite being both put in an awkward position by the same guy they rose up from that awkward place and appreciated each other as good people, as strong women and actually became friends because like I mentioned before in any other TV show they would have turned against each other INSTEAD of helping Kara in freeing Alex and J'onn J'onzz, Lucy would have just let them be taken to Cadmus just in spite, in any other TV show this would have taken a completely different direction and there would have been ship wars, and actually insulting and saying shit about one of these awesome women.
so please tell me again how Mon el made Kara "Weak" or less of a feminist?? because James is the one who made her weak and less of a feminist. Mon el is the one who made her more confidante in herself, who made her feel comfortabel in her own apartment, who let her take the lead/control of their relationship, something which I will discuss on my next post.
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