One thing that fucked me up when trying to figure out my sexuality was the fact that you can experience attraction to different genders in different ways and nobody told me that.
So I’ll say it. If you experience attraction to different genders in different ways, that’s totally okay. Sexuality isn’t black or white, it’s grey and that’s okay. The terms “asexual” or “bisexual” or “gay” or anything else are just generalizations for us to use to categorize ourselves if we so choose!
You define your label. Words are there for us to utilize, they don’t define you.
apparently there’s a bulletin board on the tempest where your crew can leave messages for you and your shipmates but from what the people who got to play the game saw it was generally just used for teammates to complain about each other
‘Peebee, where the fuck is my scarf. I know you have it. It’s convenient that you were talking about how soft it looks yesterday at the bar and now SUDDENLY it’s gone. My sister made that for me so if it’s not back in my cabin by the time I’m back from recon I’m going to strangle you by the arm straps of your jacket.’ - V
‘Whoever told Jaal that I am some expert on human copulating behaviors better hope they never need any extensive medical care anytime soon. I just had to spend four hours of my valuable time explaining to a seven foot tall Angara how clitoral stimulation works. P.S; I know it was you Liam.’ -Dr. Lexi
‘Whoever keeps changing my name to ‘Kaitlyn’, ‘Susan’ or ‘Becky’ on my locker and the official mission statements is going to get shot directly out of the airlock.’ - Lt. Harper
‘While I know Peebee might get on everyones nerves once in a while, the next person to try to jettison her escape pod off the ship in the middle of the night is on toilet duty for a week. I’m sick of this. You’re adults, not middle schoolers.’ - Kallo
“I don’t want to ask for too much. I have already taken more than I can ever repay,” his voice was soft, his back turned to Harry as the last of the evening sun caught his hair.
“No, Potter.” Draco turned around, his hands clenched into white fists, his eyes, god, his eyes so grey and stormy Harry couldn’t look away. “No,” he whispered this time, “I don’t… I can’t ask for too much.” He let his hands uncurl, turning away from Harry again. “But, perhaps, just for tonight?”
Harry’s heart sped up. Yes, for tonight, and the night after that. Yes, for every night. If only Draco could see that this wasn’t taking too much. This wasn’t asking for too much. That this, this fragile thing whispered between them under the sheets, with the pale moonlight dancing on their skin, that this was giving, this was what they needed; that this was healing.
Harry walked over to the man he thought about in the quiet moments of the day; in the loud ones, too. Draco had – as he supposed he always had – consumed Harry’s every woken moment. He had also nestled himself into Harry’s dreams.
Harry put a gentle hand on his shoulder. “Anything for you,” he whispered before turning and making his way back upstairs.
It’s the simple reason as to why when it comes to my days of productivity there is (and pretty much always will be) two days that I skip before I continue on with my days of productivity again.
There’s actually a number of reasons why this approach benefits me, and I think it could potentially benefit all of you as well!
1. Avoiding burn out
Most of my life I had an issue where I was studying a minimum of 6 hours on Saturdays and Sundays, and this was while I was also working 10 hour days as a waitress. All it ended up doing for me was that by Monday morning I was struggling not to fall asleep in my 9 am class and ended up playing Tetris on my iPad instead of paying attention to the class.
That last step is definitely not recommended.
By mid-semester, I was exhausted, grouchy, highly unmotivated to do anything, falling behind in all my classes, ridiculously stressed and tiny things would set me into a fit of rage or leave me crying my eyes out. Basically, not a good look. Also, definitely causes your mental health to deteriorate.
Taking at least one day a week off study to relax can definitely help you with this.
2. It creates a goal for yourself to finish the tasks, and you get a reward too!
Basically, it acts as a bit of a mini reward!
If you finish all of the things you need to do by Friday, you get to have the whole weekend off to spend time with friends and family, or just do things that you enjoy! If you aren’t finished, you can also take Saturday to catch up on work but at least you still get the time off on Sunday.
Up until now, I have barely needed to use the catch-up Saturday. The only times where this is something that I need to do is really when I have a couple of assignments due at once, but even this can usually sort of be planned out so that you can do them in advance. Trust me, it’s a whole lot less stressful if you submit it a few days early and can check and edit your originality, then praying that it’s alright when you submit it one minute before the deadline.
Now that we’ve covered the why let’s go onto the how:
1. Get organised
This is what I’m going to emphasise the most. I generally just use to-do lists in my bullet journal, under the headings of different days.
This is organised by looking at the required readings for the week, any assignments due in the coming weeks and revision for different topics that have already been covered (which means you’re more prepared when it comes to exam time).
Now split all of it up. You have a class with readings on Friday? Then you’re going to want it done by Friday? That class has 70 pages of readings split into 6 sections? Then try to do two of those sections every day until you’re done with those readings.
2. Don’t worry about being too pedantic
This one seems contradictory.
Basically, I don’t worry too much if I haven’t accomplished all of the tasks in the day, as long as I have started all of them. Some days I have more motivation and also brain capacity to get through things quickly and understand the content I’m looking at.
Using this system, I’m usually still ahead by the end of the week! Like last week, I’d accomplished everything on that week’s to-do list, and also some of the stuff that was carried over to the next week! Just keep doing a little bit every day and you will get there.
But do remember that you do have to put a certain amount of time and energy in otherwise you will fall behind. Currently, Monday and Tuesdays I work 9-5, get home around 6 and do a solid 4 hours of study a night. Same goes for the days I have classes, including study during breaks where I have the time.
3. Have a plan for how to relax
This is another one that probably seems odd but was touched on earlier.
It can be super hard to switch from a really intensely studying mode to a mode in which you are allowing yourself to relax and not to worry about things. I have the awesome benefit of an amazing boyfriend who balances me out, and just being with him helps me destress. He also makes me feel like a weekend cuddled up on a sofa, not moving except to get up to eat and binge watching a weird tv show is 100% alright and completely worth it.
If you don’t have any friends who can help you to snap out of the studying mindset when you’re doing nothing, then you need to plan a way to achieve that!
Plan to spend some time doing something with your family. Plan to go out to the movies with friends if they’re free. Go do something that you and someone you know enjoy. Just make sure that you write that plan down in your bullet journal, and you go out and make the most of it.
I’m thinking of working on a fantasy novel about mermaids. The mermaids are various ethnicities and will be from regions like the Caribbean Sea and the Pacific Ocean. I am from the Caribbean and feel like I understand the nuances of Caribbean culture, but I don’t think I’ll have the same understanding of other cultures. I have two questions:
1) Is it problematic to include Polynesian mythology from across many Pacific Islands? Or would it be more respectful to include mythology from one culture instead?
2) Is using Polynesian mythology problematic in general, and if so would including something like folklore be more respectful?
I would like to include aspects of various cultures, but if some things are problematic I might decide to include an ethnically diverse cast and either come up with my own ideas for the mermaids’ culture or have the mermaids culture be more influenced by nature/the environment.
I’d appreciate any opinions on this. Thank you for your help!
Note- I am not Polynesian and have a tendency to miss a few things about the various Polynesian cultures, because I only know it from anthropology. So grain of salt!
I’d say it 100% depends on how well you can represent each culture. There’s nothing inherently wrong with it, but opinions are split on tokenism and homogenization. If you feel you could accurately represent multiple cultures without going “look at how diverse my world is and how educated I am!”, then go for it. Even if you just end up showing one, you can hint at others within the plot of the novel. I’d personally love to see more knowledge about the diversity within Indigenous groups in published works.
I tend to take issue with the word “mythology” for Indigenous beliefs, because mythology tends to apply to “dead or exotic” things in the West. Indigenous beliefs are religions that are still alive. But, different groups/people have different preferences, so that word could be completely fine.
But as for just generally using Polynesian beliefs? It completely depends if you have permission to use them. Some parts of Polynesian beliefs are closed (like… don’t go giving characters tattoos willy nilly. Those are very sacred things that have detailed processes to determine what they are and who gets them), but nothing’s stopping you from exploring.
When in doubt, ask. If you get a yes, then go for it. If you get a “modify,” modify it according to their instructions. If you get a no, then rework.
Ok but replace the nerf gun with a real gun and this week’s AHWU more or less features my image of FAHC Steffie; chill and organised with occasional bouts of vicious retribution.
I feel like she spends most of her time rolling her eyes and cleaning up messes - finding a last minute replacement for bikes the Lad’s totalled a day before the heist, sourcing new suppliers every time the crew manages to kill off or mortally offend another one, identifying lists of contractors to look into for various one-off jobs, tactfully losing keys or bottles or specific addresses when one of her crew-mates is hellbent on making a fool of themselves. 90% of the time she does it all with minimal complaint; some snarky sarcasm, threats about one day leaving them high and dry, the occasional stubborn strike until someone owns up to their latest incident of assholery, but everyone’s patience has limits. She’s not a saint.
Steffie snapping is a rare event, happens maybe once a year if that, but there’s no missing it when she does. No one gets any warning, it’s more often a last straw kind of situation than a response to one big fuck up, and her rage is as brief as it is destructive. Once, after the countless shrugged off eh we’ll just get another one incident of the week Steffie took a gun, calmly made her way to the penthouse’s garage and introduced several new holes to some of the more expensive vehicles stored there. Another time she wheeled Geoff’s fully stocked alcohol cabinet onto the balcony and pushed it off, yet another had her snatching Ryan’s mask right out of his hand and hurling it into the lit fireplace, simultaneously melting the skull beyond recognition and forcing everyone to evacuate to avoid the fumes. For the shortest of times Steffie is loud, is angry and disappointed and thoroughly unimpressed, she is truely pissed off and it is terrifying.
As soon as she’s gotten her frustration out Steffie sighs and gets right back to work, as reliable as ever, but the outbursts never fail to leave the rest of the crew kind of shocky, torn between horror and awe. When they’re not the target the rest of Support is mostly entertained; take pains not to draw attention to themselves as they settle back and watch the fireworks unfold. On the other hand the main crew, who are in many unexpected ways absolute wimps, tend to slink away with their tails between their legs, wide-eyed and vowing to behave themselves while hissing angry complaints at whoever managed to knock Steffie over the edge this time.
honestly i just feel really unsafe when i see nonpsychotic/nonantisocial people rb anything that includes the word “psycho” (esp if it’s edgy aesthetic) bc more often than not if they meet an actual “ps*cho” they’re the first to yell bad person