Look on the bright side: your girlfriend is a hairy man, you're only a lesbian on a technicality, the two of you are really just a cishet couple pretending to be LGBT for victim points, but it must be so reassuring to your mother that this is all just a phase you're going to grow out of.
I love how you literally know nothing about my girlfriend, her identity, or what she looks like. or any of the other women I have dated. nor do you know about my mother. you look like an idiot.
based on your message, it’s pretty clear that you are not willing to change your analysis on trans women and their position within gender, but even if your politics on that were an accurate or ethical picture of things (they are not), this behavior would still be disgusting, and it would still be creepy as hell to somehow claim that trans women do not suffer oppression, or are not extremely vulnerable. not only that, but you are so obsessed with hating that vulnerable group that you are willing to dehumanize anyone who interacts with or has a relationship with them.
you pretend in your head like my entire life boils down to something you think you know about a current relationship. you forego thinking of me as a person who has had many experiences with attraction, relationships, and identity in my life. and there’s no use trying to contextualize the rest of my life or my gf’s life for you either, it isn’t worth it when you wouldn’t care.
you wouldn’t care if I had dated 26 cis woman. you wouldn’t care if every woman I dated up until now had been cis, or about any of the homophobic trauma I have been through recently or in the past. none of it matters to you because you are so obsessed with hating this vulnerable group of people that you have come to a conclusion about me from some source about who I am dating, and have ceased to see me as having any self determination or complexity because of it. you take free license to presume 96 things about my attraction and my past / future relationships, and you harass me about it. look at yourself. it’s sick that you hate a group of hypervisibly marginalized people that much, that you dehumanize not only them but any person who you think has ever had a human relationship with them.
once again though, you know nothing about her or myself. I hope you grow and become better and realize that many people suffer for many different complex reasons, many of them in ways that are not about you, that you will never go through. I also hope you learn not to harass strangers, is it worth a political statement to assume things about a teenager’s private relationship on the internet when you know jack shit?