just like everyone really

okay but

I don’t Discourse, but I get so angry when people dismiss asexual’s people’s problems as something like “Boohoo, you don’t want to fuck, no one gives a shit”.

But it’s so much more than that. Obviously it’s not homophobia, never was and never will be. It doesn’t even compare, it’s not the same thing at all. 

But there are issues asexual people face like - there is pressure, part of it from society, and a lot of it come for ourselves. And that kind of self-hate and self-loathing and thinking you’re broken and unloveable, developping unhealthy sexual behaviour and self-harm - it’s a thing, it’s definitely a thing, not something 14-year-old kids on tumblr made up for attention. It can really mess you up, mess your relationships up, and people are so afraid to talk about it - I read words of older people - and I don’t mean people my age, I mean people in their 50s, their 60s - probably they don’t even know asexuality is even a thing, they got married and had kids and always felt wrong, because they hate sex and they never wanted it and never felt comfortable around it but they did it, quietly, never said a fucking word, and hated themselves a bit more every single time because they never understood why they felt they were missing what they were always told was supposed to be a fundamental part of themselves. They spent their entire life thinking they were broken.

and. it’s not homophobia, it’s not bigotry from an entire society keeping you from jobs and housing, etc. there’s no stats or anything. And maybe a lot of non-asexual people relate to this self-loathing, too. Things are never completely clear cut - there is always some overlapping. It doesn’t make it any less important. It’s still a thing that most asexual people go through, at least for part of their life, and it can really, really mess someone up. And there’s no need to get into discourse or into any (useless and frankly asinine) comparisons - it just needs to be taken seriously for what it is, because people’s health and happiness are what’s at play and it matters, too.

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Darling, just hold on ♡ 

just wanted to say that if our thread is heading towards smut but you don’t feel like or don’t want to roleplay smut, it’s okay. Just tell me and we can fade to black and move on to another scene. Pls don’t feel like you must rp smut with me, what matters to me the most is for my partners to be comfortable with our threads.

3

“h.. Thanks.”

“You’re welcome.”

4

I noticed (ok well twice) that whenever Cor is on their team, he talks to Prompto and I am a bit emotional ok lol 

Someone: I really like you!

Me: what a Bad Choice but pls don’t stop

Source

Sometimes it feels like I’m drowning and I just–suffocate.

Lance starts being afraid of what he loves

(tryna color but obviously failing)

bonus slav:

they bond over mutual fear (shiro is not amused and hunk is low key worried about lance)

I bet Nursey doesn’t even think much of the fact that he basically is responsible for finding SMH’s new manager.

Like if anyone tries to hype him up for it, he just goes, “It’s chill. Just wanted to do my part.”

Except with Dex. The moment Dex starts getting smart with him, Nursey whips around and plays his manager-discoverer card so fast, it drives Dex crazy

3/9 happy miku day

i wish i could explain what it feels like to have to unravel a lifetime of learned thoughts and actions and question yourself so thoroughly and deal with the uncertainty that comes with examining compulsory heterosexuality and how it has affected your life. how it makes you doubt yourself. how it makes you dismiss parts of yourself, or not even notice them at all. and how much work and effort and reflection and confidence it takes to overcome it. it’s a fight. i’m proud of everyone who’s dealt with it in the past or is currently working through it and exploring who they are, and of those who will go through it in the future. it’s not always an easy thing to do but it’s so, so worth it in the end.

Just read a very interesting article and post that made me see red. Not reblogging a) because I don’t want the drama and b) because I don’t want that shit on my blog. But it made me think of something that people - readers and writers alike - should remember.

If you write/read dark fic to escape from the pain of your world it is okay.

If you write/read angst because it’s easier to cry over fictional characters pain than your own it is okay

If you use dark fics and angst as a way to escape from reality and feel human for five fucking seconds it is okay.

You are not less of an author or a bad reader if you prefer dark/angst over romantic fluff. You are not less of an author or a bad reader if you prefer romance and fluff. 

You are still a valid producer and consumer of literature, and a valid human being and no one should make you feel bad for that.