just bring it!

hfhfhfh okay so this is going to be about the tags in the prev post that has shit abt the bpd community here on tumblr (which is like okay yeah i find posts that help me feel less alone and stuff and stuff i can relate w but like…. *sigh*)

(before we actually get into this i just wanna say i can’t speak for EVERY PERSON who has bpd or any other disorder. this is just my opinion and how i see things and if you wish to POLITELY talk to me about it I’d prefer if you’d do it off anon and explain calmly if you have anything against this post/anything i said, etc. Just a nice calm talk please)

Okay, so like i get it, it’s fucking hard to deal w splitting/not getting attention or reassurance due to our lack of relationship object permanence/having a shitty mindset that makes us believe we are horrible/etc. etc. but???? that should never EVER be used as an excuse for any action that is horrible/bad/abusive?

like yeah okay, we split with people but like why not try asking for some time alone so you can calm down or try talking to someone else if you’re okay with that to help you chill out?? (idk, each person w bpd has different ways to cope w splitting ig) but don’t?? suicide bait someone???? because they said something you didn’t like/aren’t paying attention to you??? that’s literally so horrible and idc if you have bpd or what other disorder/mental illness. You don’t do that shit that’s fucking horrible.

People not CATERING or ADJUSTING to your needs should not allow you to be abusive or show abusive behaviors and when someone tells you that you are being abusive you DON’T try to defend yourself and JUSTIFY your actions by saying you have ____ etc. because it doesn’t justify it. You should admit to your mistakes and behavior and WORK on them to try and be a better person.
It is gonna be hard work and honestly it’s probably not gonna entirely go your way but if you work on it little by little it probably will get a bit better instead of just not trying and lashing out at people constantly.

the post I linked (and the post that resulted in this post) honestly had some good points. You shouldn’t turn these things into a cute quirks or whatever. It’s true that some of the images in that post is what most of us would feel and relate with but if you have some way to like deal with it in a healthy manner/cope then that’s good! but if you don’t you should probably try finding a way to help you cope for the time being? instead of lashing out and being angry at people/the world for a problem/behavior you could work on fixing a bit (like I said, it won’t be easy)

There are good people in the bpd community that understand these things and that’s great!! Awesome!! but for those who refuse to try and change and want people to cater to them then my dudes… you’re not going to have healthy relationships if you’re gonna be that way. Sorry to say, but that’s just how it is and it really comes down to you trying to fix your behavior (on your own or with help. It’s okay if it’s either one, so long as you try my guy). And if this means analyzing and reanalyzing the things you do/your behavior and finding out what IS abusive and you changing that then do it.

KNOWING THAT YOUSEF IS 50/50 PRESENT IN THIS CLIP MAKES ME FEEL SO DAMNED ANXIOUS. I STILL HAVE HOPE FOR A YOUSANA SATURDAY. I WILL NEVER LOSE HOPE. I CAN STILL FEEL IT COMING. I CAN STILL FEEL YOUSANA RISING. I MISS YOU SO MUCH.

Please Julie, just one last time. I just want to see the world through Sana’s eyes once more. I miss her so much. I miss seeing her interactions with the other characters.

What really sucks about the way Joss Whedon writes is that he sort of has this idea that if he writes about women being strong and confident, that is all it takes for women to appreciate his work. Like, even if the villain constantly belittles a woman for being a woman and people are constantly harassing her and sexualizing her, it’s okay because she’s strong and she can take it.

The biggest difference between Whedon’s version of Wonder Woman and Jenkins is that in Whedon’s version Wonder Woman is A Woman. She (and the audience) must be constantly aware that she is a Woman, that she is Sexy, that she is overcoming incredible odds because she has the terrible disadvantage of Being Born A Woman.

Whereas in Jenkins’ film Diana simply exists. There are some points made by other characters about her being a woman, like when Steve won’t sleep with her because he feels it’s improper, or when his secretary says, “Oh yes, put specs on her, like after that she won’t be the most beautiful woman you’ve ever seen”, but Diana is almost completely unaware of her status as a Dreaded Woman. Her excitement over a baby? She’s literally never seen one before. Her little makeover seen? Spends the whole thing looking for something comfortable she can fight in. She basically never mentions the difference between men and women, never even says that women are better or whatever because she was raised by them. 

Joss Whedon would have never let Wonder Woman forget she was a Woman. She would have constantly been making comments about it, wether positive or negative, as would everyone around her. In Whedon’s heyday that might have flown a lot better, but now women seem to be a little sick of grrrrl power. They just want power. They just want to exist, both on screen and in life, without constant reminders that they are Women and that they must pay for that at every turn.

  • Ravenclaw: When I was younger I had an imaginary boyfriend. Which I guess isn't that weird because kids have imaginary friends all the time.
  • Ravenclaw: And it can be healthy to talk to yourself too.
  • Ravenclaw: It helps you express and form ideas.
  • Ravenclaw: So it isn't weird to be in a pretend relationship at 15, right?
  • Ravenclaw: I don't know though. Maybe this stems from some childhood developmental problems.
  • Slytherin: For the last time I am not your therapist!

Happy Anniversary @ask-drunk-chara !!! This is still my favorite UT blog (along with *FTC) and it has influenced me a lot! Added Core!Frisk cause I miss their bday ;;

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Soar above ruins and glide across sands as you discover the secrets of a forgotten civilization.  -  J o u r n e y (2012)

Discover a lush hidden world as you descend into the heart of the ocean, where ancient secrets lie forgotten and encounters with majestic creatures await.  -  A B Z Û (2016)

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Sometimes I make shitty memes even shittier. I’ve been freaking out cause of the ch 129 spoilers so here’s my contribution to the discourse. Unlike Sebastian though, I already love both ciels.

I think baby boomers’ tendency to get very mad at slow service goes hand in hand with their dislike of smart phones. Every situation I’ve been in where service is slow? I just whip out my phone and browse apps for the extra 30 seconds. It’s not a big deal. Meanwhile Landline Howard behind me in line who’s never held a smartphone in his life is bored with nothing to occupy his time so he yells at minimum wage workers instead.

Lance should write a ‘why my boyfriend is crying’ list bc let’s face it. Shiro would.

‘saw one of those dog rescue videos’

‘Pidge did something she was really proud of so he was really proud of her’

‘saw an emotional ad. For a refrigerator’

‘my baby nephew sneezed and it was way too cute’

‘mama said he was a handsome boy and all her friends agreed with her’

‘Keith was in touch with his emotions for a whole 20 seconds’