I have a family member who is autistic. Soo....diagnose, especially self-diagnose is not a fucking accessory. Stop embarrassing yourselves. It is reprehensible to people who actually have to go through all of that.
I can’t figure out what this is supposed to mean because of the way you’ve worded some of it BUT
Firstly, you don’t have the right to weigh in or say what’s right or wrong on autism-based issues by autistic people for autistic people just because you have an autistic family member.
Unless you are autistic, are questioning whether you are, or have been specifically requested to voice your opinion, you have no right to.
Secondly, we’re not treating it as an accessory or something “cool and trendy”. We’re trying to enjoy ourselves and the good aspects about ourselves and our autism and our struggles.
We’re trying to have fun despite everyone against us and everyone treating autistics as a constant tragedy (notably in this case, you treating us like constant tragedies).
Thirdly, not everyone can afford a diagnosis.
Not everyone has a professional who can diagnose them in their city / state / country.
Not everyone has a family that will try to help them at all or help them get a diagnosis.
Not every professional is 100% correct all the time.
Some professionals refuse to diagnose people based on gender, race, etc.
Professionals don’t go through every moment of your life with you and don’t know you on a non-professional level.
Fourthly, yes, there are some people who diagnose themselves with everything under the sun without doing proper research, but that’s only a small amount of people compared to the many who have done the research and have asked professionally diagnosed people and do genuinely need help.
Fifth up, autism and its symptoms vary greatly person to person. A single person’s experiences aren’t what are the symptoms which every autistic has to have in order to be a “real autistic”.
Sixth, unless you are autistic, you aren’t technically “going through it”. You’re only going through having an autistic family member. Big difference.
I’m out of spoons after all of this so this will do for now, if anyone else wants to voice their thoughts, please do so.