I want to take a few minutes to talk about someone named Nicole Arbour.
About two years ago, Nicole was dating the guitarist of my favourite band at the time - Marianas Trench. I was pretty involved in the fanbase and naturally, being pretty much solely made up of young teenage girls, the fans (including myself) started to be curious about this woman. This wasn’t as creepy as it sounds since she was semi “famous” already - by that I mean she had a couple hundred (thousand?) twitter followers and a few videos up on youtube. I believe she was popular at that point for being a cheerleader/model or something. So I and many other fans followed her on twitter and some of us would tweet her regularly to which she usually responded.
At this point, the fanbase generally loved her. She was pretty, active on social media, and pretty nice. During the time she was dating Matt (the guitarist) and gained an influx of popularity from his fans (as I’m sure she was aware) she started up a “campaign” that she called #GOTEAM. It was drawn from her experience in cheerleading and the idea was to spread positivity. She also wanted to encourage people to stop sitting around feeling sorry for themselves and improve their own lives. She started making youtube videos on “how to deal with bullies” and “how to love your body image.” Sounds great, right? So a lot of us got behind this and supported it online, and it genuinely seemed to be having a positive impact on some scale.
Here’s when everything started to go downhill. Nicole started to notice that a number of the young fans following her were struggling with issues like depression, anxiety, and self-harm because they would send her tweets about their struggles hoping for advice or just wanting to vent, I don’t know. But she started to adapt and spread the mentality that any problem you have can be fixed simply by being positive and working for it, which as we know just doesn’t make sense when you’re talking about mental illness. She then made a video titled “Why self harm is stupid.” This video essentially mocked people who dealt with self harm and BLAMED them for their problems along with people with eating disorders and people in abusive relationships. All with the mentality of ‘if it’s hurting you, just stop!” It didn’t help that she regularly used the slurs “b*tch” and “sl*t” but that’s a whole other issue. At this point I still believed she had good intent, but was just going about everything completely the wrong way. SO myself and others went to twitter to try and let her know that what she was saying was very offensive and she had no idea what she was talking about.
At first she would engage in conversation (still claiming she was right), but eventually Nicole started to block anyone on twitter that even mildly disagreed with her. This went on for months, with most of the fans turning against her because she was generally an ignorant piece of trash. Nicole eventually responded by claiming she was being attacked and bullied (excuse me?) and released a video explaining that this whole time she was orchestrating a social experiment to turn people against her so they would cyberbully her (what?). The whole thing was honestly so ridiculous and by this time 90% of the people who followed her because of Matt decided she was fake, rude, and ignorant and abandoned her for the most part. Sometime after this, Nicole and Matt broke up and I pretty much forgot about her. Oh yeah, and during this time she also released a really terrible song called “Bang Bang.”
And then here we are in 2015 where her name pops up on my Twitter feed - I don’t know the specifics of this argument because it involves people on YouTube that I didn’t know, but she was clearly causing problems and getting backlash from some prominent YouTubers which was funny to me since she had been the cause of so much grief two years ago and was apparently still going strong. Being curious, I looked her up and discovered that she was now dating a popular Youtube coincidentally also named Matt and had continued to make videos for the past 2 years such as once I noticed called “Dear SL*TS.” I didn’t watch it because I knew it would be terrible.
A few weeks later she pops up again, this time on my Facebook feed with a video titled “Dear Instagram Models.” I all but groaned but the video seemed to be getting a lot of attention so I decided to watch it. I couldn’t even get through half of the video. It was just horribly offensive and very typical of Nicole. Here is a criticism of her video by albinwonderland that I thought was very good.
And then AGAIN, today Nicole pops up on Facebook, this time with a video titled “Dear Fat People” and I just couldn’t ignore her anymore. I got through about a minute of the video before I had to stop. I can’t even put into words how harmful this video is - another thin, conventionally attractive rich white woman shitting on fat people and thinking she’s somehow revolutionary. I just couldn’t stomach it anymore. This woman is so unbelievably toxic and it sickens me that she actually has her own fanbase and a large enough platform to spew this shit and have it go viral. Over 80,000 YouTube subscribers and over 38,000 Twitter followers. I don’t even know what the point of this post was other than to spread the word NOT TO SUPPORT THIS WOMAN. Nicole Arbour is no longer preaching to a few of her boyfriend’s fans but to thousands and thousands of people and she is causing so much damage. I am so sad and angry that it has come to this. PLEASE DO NOT SUPPORT NICOLE ARBOUR.