This is one of the journal pages I dedicated to Christmas 🎄
I just wrote down one of my favorite Christmas song lyrics on black paper, decorated it and stuck it on my journal
True Love by Ariana Grande ♡
For asexual awareness week, I want to introduce a challenge! From time to time, I’ll see posts from asexual and aromantic people lamenting that most of the music available to them is based on sexual and/or romantic experiences.
While my identity doesn’t deter me from listening to any kind of music, it can feel pretty alienating to not have songs either about our own experiences or about experiences that are not also about sexual and/or romantic relationships.
That doesn’t mean such music doesn’t exist. We’re just so overwhelmed by mainstream hits that focus on these things that we forget that music is really diverse and music can be used to communicate a lot of things.
So, here’s the challenge:
1. Comb through the music that you already have in your library on Spotify, Itunes, Google Play, etc. and pull out all the songs that do not have to do with sexual and/or romantic relationships. *Aromantics can do this too!
2. Place all the songs you pulled out into a general playlist for sorting. This step can be skipped if you choose to go straight to step #3, but it may be good to have everything in one place before sorting.
3. Organize your tunes into the following 10 playlist titles:
The Songs with Multiple Interpretations - for music that could be interpreted as sexual and/or romantic, but it doesn’t have to be. It also could have multiple interpretations about non-sexual/non-romantic things!
The Songs About Human Stories - for songs that capture human experiences outside of sex and/or romance. Songs may also include sexual and/or romantic experiences, but they’re not limited to those things!
The Songs with a Political Message - these songs say something about the state of society. They can be songs relevant to your own experiences, or to the experiences of other people. They can be about global or local issues.
The Songs that Make Us Feel Broken - not all songs have to make you feel good. Sometimes it can be really cathartic to listen to music that touches on the more difficult feelings we have.
The Songs that Empower Us - but of course, it’s important to have music that lifts us up too. These songs highlight our best features and remind us all to keep pushing through the difficult times.
The Songs to Rock Out To - I’ll admit I love rock music, so my ‘rock out’ playlist is full of it but you can fill this playlist with any genre that gets you hyped up and ready to take on the world.
The Songs in a Different Language- there are a lot of non-sexual/non-romantic songs that aren’t in my native language. See what songs you can add that aren’t in your own native language and/or not in English.
The Songs to Dance To - we tend to think of parties as having an inherently sexual and/or romantic atmosphere, but this isn’t true. There’s a wealth of party songs that are fun for everyone.
4. Share! I recommend applications like Spotify because they allow you to make and share playlists for free and include a large library of music, but you are welcome to use any application you want.
I’ve wanted to start this project for a while, and I think right now is a good time to introduce it. I’ve linked some examples that I’ve done above. These playlists are by no means complete. I am adding to them at my own leisure.
The point is to look at music you already have, instead of trying to desperately look for it. The goal is to spread good music, remind everyone that music can serve many purposes, and that there is stuff out there for asexuals.
For those who want to do the project, I will be tracking the tag #asexual playlists project and #ace playlists project, but feel free to use any organizational tags you feel fits your blog. You can also @ me with your projects.
You are more than welcome to take this project idea and run with it. You’re not limited to this. Create your own playlist titles, prioritize your favorite genres, and share!
Those notes you’ve wrote me, I’ve kept them all. I’ve given a lot of thought of how to write you back this fall. With every single letter in every single word there will be a hidden message about a boy that loves a girl.