“You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.“
~ Jon Kabat-Zinn
This is one of my very, very, VERY favourite quotes, not just because of the surfing reference, but because it’s applicable to every situation, every day, at every stage of your life. Emotions especially.
We will always have good days and bad days. Even when we’re a pro-surfer there’s going to be a few wipeouts. I myself have been feeling amazing and like I’m walking on water, and yet today what should not even have been a thing affected me way more than I would have liked it to and it left me feeling shit and questioning myself and many parts of my life. I had a vent and feel a little better now and know tomorrow will be fine, but it got to me and it’s so easy to spiral into being annoyed by that very fact.
So as usual, we’re in synch and your post perfectly pulls me up to remind me that no no no, we’re human, we have ups and downs and being affected by them is a NORMAL part of life.
As is wanting to be in a relationship. We’re wired for connection - all forms of it. Love is a vital need of all human beings… Sometimes more acutely than others, and in different ways. And we all deserve to experience that. Whether or not we feel we do. However it is definitely the case that there are times in our lives when we’re not ready or are less receptive to certain forms of love and connection… And it won’t always neatly align with what you feel or need… But that need will ultimately move you towards the point where you are ready. It’s difficult to see when immersed in it all, but feeling you actually WANT to be in a relationship is a huge step forwards. Even if you don’t feel ready or worthy. ANd it will continue to move you, as it raises the question - why don’t you feel you deserve the love that is your birthright and mirrors your gorgeous soul? What are the obstacles that remain obscuring your vision from seeing the tremendous worth you hold and the light shines so brightly? A light that one day will attract the right person to share your life in that way you long for.Be patient with yourself. Trust the universe. You cannot be 100% certain about anything that is clearly changing… And your post is evidence of the change happening in your life. Ride the waves. You will not drown alone.
I know that fear very, very well… It’s still hovering about somewhere… But I’ve ridden that dark water for many years, and now I’ve learned to duck dive those waves, and keep my eyes on the horizon… Bigger, brighter things are coming.
Love and light xxxx
Fark I love you more than my measly drunk words will ever be able to describe. You ALWAYS manage to settle my anxiety with your wisdom. Honestly, you just know exactly what to say. Thank you my soul sister. Always with you, sometimes riding the waves together, other times helping one another back up to the surface after being dunked…but no matter what, i’m always out there in the water with you my darling, that is of course until we get too wrinkly we both decide to go back to land for coffee <3 Love you! <3