Whatever you choose, I’m sure you will continue to waver. But what’s wrong with that? Manly? Womanly? Are those random values that others made up really what you were striving toward? If things were so clear cut, then neither men, women, you, or me would be leading such painful lives. We’re all in the same boat, Jyubei. You’re not the only one who’s lost.
—  Gintoki/Ginko of Gintama