Today I had one of the worst days I’ve had in a long time. I felt so lost and unsure of who I was and if God wanted me still, even after all the bad I’ve done. And then I came onto your blog and I was reminded of the beauty of grace, so unshakeable and so pure and I would just like to thank you for spreading pure intentions and a holy example of a Christ centered woman. Thank you.
Friend, I am so glad that my blog is a light. That’s all I aim it to be - for it to touch someone and to shine when all they know is darkness. God gives us grace upon grace. Nothing we can do can lessen His love for us. Thank you for these kind words and keep going, lovely. You’re so loved 💕
Hello, Night! What's up with you? Is everything going well for you? Just here to remind you that you're brilliant, bighearted, and beyond beautiful. Thank you for creating the art you have and for just being you. I hope you have an awesome day and the BEST of luck with whatever you decide to do today!
awww shy, this message gave me such a big dumb flustered grin - you are serious so sweet! i’m doing well - just been pouring all my time into the fangame so i’ve been pretty quiet, heh. i’ve been feeling like i’m going to just burst because i keep wanting to share what i’m working on, but i’ve been determined as heck to not do so because spoilers - and also i’m admittedly terrified of making too much hype over something that may or may not pan out well X)
i hope you have a lovely day you utter sweetheart! i’m rooting from you from my snowy corner of this strange world we live in. :D
I wasn’t going to post bc I’ve been so worried about Hurricane Irma but I just wanted to remind ppl that it’s hitting the Caribbean right now and I hope you guys will keep them in their thoughts and prayers. I was born in Texas but I grew up in the Virgin Islands as well and that’s where my family is from. They’re the ones who first taught me what pride looks like and to love my blackness. Embracing my heritage and culture is what ultimately made me the confident person I am today and I just hope and pray to God that they will make it out of this alright.
I’ve seen so many articles and posts on “how to date someone with BPD”, or worse “warning signs your partner has BPD” or “how to recover from dating someone with BPD”. But I could only find ONE article giving advice to people WITH BPD in relationships. So, I’ve made my own. Here are some tips on maintaining a good relationship when YOU have BPD:
Be open. I know you’ll be scared that if you’re too honest, you’ll scare the partner away. But you need to be truthful, or you’ll end up bottling things up, and then they explode.
Saying that, sometimes it’s okay not to express your fears. Small fears such as how your partner hasn’t texted back as fast as normal, don’t need to be expressed when they occur. Once you’ve calmed down, take the time to express it. Say “It makes me a bit sad when you don’t reply fast, but I understand that sometimes that happens” This way, your partners understands your fears, but also knows that you understand their limits too. Sometimes our fears are small and go away if we wait, so take a minute to thing logically (if you can).
It’s okay to show symptoms! Don’t be mad at yourself if you have a mood swing in front of your partner, it;s not your fault
Avoid expressing when you’re splitting. It’s hard not to let every things out when we’re mad and splitting, but try not to if you can. Try and suppress for a little time and express your feelings once you’ve settled. This way you can express them neutrally, without bias, and make sense when you do so.
Keep reminders of your partner’s care for you. Screen shot texts and keep them in a folder. When you feel unloved or the person isn’t responding, read through these to remind yourself that they love you
Ask your partner to give you small reminders. Ask “every now and again, can you remind me you love me?”. This isn’t a big ask- a small text once a day is not manipulative or needy, and your partner should be ahppy to as this makes you happy
Set guidelines. It’s okay to have certain things you get paranoid about. Tell your partner that there are some things you don’t like- e.g. “I don’t like it when you use full stops, it makes me think you’re angry, could you avoid doing so? I understand if you mess up though.” A relationship is about caring for each other and making each other comfortable, so your partner should be ahppy to make small changes to make you happy, just as you’ll make small changes to make them happy!
Be prepared to compensate. Sometimes we get paranoid about things that we just have to let happen. We get worried when our partner talks about other people, when they see other people. It’s okay to express this, but we have to learn that we can’t stop our partners doing this. This is hard, and something I struggle with myself, but it’s needed to make our partners feel comfortable. If your partner is out doing something you don’t like, distract yourself.
Find someone else, with BPD is best, to vent to. I have a close friend or 2 who I vent my worries to, and they have BPD as well. They understand and validate my fears, so that I don’t feel needy or mean. This way you can express these fears without controlling and hurting your partner. E.g. I say to my friends “My partner is seeing his ex today. I get that’s his right to but it’s pissing me off and I just wanted to tell someone.”
Remind yourself it’s okay to express yourself. Telling your partner you’re scared they’re going to leave you isn’t automatically abusive or manipulative, it’s true.Tell them you feel suicidal isn’t manipulative, you deserve support and love.
When splitting, learn to distance yourself. If you notice you’re splitting for an unfair reason, it’s okay to distance yourself. It’s okay to walk out a room, to stop replying for a minute to compose yourself. This way, you won’t lash out, and you can avoid getting more angry. Inform your partner you are splitting, so they can give you space.
Don’t let yourself be invalidated. If your parter says something invalidating, mean, or hurtful, tell them. We get scared that if we tell our partners they hurt us they may leave, but it’s important not to let our partners hurt us.
Tell your partner about your BPD- and if not that- about your symptoms. Tell them you split (you sometimes hate people for no reason), tell them you have abandonment fears (get scared they’ll leave you). This way your partner can adapt and help you. Give them tips to help you. e.g. “If I’m scared you’ll leave me, tell me you love me, and tell me why you love me”
Learn to say sorry. Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we get irrational and hurt our partners. this may not be our fault, but it is our responsibility. Learn to say “I’m sorry I lashed out”.
You deserve someone who’s willing to help you. You deserve someone who is willing to send you little messages, who is willing to validate and support you. Don’t settle for someone who gets mad at you for your mood swings or invalidates your feelings. We deserve a kind, loving, supporting relationship as much as anyone else.
Sleepover is an incredibly moving, beautifully shot and painfully told story of love. Hayley Kiyoko always DELIVERS such accurate LGBTQ+ representation and I’m so fucking grateful! When you’re in that situation of “I just want to be with them so bad” but the feeling isn’t mutual , you can feel so isolated and heartbroken. What I love about Hayley is she always makes sure to remind us that we are NOT ALONE. Our feelings matter, they aren’t predatory and we will find a way to make it through. THIS is the representation that I needed when I was figuring out my sexuality and I’m so glad the young queer kids of today have it too. Thank you for all you do Queen @hayleykiyoko
Just wanted to say and quick hello, and that I hope you have had an absolutely wonderful day filled with beauty and growth! You did an amazing job today with everything that you’ve done, so please take a moment to be proud of yourself!
“You’ll never truly understand a verse until something in your life makes you see it and appreciate it in a whole new way.”
I was feeling so down for the past week because of something. Today, i opened the Qur'an to a random page and subhanallah. Of all the surah’s in the Qur'an it could’ve opened to, and it opened to Surah Yusuf. And i found myself crying because of the ayaats i was reading.
Sometimes, things don’t go the way you wanted it to and it hurts. But you just have to find the strength to push the pain aside and remind yourself He is the best of Planners. And He will never leave you empty handed.
“I just want to remind you all today, in case no one’s told you.. This is so cheesy but I just want to remind you how beautiful and loved you are. I know that right now it may be a scary time to be yourself, but I just want to say that you’re so beautiful and your differences are so beautiful. I’m inspired by you and I support you, and in case no one has told you how beautiful you are, I love you.”
Random appreciation of Ethan because he’s come so far and it makes me emotional. I watched an older video recently, back when his channel was still fairly small, and he talked about what the channel meant to him and what he wanted to do with it, and just to continue to make people happy. He also said that he was afraid because he didn’t want us to forget about him. Now, just seeing how much the channel and community have grown since then is so incredible. And now he lives in LA and does YouTube full time and is sooo close to 300k! And he still constantly reminds us of how much the community means to him, and how much he loves us, and it’s too sweet. I just love seeing people living their dreams, and I’m so fucking proud of him.
I don’t know, I’m kind of emotional today and this community means the fucking world to me, I love it to bits, and I couldn’t forget him if I tried.
Hi Isak. I don’t want to gossip, but I just thought I should tell you, given the fact that you have a thing with him, and so you might want to know it, but I heard that Even has psychological problems/psychosis
Someone who went to Bakka* with him last year said he completely snapped and wrote tons of crazy things on the revue’s Facebook wall and stuff.
You know sana in the vilde clique? she’s psycho. today i heard that she put someone in a chokehold when she went to Urra.
I just wanted to let everyone know how important it is to be kind and accepting of others, because I just got a very big reminder of how much your words can impact others. Let’s just start by saying I’ve been debating whether or not to continue a hobby for quite some time. Today, I was working at this hobby when a lady made a nasty comment to me. That was all it took to shove me ever closer to the side of quitting. She only said a few words to me and she may have just severely altered my life by it. So, I just wanted to remind everyone to be kind. You don’t know what another person might have went through that day, or how your comment might affect them. Please spread positivity and kindness, because just the opposite of what I mentioned here could happen too. Your kindness could brighten someone’s day or even go as far as to save their life!
I haven’t shared a picture of my face in quite a while. Today I woke up & took this one. No masks, no smile pretending, no make up, a skin rash in my left cheek, my beautiful bushy eyebrows that I have chosen to accept and love exactly as they are, my unbrushed messy wild soft curly hair, my face… Just as it is. And the reason why I feel so deeply & truly to share this is simply because I want to remind every single one of us how beautiful we are. Exactly as we are. We are already perfect. A reminder that the beauty is not necessarily in the face… At all… But in the goodness & love of your heart. How kind you are to yourself & others & the earth. How you smile from your heart. How you share beauty with all those around you. How honest & clear you are. How strongly & softly you move through life. Are you lifting others up with each action & word or putting them down? It’s so easy to forget how beautiful we are when we live in a city or are constantly surrounded by the obsession about the physical looks… Fashion magazines, television, social media craziness… As if we don’t have anything else to offer beyond our body. May we all rise above all of this. May we see the beauty within. May we always be kind. May we always be strong. May we always be soft. May we be the difference we wish to see in the world. Even if that means to simply take a early morning selfie of yourself just as you are & happily sharing it with the world… Self love is the very first romance. 🌸💓🌸
Request: I’m so glad requests are open! Can I request a Jensen x reader where they have a big fight (you can choose the reason) and she storms out and later Jensen watches a car accident on the news and the car matches the readers and he thinks it’s hers but she walks in and it ends fluffy?
Summary: You come home after a long day to an impatient and affectionate Jaebum.
“Baby, I’m home!” You yell out into the dimly lit hallway of your apartment.
Surprisingly, you got home after Jaebum. His practices usually ran late and you’d be home long before he was but you had finals coming up so the library has kept you its unwilling prisoner.
As you put your keys away and take your shoes off you hear feet skid across the wooden floors and someone hugs you from behind. Jaebum wraps his arms around your waist tightly and buries his head into the bend where your shoulder and neck meet.
“Hi.” He mumbles against your skin, sighing into you. You stay in his embrace for a while, relishing in the feeling of being caught up in him.
You smile at his affection then turn in his arms to face him. Your arms instinctively find themselves around his neck and you kiss his cheek quickly.
“Your home late,” he whined, scrunching his nose and furrowing his eyebrows, as you pull away from his cheek. You laugh, surprised at the sudden cuteness that you never really see from your boyfriend.
Could you please do making out with jaehyun?
How it’d be to make out with jaehyun of nct? ;)
making out with jaehyun? c’:
make out with jaehyun please~~~ thank you !!
This was very requested and a lot of people in the surveys wanted it so I decided to prioritise Jae’s over everyone else’s lol! Because it was heavily requested, I tried to make it as long and as worthwhile the wait as possible :-) I hope you like it ;;;;-)
jaehyun looks so good this comeback everyone makes fun of his hair (the one he had at the start of the promotions) but i didn’t think it was too bad :-(
Today is Jaehyun day lol
First Kiss and now this lmaooo
As I said in his First Kiss thing, Jaehyun would have really nice lips
They’re soft and smooth and inviting and just perfect
You’re always complimenting him on them and at first he used to blush, but now he’s cocky af and always wants you to remind him or he’ll pout
He’d proabbly boast to the other guys about amazing he is at kissing and they’d probably say he really wasnt and he’d get upset or soemthing
And the next time you saw him, he’d be sad and say that they only thing that’d make him better is if you rove that he’s not bad at it
Basically guilt trips you into kissing him lol
I don’t think he’d be the type to do it a lot, but he wouldn’t hardly do it either
Both your daily routines would clash a lot so quick pecks were usually the only time you got any form of skinship or action lol in a day
Making out would be saved for the night
Will literally wake you up in the middle of the night to ask you to kiss him
You’d think it was bc he wanted sex
And yes sometimes he did
So you’d prepare yourself lol and sigh really loudly
Then he’ll surprise you by hovering over you and kissing you, with no sex involved
Jae would like making out with you lying down on your bed
You’d like to do a lot of things lying down tbh
Kissing, cuddling, eating, talking, watching TV, taking selfies, having sex
He’d like how his body would dwarf yours and how he could easily let his hands run across your body
The close proximity would be his favourite thing
You’d lie on your back and he’d basically lie on top of you
Not completely but half his body would be and he’d hold him sle fup with one of his shoulders
Do you get what I mean? Am I explaining this alright?
His other hand would run through your hair and hold your neck
You’d put an arm around his neck and place a hand on the bottom of his back
He’d be very breathy
Not necessarily loud, but he’d basically be panting
Also likes to suck your bottom lip
I hate that word, but he’d do it tbh
By the end, your bottom lip will be swollen and red and he’ll laugh at you bc you look funny
He’d change pace quite a lot, varying between slow and deep sloppy kisses, and faster and sweeter kisses
He’d tilt his face a lot too, because he can’t help himself and he just wants to make you feel good and vice versa
Making out usually happened in the dark bc its night duh
But JAehyun still really wanted to feel you and see if he was making you feel good, by sometimes moving down to kiss your neck
You’d moan lightly which would be an indicator to him that you’re enjoying himself
He’d smirk to himself and move back up to kiss your lips again
Usually prefers giving you them, around the bottom of your neck where your collar bones are
He won’t realise how many he’d give you or how dark and pink and sore they are until the next morning
Sometimes if you were feeling like it and weren’t too tired, you’d roll him over
So now you were the one lying partially on him
He’d find it hot af actually, and would groan into the kiss
If he got too excited, this might lead to sex but most of the time you’d be too caught up into the moment to do that
He’d move his hands down to your bumb, laughing as you squeal at the warmth
And you’d play with his hair softly
Whenever he’s the one dominating the kiss, its quite heated and deep and when you are, its more gently and teasing and light awe
There wouldn’t be much talking involved (like in comparison to Taeyong)
But at the end, he’ll be telling you how much he enjoyed it and how much he loves you
And he’ll cuddle you to help you get back to sleep because he knows your tired awe
Jaehyun :-( writing these make me more depressed than writing the first kiss series tbh lol