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6 THINGS I LEARNED GROWING UP WITH A TIGER MOTHER

It’s Mother’s Day in the UK and Ireland today. As always, I am going to be very honest and real in my article because there’s no point sugarcoating content just for the sake of a brand image. I want to share with you my life story - a part of my life story that shaped who I am and inspired me to create The Happiness Planner, a tool that helps people become more positive, grateful, mindful, and realise that they’re in charge of their attitude. 

I believe that we all experienced pain in our life - pain helped shape who we are. You cannot build strength without having to go through pain. Light cannot exist without darkness. Your pain might have led you to develop your dark traits, but your pain could also be and very much is the source of your light - your potential. As I am now approaching 30, I really want to let it all out and be raw and real with my readers/customers because it’s the only way to really be authentic with the world. I am thankful for all of the hardships I faced growing up - they shaped me to be who I am today. And I want you, too, to own up to your story and turn your pain into a powerful source of your potential. 

A lot of you probably already know that I had quite a difficult relationship with my mother growing up. We’re two very different individuals. She’s very strict, conservative, and tends to focus on what could go wrong, rather than what could go right. It’s how she was brought up and it affected me quite dramatically as a child. It’s been over 10 years now since I moved out of home. I am proud to say that this is no longer a burden in my heart - I have healed. Finally, my mother is able to loudly say to me that she is proud of me. Twenty nine years of my life as a grade-A student and a high-achiever - my heart finally feels full. Because my mother was strict, I became rebellious and refused to go on the path conservative Asian parents expect you to go on. As a result, I felt like I was constantly disappointing my mother even though I wasn’t doing anything wrong - it’s just not the path she wanted me to take. However, I was very sure of myself and I knew exactly what I wanted to do in life. I knew since little that I LOVE inspiring people. I knew since little that I LOVE beautiful stationery, art, and design. I knew since little that I am intrigued by psychology and how the human mind works. I knew since little that I was born with a gift in marketing and branding. I knew since little that I wanted to be a kickass businesswoman with her own beautiful inspirational brand that inspires people on a global scale. Sadly, my dreams weren’t fully supported. Though my father was open-minded and encouraged me to become an entrepreneur, my mother wanted me to be a doctor. As strong-headed and rebellious as I was, I went against it. My mother cried. Her smart daughter didn’t want to be a doctor. It was hard and was absolutely heartbreaking to see your mother cry. But I knew deep in my heart that I was meant for something else and that one day my mother would be proud even though she didn’t approve of anything I wanted to do at the time. 

Fast forward to today, I am very happy to say that I am glad I never gave up what I wanted to do with my life just to follow my mother’s dreams. I am even more proud to say that my mother has recently started using The Happiness Planner. Every few days, she’d send me a photo showing what she wrote in her Happiness Planner including the answer to the question, “What makes you happy?”, which she wrote “Seeing my children” with a score 10 (I know I’m guilty of this, but I’ll go home to see her soon). My mum also said that since she started using The Happiness Planner, she realised that she had never felt grateful for the little things in life and that she had always focused on the negatives. Now she is learning to focus on the positives and the things she could feel grateful for every day. Talking to her has never felt as joyous as it does now. I notice that talks of worries and stress have slowly disappeared as they have been replaced by positive and encouraging words. :)

So as it’s Mother’s Day today, I’d like to share with you what I learned growing up with a Tiger mother.


1. Put yourself in other people’s shoes.

Growing up with someone who is very different from you teaches you a lot. Because that person is my mother, I had no choice but to learn to deal with the clashes and the differences. This is how my interest in psychology got started. 

In order to deal with the emotional turmoil that I had, I had to learn to understand my mother. Why does she think the way she does? Why is she the way she is? Why can’t she understand my point of view?  This childhood experience taught me to look deep into human’s complexity. My upbringing influenced who I am. My mother’s upbringing also influenced who she is. What I learned from parents, schools, and the environment I grew up in shaped me to be the person I am today. It’s the same for everyone and for my mother.

When solving disagreements, arguments, and misunderstandings, put yourself in the other person’s shoes. When you don’t understand why someone is the way he/she is, look into their childhood and past experiences. With any conflicts in life, big or small, internal or external, mental, emotional, or physical, understanding is key to having a peace of mind. Only when you learn about someone’s past, you’d understand the correlation that leads them to be the way they are today. When you learn to understand instead of trying to force others to accept your beliefs and your way of thinking, you will be able to find inner peace from within and will be able to deal with anything life throws at you.


2. Attitude is everything.

You are in control of your attitude. And that’s the only thing that affects how you feel, act, and react to situations and things that happen around you. Learning to understand that attitude is everything is crucial. Life depends on the lens you look through and your attitude is the lens. Take control of the situation by learning to adapt your attitude to situations. The earlier you learn to control and adjust your attitude, the more you do it, and the easier it becomes. The ability to adapt your attitude is the secret to achieving anything in life - from success to happiness and beyond.


3. Be the kind of friend to others how you want others to be to you.

One thing I absolutely admire about my mum is her kindness. My mum loves to help people. She has a kind heart and gets a sense of meaning from helping others. One thing she said to me that I still reflect upon today is that if I want a good friend, I have to be a good friend. However I want my friend to be, I have to be the same. If I want to have a supportive friend, I have to be supportive. If I want a friend who listens, I have to be a good listener too. You see? Your friends are a reflection of who you are. So if you look around and find yourself surrounded by a bunch of idi*ts, then it’s time you take a look in the mirror and reflect on the things beneath the image you see. 


4. Develop both sides of the brain and learn as much as you can when little.

Something I am absolutely grateful for for having a Tiger mother is that I got to learn SO MUCH as a child. Besides math, I got to take piano lessons, guitar lessons, drum lessons, art, language, and dance classes. My weekends were never free. I loved learning so much and my Tiger mother was supportive with everything as long as I followed through with it. Both of my parents majored in science. So they knew the importance of learning in children and brain development. My mum wanted me to develop both sides of my brain, so I got to learn advanced math and language as well as art and music. In hindsight, if my mum hadn’t encouraged me to take so many extra lessons when I was little, I don’t know if I would have had the initiative and the desire to pursue them and the willpower to master them now. Learning new skills is much easier when you’re a kid. Though now I do want to learn French, Spanish, German, and Saxophone, the time it takes to learn and to master something is the major factor that makes me keep pushing them off. 


5. Confidence is compounding. Fearlessness is a mindset one can master.

My mother really encouraged me to participate in all sorts of competitions — be it in academic, music, and art. Luckily I really enjoyed them, so that worked in my favour. However I’ve realised as I grow up that participating in all sorts of competitions all my life has made me become fearless. All the little wins I gained help me build confidence in my own ability - little by little. I never thought this would affect me as much into adulthood, but it does. I am fearless and confident in my own ability today because of the things I learned and did whilst growing up. 

If you’re looking to build your confidence, realise that it’s compounding. The sooner you gain it, the more you gain it, and you gain more of it each time you gain it. Fearlessness is a mindset. Just like changing a habit - you can train your mind to become fearless so that you feel confident in your own ability no matter how hard or small of a challenge you have to face.


6. Embrace your inner talents. Never lose touch with your childhood passions.

I believe in living with passion. As a child, I had several hobbies I was passionate about and I  feel very lucky to have been able to explore all the things I wanted to explore as a child.Looking back now, it all makes sense. Everything I was passionate about as a child is everything I am passionate about today. The different dots I plotted as a child - I can now draw a line that connects them.

When looking at who you are and what you enjoy doing today, it’s no doubt that it’s related to what you naturally loved doing as a child. Everything I used to love doing as a child has come together and become everything that I do today for a living. You never leave who you truly are. And being able to engage in and embrace your innate talents gives you happiness and satisfaction in life. If you have been following someone else’s dreams or someone else’s advice on what your dreams should be, instead of your own, take this as a chance to really listen to your own heart. Can you crawl back to embrace your inner child and turn your childhood passion into a hobby again with the skills and expertise you have acquired over the year?


As it is Mother’s Day today, I hope you’re spending time with her. If you had a painful relationship with your mother growing up, do you think it’s time for a reconciliation? Sometimes the pain that we buried; the pain that is deeply rooted in our heart never really goes away until we dig it up and look at it with a wiser mind filled with compassion, understanding, and forgiveness. After all, every parent does the best they could at the time to show love to their children. Whether what they did was good enough or not depended on their life circumstances and who they were/are. People are different, and sometimes, they also have different love languages. Understanding is the key here - the key that will set your soul free. And always remember, focus on the positives. 

I never talked about this before. But yes, I associate myself a lot with Sniper because he means a lot to myself, and I feel pretty comfortable about do it, and seeing him around makes me so happy and remind me a lot of good things that I share between friends, 

Please, anon, I hope you don’t misunderstand this post, because you probably didn’t have bad intentions, but still, I feel really attached to the character of Sniper. But more to my Sniper oc (Lawrence), even if he is really different from me as a person, he is such a huge copying mechanism for myself, and I can use him to take all the bad thoughts of my mind. Actually is he is a pretty negative person, he is such a way to explain about how I don’t want to let my fears be real. So, since I associate him with me a lot, It helps me to think about my decisions a lot. And also, it makes me happy when people associate me with him, or the character of Sniper in general…

You’re not the person I thought you were.
I don’t know if it’s because you’ve changed or if I loved a person who never really existed at all… A person I made up in my own imagination; Someone who looked like you, had the same birthday and favourite colour but everything else I just invented to fill in the blanks. Maybe I saw what I wanted to see…. a person I so desperately wanted and needed in my life at that time. Or maybe you pretended to be someone you weren’t to make me love you. I suppose I’ll never truly know.
But the one thing I do know is this; I was being honest with you about who I was, so the loss is yours - not mine.
You lost a real person who loved you very deeply.
But if all I lost was a lie … then that’s not really a loss to me at all.
Just INFP Things

- Doing stupid or clumsy things because you forgot to pay attention to the real world again; walked into doors, burned your food, maybe jumped a red light… 

-When someone is Having Feelings in your vicinity, you are having those feelings right along with them, even if you don’t know who they are or why they’re upset

- ART VS. SCIENCE

- Really wanting to have your life all organised and together but also being the sort of person who just doesn’t do that

- When you look at a thing and it reminds you of another thing but nobody else sees it and then you become ‘the weird one’. 

- Dropping everything you’re doing to google something you got curious about, or draw an image that just occurred to you, or in any way indulging a sudden burst of imagination before it slips away and your boring life returns

- Having to say ‘I DON’T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN IT IT’S JUST THIS FEELING’ on a daily basis to a bunch of blank faces

- Nobody seems to appreciate the value of a long walk by yourself

- The sensible, logical voice in your head is constantly facepalming at all the stupid stuff you do, even though it told you this was a bad idea

- Your best solution to most potential problems is ‘I’ll just take to the woods and live alone with the trees where nobody will care what I do’

- ‘What are you staring at?’ ‘What are you smiling about?’ ‘Why the sudden gasp?’ 

- When you’re focused on something important then you start thinking all these other thoughts about the thing and then it snowballs and you realise you have no idea what you started off focused on anymore

- The inside of your head is basically Jean Valjean’s ‘Who Am I?’ playing on a loop

- OVERTHINKINGGGG

Please add your INFP things below

anonymous asked:

Dear Duke, I have noticed something about my writing: I do not know how to conduct a dialogue. I do not know how to add an emotional "burden" to the discussion. It does not sound believable what I write. To me, it seems more like a lecture than a simple conversation. I just wanted to write engaging more with the emotional side of my characters than with the intellectual. How can I do it?

Hi! You’re in the right place because dialogue is actually my favorite thing to write and any book of mine you pick up will probably be like at least 40% people talking. Idk if this is because I did so much theatre or because I just can’t shut up, but it’s high time I did a real post about it, so:

Advice for Aspiring Authors: On Dialogue

  1. You need it so don’t resist it. Books that are just huge chunks of prose are exhausting, and if you never use dialogue you’re either (1) summarizing or (2) writing a really boring book, and either way the the result is the same. Your reader is going to be bored. Choosing the right scenic mode is important and sooner or later people are going to have to speak in the moment. 
  2. Don’t stress about speaker tags. Putting this at the top because a lot of new writers seem to get hung up on it. But I’ve already addressed this, so read this post here. Pro-tip? If you’re writing a conversation between two people or even three, you often don’t need speaker tags at all. I recently wrote a conversation that takes place over the phone which consists of about 25 lines exchanged and didn’t use a single speaker tag because it was, in all instances, obvious who was doing the talking. Later in the same MS I have a really chaotic hospital scene where like twelve people are yelling at the same time and interrupting each other and there are no speaker tags because idgaf if anybody knows who’s saying what. It should feel like chaos. (If you want a really great example of this, pick up a copy of William Faulkner’s Sanctuary and read the funeral scene.) Readers are smart. They’ll figure it out.
  3. Different people speak in different ways. Who a character is will often determine how they speak. For instance, Theodore von Wammelspout, Crown Prince of Prosenstatz, is probably going to have a very different dialect than Paw Paw O’Halloran, Louisiana shrimp fisherman. (If you want a better example of what I’m talking about, watch the movie Kingsman and pay attention to how and when Eggsy switches dialects, or read the prologue to The Taming of the Shrew and pay attention to the immediate tonal shift in Christopher Sly’s dialogue when he wakes up from a drunken stupor thinking he’s a lord.) Think about a character’s origins and upbringing and backstory when deciding how they talk.
  4. But stay away from writing dialect unless you really know what you’re doing. Don’t try to phonetically write a character’s accent or dialect unless you’re a linguist, because a lot of dropped consonants and deliberate misspellings can be really difficult to read, come out like you’re trying too hard, or even end up looking vaguely racist. If a character has an accent, find a way to tell us they have an accent and then spell all their dialogue correctly. There are, of course, exceptions to the rule–i.e, if a phonic misunderstanding is crucial to the story. But basically, unless you’re writing Trainspotting, don’t do this. What’s much better and much more effective is to describe how a character says something or what their voice sounds like. What’s the texture? The color? The temperature? A warm, rough, slow voice belongs to a different character than a cold, high, slick voice does. Or maybe the same character can switch from one to the other. Give your character’s voice the same attention you would give their body or their habits or anything else.
  5. It’s a character speaking, not the narrator. Each character should have their own voice, in the same way that each story will have a slightly different narrator, even if it’s a neutral third person narrator. Writing is all about voice and style, and part of the challenge is that you as the writer have to be a mockingbird and be able to speak in as many different voices as you have characters. It will take practice. It will require a lot of questions asked, such as “Who never says a bad word? Who swears like a sailor? Who talks in a constant, uninterrupted stream and who hardly says a word?” For an exercise, write out a plain uninteresting sentence like, “He was on his way home from the store when he got a flat tire,” the way the narrator would say it, and then rewrite it in every character’s voice. Because one character might say it just like that–”I was on my way home from the store and I got a flat tire”–and another might say, “You’re not going to fucking believe this. Okay, so I’m on my way home from the store, because we’re out of beer again, because Steve was supposed to go get more and he didn’t, the dickhead–and what happens? Well, obviously, because this worthless excuse of a city can’t be bothered to keep the roads clear, I drive right through a patch of broken glass and BANG! Blow a tire. Swear to God, I thought it was a gunshot, I nearly ran my car into a telephone pole.” If all your characters sound alike or sound like the narrator or (worse) sound like you, it’s time to stop and reevaluate. 
  6. Characters don’t speak for you. Look, unless you’re writing a really boring story it’s going to have a bunch of people in it with a bunch of different ideas and some of them should believe things that you don’t agree with or speak in a way you find objectionable. Characters are sometimes going to have to say things you find morally deplorable and they have to say them with conviction. I recently wrote a scene where my FMC’s boyfriend and her dad argue about what they’re going to do about her, like she’s not a grown-ass woman who can take care of herself. And they both say things that are utterly atrocious and that if I heard a man say in real life, I would probably punch him in the face. But that’s important. In fiction, you gotta tell it all and tell it like it is. Fiction isn’t true but it should be honest. Not every character can agree with you or with each other. (This is a big part of the reason that authorial intent is a flawed concept. An author who depicts something isn’t necessarily condoning or endorsing it.) You should be writing about difficult shit and writing about it from every vantage point and using dialogue to do that. You don’t need to agree with angelic equality crusader Nancy and homophobic Uncle Jeff equally but they need to be equally convincing. Write disagreements. Write arguments. Let characters fight and get pissed and tell each other to fuck off. It’s honest, and it’s interesting. Conflict is good.
  7. Incomplete sentences are your best friend. So are run-ons. That scene I mentioned that was 25 lines with no speaker tags? There’s also not a complete sentence in that whole exchange. We rarely speak in full correct sentences, even if we know perfectly well that what we’re saying isn’t grammatically perfect. So something like this: 
            “Seen my keys?”
            “In the basket.”
    Totally acceptable. People are lazy. They talk in fragments. Dialogue doesn’t have to be correct, because it often isn’t. Stick commas and dashes wherever the fuck you want to mimic the pattern of speech. Worry about what’s natural, not what’s correct. Sometimes what goes unsaid is just as interesting as what does get said. For instance, if Joe turns to Carol and starts to say, “Have you ever thought about–” and then never finishes the sentence, that’s going to keep a reader wondering. Has she ever thought about what? In much the same way, you can have a character ramble for an entire paragraph in an epic run-on sentence if that’s the way they talk, or if they’re distressed or upset and trying to get the words out. The last book I finished has a chapter at the end where one character literally talks without interruption for nine pages. And as insane as that sounds it’s actually totally necessary because she’s telling a story that’s important for the readers and the other characters to hear but it’s a hundred times better to hear it in her own voice, grammatical correctness be damned.
  8. Don’t try too hard to be eloquent. How many people do you know in real life who spout off perfectly articulate declarations of their feelings? Probably none. They ramble and stall and repeat themselves. Real-life conversations are not movie conversations. They’re not smooth. They’re not perfectly timed. A character just saying “Fuck me” because they have no idea what else to say is perfectly plausible (and also a great opportunity for comedy). Here’s an exercise if you’re having trouble: Make two columns on a page, and on one side write out what this character is trying to say (i.e, “I love you.” “I’ve been trying to tell you for years.” “But I’m afraid you don’t want me to.”) and on the other write out what they actually say (i.e., “I really hope you’ll stay.” “You know you’re always welcome to stay.” “I don’t want you to feel like you have to stay. Just that you can. If you want to.”) Sometimes the juxtaposition between what we’re trying to say and what actually comes out is so important. So don’t worry about perfect articulation or doing justice to the “emotional burden.” Worry about the intent and the impact and how those two things align–or don’t.
  9. Read it out loud. This is one of the most important things teachers in playwriting workshops will tell you to do. Read it out loud. If it feels awkward or unnatural, it probably is. Thus also to dialogue in prose fiction. Even better option? Get a couple of friends to read it for you. This will work wonders for helping you figure out what feels awkward.
  10. HAVE FUN WITH IT. When I say dialogue is far and away my favorite thing to write, I’m not kidding at all. You can learn so much about a character or how two characters interact by how they talk to each other. Do they tease, do they nag, do they finish each other’s sentences? Do they use slang, do they slur, do they talk about celebrities they’ve never met as if they’ve known them for years and they’re the best of friends? Let their personalities shine through, because when characters speak is the only time they’re not getting filtered through a narrator, even if that narrator is themselves. Dialogue provides some of the most poignant moments of characterization you’ll ever get. So play with it. Try the same line fifty different ways until it feels right. Let your characters speak for themselves.

Good luck! Go forth and write great dialogue and have a blast doing it.

can you imagine. Library au Keith and hunk work in receiving, processing new shipments/donations and putting books back from the dropoff chute. Pidge is IT support for the library and keeps the servers secure and lightning fast and definitely doesn’t spy on people with her network. Shiro and lance are the receptionists bc Lance thought it would be a good way to meet some smokin bodies and shiro just really loves books okay. Coran owns the building and Allura manages it and takes down all the mouse traps Coran puts up because “they’ve never chewed anything or pooped on the books, Coran!" 

 And there are the usual library shenanigans including but not limited to 

  •  - a closet full of books. no context it’s just there and Coran wants it to stay. 
  •  - squirrels sneaking in through the dropoff chute when the weather gets colder - hunk and keith hunting the squirrels bc they’re not always busy
  • - hunk wanting to be humane only and Keith slowly putting his knife away
  •  - Keith this is a library why do you have a knife
  •  - *squints into the horizon like a war veteran* squirrels
  •  - pidge suggesting that the mice are helping the squirrels
  •  - keith’s war against rodents begins and Allura scrambles to set up cozy hiding spots for them all just out of Keith’s reach
  •  - and then he finds his pistachios MISSING and his pear has been nibbled upon and he mc freaking loses it
  •  - shiro puts this sign up on the dropoff chute very quietly and kindly and he just kind of puffs up knowing that he’s done a Good Deed
  •  - people start obeying the sign and Lance leaves the front doors open so he can hear it every single time it happens. He has a tally chart.
  • - the chute opens one day without anyone shouting down it and Keith runs upstairs and looks around "did you see any squirrels ma'am" 
  • - Lance is dying bc it was him. 
  •  - klance makeouts between the bookshelves 
  • - the dudes from the computer repair shop next door coming in and asking if any of the webcams in the library had mysteriously turned on too 
  • - pidge is a good liar bc obviously she was behind it. 
  •  - hunk and allura putting food for the squirrels on the roof in an attempt to keep them safe from Keith 
  • - hunk and allura realizing that the squirrels are determined, suicidal little shits and so they just put food in the corner of the library or up on the highest bookshelves and hope that their tails will do the dusting for them 
  • - shiro sighing at literally everything as he hand feeds the squirrels 
  • - is he Snow White like how does he do that 
  •  - Keith’s Betrayed Face when he sees shiro schmoozing the squirrels 
  • - *whispers* I thought you loved me 
  • - shiro rolling his eyes so hard he goes and joins a bowling league 
  •  - the dudes from the computer repair shop coming back AGAIN and asking if show tunes had started playing in the library 
  • - pidge must physically remove herself from their presence bc she’s trying very hard not to cackle like an overlord 
  • - Keith brings in a CAT 
  • - allura is horrified and literally clutches her chest 
  •  - Lance falls in love with the cat, feeds it treats and snacks and gives it lazy toys until it gets ULTRA FAT 
  • - Keith comes to the conclusion that his bf sabotaged his cat plan on purpose and cuts off the nookie supply for a month
  •  - worst month of everyone’s lives tbh 
  • - hunk begs Keith to please just fuck Lance again 
  • - a hanjo in the Scientology section at the very least please please please 
  •  - pidge and shiro end up stuck in the weird book closet somehow 
  • - shiro COULD break down the door but that’s just a lot of work 
  • - why break things when you could have a book fight 
  • - they throw a couple hundred paperbacks at each other for 20 minutes 
  •  - pidge builds a throne of books and rules her domicile (400 books and shiro) with cunning and dignity 
  • - until shiro slaps her in the face with a copy of pride and prejudice and the war begins anew 
  • - the library has like three floors and everyone knows to stay out of the left wing of the third floor during lunch breaks bc Lance and Keith honestly don’t care if u see their butts they will not stop 
  • - shiro or hunk lifting pidge onto their shoulders to put more food on the shelves for the squirrels 
  • - the general populace of the town not being weirded out by any of the shenanigans in the library 
  • - it’s just another beautiful day in mr Roger’s neighbourhood for them 
  • - Keith runs by them with a knife in his teeth and a net in his hands? Totally normal

NOW COMES IN FANFIC

A lot of people who don’t play pokemon tend to think that pokemon are forcibly kept in their pokeballs. This is really not what happens in the vast majority of cases. Most of the time, pokemon can leave their own pokeballs. We’ve known since Yellow Version when the player’s Pikachu refused to use its pokeball that even weak pokemon can leave their balls. In Sun and Moon we meet this Machamp, who refuses to use a pokeball for reasons I won’t spoil.

Why do we have to catch pokemon then? Because the ones that pick fights with our teams are the ones that want to get strong through battle. We prove ourselves worthy of training them by catching them, it’s their test for us as trainers (~“to catch them is my real test”~). They could leave if they wanted.

Pokeballs just happen to be a tremendously useful thing. It makes them easy to carry and they don’t have to walk around all day. It makes it possible to use the PC system, too.

people who are not watching supergirl because they’re afraid after t100, the two shows couldn’t be on more opposite ends of the spectrum? even the executive producer of supergirl said at comic con that they want the show to be happier than what we see in real life because real life is awful enough, whereas jroth made it his mission to make t100 ten times darker each week. just because it’s a superhero show, doesn’t mean it has to be horrible and twisted all the time. sure, things could change now that they’re at the cw but the writers and producers still know what they want the show to be.

plus, there are more reasons to watch than just alex and maggie as a couple, and that’s so important to note. the kara/alex relationship is the heart of the show. if you skip season one, i think you’re making a mistake. the whole development of kara and alex’s relationship in s1 is what made me continue watching, even though i already knew maggie was coming. i get that people are starved for wlw representation, and so am i, but supergirl is so much more than just that. there is an entire cast of strong badass women, the platonic and familial relationships between female characters are a+, and there is a literal female superhero kicking ass each week. and the best part, supergirl as a hero doesn’t take away from the badassery of the other characters.

idk i just think supergirl’s ratings are suffering when they don’t need to be. there are a bunch of people out there who aren’t watching because they’re afraid of t100 2.0 but to not give the show a chance would be a huge mistake tbh. i don’t even care for superhero related things usually and i love it because it’s so much more than just one thing.

tldr: if supergirl gets cancelled you will never hear the end of it from me so you might as well watch it lmao

Is this Relationship Working for You?

Not every friendship is helpful and worthwhile … and sometime we need to ask ourselves the following:

1. What am I getting from the relationship? Is this person there for me when I need them most? Do they build me up, and bring out the best in me?

2. Is this friendship draining, or is it mainly negative? Do I feel I’m just being used? Are things always about them?

3. Can I be genuine and real – and just myself - with this person? Or are they likely to react if I share my honest thoughts?

4. Do they care about my feelings, my views and my opinions? Or do they treat me like an object, whose feelings never count?

5. Am I putting with things because it’s started to feel normal? Am I scared that no-one else would really want to be my friend?

Like on the list of things I want to see in future Fantastic Beast films:

1) More beasts. There were not nearly enough Dragons or Hippogriffs.
2) Credence alive and well, and becoming Newt’s apprentice, finding solace with the beasts.
3) The real Percival Graves
4) More about Newt’s backstory. Leta Lestrange. His brother. Etc.
5) The Goldstein sisters getting to do more. There was a lot to cram into FBAWTFT, but Queenie is an insanely powerful natural legillimens, and Tina used to be an Auror! Show us what they can do!
6) A really fantastic young Dumbledore.
7) Can we at least get rid of Depp’s mustache? Maybe he it grows into a beard while he’s in prison?
8) Dumbledore vs Grindlewald being the most badass wizarding duel we’ve ever seen.
9) Young Ollivander. Just because it’s something I need to see.
10) The Niffler making off with the ring when Newt and Tina get married.

pros and cons of being pansexual

pros

-so many dating options 

-everyone is attractive

-so. many. hot. people.

-not worrying about having to change gender or pronouns in song lyrics

-being free to date who you like

-not being restricted by gender

- the sense of relief when you finally find a label you identify with

-being part of the lgbtq+ community

-sometimes when you come out you’re also educating people about it and idk it’s really nice to hear people saying ‘oh i didn’t know about that. wow that’s really cool’

-the pan flag is really aesthetically pleasing??

cons

-everyone is attractive

- ‘so you like pans lol?’

- people not taking you seriously

-no one knowing what pansexual is

- ‘so you’re bisexual’

-being afraid to come out to some family members because the term is a relatively new thing and they could react badly

- ‘that’s not a thing’

- people assuming you want to date them ??

- being excluded by some parts of the lgbtq+ community because apparently you’re not queer enough??

- not being taken seriously

- some straight people will make fun of you, especially when you come out

-coming out

-the pan jokes

There are few important things I really want to talk about. Please reblog so everyone who’s in Eddsworld Fandom can see.

FIRST OF ALL, I just want to make sure people understands that what they are doing is wrong and how they are ruining the fandom. Here are some points I sorted out.

1. TomTord Fandom

I’m not judging the ship. I actually like Tomtord ㅡ they’re cute together. I ship them AS A FICITIONAL CHARACTER NOT A REAL PERSON?! WHAT THE HELL?!  HOW DARE YOU HARASS TOM AND TORD?! DON’T YOU GUYS KNOW WHAT THE WORD PRIVACY IS? YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT’S REALITY AND WHAT’S NOT. BECAUSE OF YOU GUYS, TORD LEFT. BECAUSE OF YOU GUYS, NOW TOM IS GONE TOO. PLEASE PLEASE, PLEASE GROW UP AND BE MATURE.

And now for the people who hates the ship. Look, I get it ㅡ you guys probably don’t know why people ship them because they clearly hate each other but look. There’s a thing called “hate ship”. You pair two characters who hate each other. Basically every fandom has one so you need to get over with it. Don’t tell tomtord shippers weird or don’t just swear at them. Nobody’s the same so you should respect what others like or ship.

2. Shipwars

Oh god where do we start… Everyone has their own OTP and you should respect others. People can ship whatever they want if it’s fictional! Please don’t say this ship is better than the other. That’s only your opinion. Everyone can’t be the same. If you keep saying them aloud you’ll bring hatred over some people. DON’T.

3. Forced Shipping

For all eddsworld askblogs ㅡ this message goes to you. Except for the blogs that’s about specific ships. (EX. Ask toredd! Ask tomtord!) That way people knows what ships they have so who hates it can easily avoid it.

There might be some people who are very uncomfortable with the ship you guys are including on the blog. Especially in the au blog. People there are following the blog because they’re interested in the plot and the story line the au follows. Well, maybe some ships but you shouldn’t put that in the middle.

4. Using arts without credit

THIS IS THE HUGE PROBLEM. I SEE MANY PEOPLE USING MY ARTWORKS, AND MY FRIENDS’. THEY NEVER CREDIT US, OR NEVER EVER ASKED US. PLEASE ASK THE ORIGINAL ARTIST BEFORE YOU USE IT. WE WORKED VERY HARD ON IT. HOURS AND HOURS. IT’S NOT EASY TO CREATE SOMETHING. RESPECT US AND STOP DOING THAT. THIS GOES TO ALL THE FANDOMS, NOT JUST EDDSWORLD

5. Harassment

As you know, Tord and Tom left because people wouldn’t stop forcing them to make out or be together in real life ㅡ same goes to Paultryk now. I’m not saying that I’m against the ship. I’m saying that don’t cross the line. Imagine if group of people shipping you with your friend and won’t stop talking about it and forcing you to kiss your friend. How annoying would that be? Also, please when you draw fan arts or write a fanfiction don’t use their last name because that’s just messed up. They’re real life people just like you and me! Later, if they get a job or something normally their boss searches up their name to see who they are. WELP IF YOU LOOK AT THE RESULTS THERE WILL BE GAY FANARTS ALL OVER THE PLACE PLEASE DON’T RUIN THEIR LIFE. PEOPLE ALSO SENDS BUNCH OF GAY FANARTS TO THEM ALSO?! WHY WOULD YOU THINK THAT’S A GOOD IDEA?!??!

Tord can’t even use his own name now because of you guys. He disappeared because he was scared, disgusted by you people. Tord’s youtube channel is gone too ㅡ why are you doing this to them? 

6. R.I.P

EVERY FUCKING TIME I LOOK AT THE COMMENT SECTION THERE’S ALWAYS A COMMENT SAYING R.I.P EDD. YES I KNOW HE’S NOT WITH US ANYMORE AND YOU GUYS ARE JUST BEING POLITE BUT PLEASE FUCKING STOP SPAMMING THAT. THINK OF WHAT THE EDDSWORLD CREW WILL FEEL. I FEEL SORRY FOR THEIR NOTIFICATION BOX. OH HEY GUESS WHAT IF YOU LOOK AT TOMSKA’S CHANNEL DARKSQUIDGE THAT COMMENT IS ALL OVER THE PLACE. Please just stop. That’s messed up. We get it. He’s in heaven where he can drink cola whenever he wants. Don’t remind us about it. We won’t forget, we promise. You don’t have to constantly tell us. 


It’s not fine at all.

What the fuck is wrong with you all? Why? We all love Eddsworld but you guys are ruining it for many people.

Okay so pining Keith is a thing and now I’m imagining Lance one day just being really insecure and lonely and telling Keith about how he’s always flirting but in reality all he wants is a real relationship, and that he’s never been in one. Also that he may act confident for show but can’t imagine someone ever actually falling for him and Keith is just sitting there silent and hurt because if he could just tell Lance how he felt. How pretty the midnight blue specks of his eyes are and how vibrant, warm and beautiful Lance is as a whole, inside and out. And it just kills him daily because how could someone this radiant ever believe no one could love him when he’s so deeply in love with him already.

Two sides of the same coin

Arthur Pendragon & Merlin Emrys
The once and Future King & the greatest Sorcerer to ever walk the Earth


The last days mark my re-obsession with Merlin and here we are, I drew something. Funny to compare this accidental piece with the old one of these two (klick) from 2013.

5

Sing Street (2016) - John Carney

5 bullets on this film:

  • Okay. I have been crying for about two hours because of this film, and I don’t even have feelings, so I don’t really understand what’s going on. It was one of the purest things I’ve seen this year and it made 2016 less shitty. This movie inspired me so much and now I feel ready to face 2017. Sing Street is beautiful, funny, sad, real, and wow, just go and watch it. 
  • THE ORIGINAL SOUNDTRACK IS AMAZING, if you don’t want to watch the film that’s fine (whatever, you’re just missing a great movie), but please listen to the soundtrack because it’s almost perfect. Personally, this is my favorite one. 
  • The actors are amazing and the characters are really well developed, I now officially have a platonic crush on each one of them. I didn’t know Irish people were that cute.  
  • You can really notice that it’s well written, the dialogues are natural and there aren’t any boring scenes, I think the pace of this film is perfect. You know when you don’t want a movie to end? Yes, exactly. 
  • The main theme is music, but the moral is that you have to follow your dreams. Okay, that sounded terrible, but really, follow your dreams, because if you love what you do it means you’re good at it so you’re going to make it. I loved how the characters went through different musical styles before finding their own, and that’s it, if you keep doing your thing, everything will work out at the end.

i would have really liked if the gg revival maybe explained or made more overt (if, indeed, it was intentional in the first place) that part of rory falling apart was from losing richard

obviously all the gilmores were super invested in rory’s future and her potential, but what made rory and richard unexpectedly click was that they just seemed to be kindred spirits in that i-want-to-travel-the-world-and-read-great-books-and-achieve-amazing-things way. richard had so much faith in rory that it was almost heartbreaking.

and i could totally see her falling apart at the loss of him, and having this heavy guilt that he had never gotten to see her reach her full potential because she didn’t achieve it in time, and that causing her to struggle and spiral downward even more.

i would have really liked to see that. i think it would have lent a real sense of emotional resonance to what rory was going through, in a way that would have felt like it really had its roots in the original series and the really important relationship she had with her grandpa.

TO ANSWER SOME OF YOUR QUESTIONS……………………………………..

First of all, I’m getting rather tired of Laucy shippers and Camila haters throwing shade at myself and Camren blogs for thinking that, maybe Laucy isn’t as real as you want them to be. There is no need to be rude to me for writing a theory you don’t agree with. There is even less need to be rude to the Camren blogs who reblogged my theory. If you don’t like or believe in Camren, don’t go to Camren blogs or read Camren theories. It’s really not that damn difficult.

I will reiterate, my theory was just that, a theory, based on my knowledge of how the Music Industry works, how the P.R. business works, and how the girls themselves are acting. The weird thing is, now I find myself having to explain how I thought up the theory, because it happened.

I’ll address some questions and comments I have been reading, most of which are trying to discredit the possibility of Laucy being a P.R. stunt. I’ll start with; Management wouldn’t use a female/female relationship, or someone’s Bisexuality as a P.R. stunt.

Say what!!! They do it all the damn time. Have you not noticed, over the past several years, it has become quite common for young female entertainers to come out as Bisexual. Hell, it became common practice for female vocalists to kiss other female vocalists, on stage and for the cameras. Madonna, Brittany, Christina, Miley, just to name a few. It’s one of the Industries favorite attention grabbing stunts. Why? Because men love that shit, and now days, most women do to.

“But Lauren kissed Lucy on the lips, they must be in a relationship, right?” NO!!! I just proved that question wrong. What did I think of those photos? I thought it looked like a staged photo-op. But for the actual kiss on the lips, those pics reminded me of 5H M&G photos. Lauren has done the exact poses of the first two pics with complete strangers. When I saw “the kiss” pic, I actually laughed, but I was expecting it.

“Why would Lauren risk her long time friendship on a PR stunt?” I have to answer a question with a question here. What’s the risk, if it’s not real? Honestly, the only risk to Lauren and Lucy’s friendship, is if Laucy is real. You want your lover to become your best friend, not your best friend to become your lover. When the latter happens, more often than not, you lose your best friend and your lover.

Camila reblogged the best quote for this, “If past lovers remain friends, they are either still in love, or they never were.” The timing of that quote could not have been more perfect, and it could easily pertain to Camren and Laucy.

“They wouldn’t use Lucy for a PR stunt because she’s not famous enough, and she’s not another Maverick artist. Maverick only use their artists for PR.” That is the biggest load of crap I’ve ever heard. Labels make deals with other Labels all the time. Management companies make deals with other management companies all the time. The way they are using Camila is proof enough of that.

Lucy not being "famous enough" is what makes this the perfect stunt. Almost no one expected it. The fact Lucy wants to be “famous enough” is the part we should focus on. It’s becoming more well known now, after the release of "the kiss" pic, that Lucy has been working on an album of her own. Is it a coincidence, that after the release of that pic, Lucy decided to come out as BI, a second time, because not enough people heard about it the first time. I guess it’s safe enough to say, Lauren is “famous enough” to gain her friend Lucy more notoriety.

‘What’s in it for Lauren? She would gain nothing from this PR stunt?“ Really, because I can think of a few reasons this would help Lauren. First and foremost, it puts an end to interviewers asking if her and Camila are dating. By the way, the last guy to ask that question, was planned. I don’t know about you, but when I type Fifth Harmony into my Google search bar, the first thing to came up is not, "Is Lauren and Camila dating?” Now, if I type in Lauren and Camila, or vice versa, yeah, that’s what I get. The question and answer was part of the PR plan. I loved the girl’s reactions though.

That being said, The best part about the PR stunt for Lauren would be, she doesn’t have to try and sell us on a PR relationship with another dude. Instead of going through another fiasco, like with Brad, she just gets to hang out with her best friend, and maybe kiss her for the cameras a few times here and there. I still believe her and Camila find quality time to be together on the DL, in between Camila’s naps, collabs, videos, and performances, of course. I’m sure Lauren will have side projects of her own. She won’t just be stuck up Lucy’s ass all the time. She’ll, now get to do what she wants in the off season, instead of trying to sell herself as something she’s not, with another made up male lover. Sounds like paradise to me.

“How can I believe this is a stunt, when Lauren looks so happy with Lucy?” What!!! Lauren is happy around Lucy. They have been best friends for ages. They love each other and trust each other implicitly. Besides, Laucy wouldn’t be very believable if Lauren looked miserable around her all the time, would it?

“How can I still believe in Camren, when Camila acts like she can’t stand being around Lauren, or the other girls? She even had her own bus in Europe.” Come on guys. Camila and Lauren can not publicly interact, because they can’t give fodder to the media or Camren shippers. The separate bus was explained if you were paying attention. Camila needed a quiet place, between shows, to communicate with MGK and his people about the concept and ideas for the “Bad Things” video. The very first thing she did when she got back to the States, was go to New York and shoot that video. They recorded the song during the American leg of the tour. They had to have been in constant communication with each other, during the European leg, for that to be the first thing she did when she got home. Everything was all prepped and ready for her when she got there, because they filmed it in a 21 hour period, the day she arrived. The separate bus was work related, not because she didn’t want to be around the girls.

“Why would Syco and Epic agree to a PR stunt like this?” Well, Syco, Epic, and their management teams have been trying, since damn near day one, to put an end to the Camren rumors. They have tried everything. They couldn’t use the term Camren anymore, no more cute selfies, no more cute tweets or long telling B-day posts, and no more sitting together for interviews. All any of that accomplished was making it look like they were trying to hide something. They had to change tactics, so they controlled their public interaction and let them be beside one another occasionally, which made it seem like the lack of fun interaction was Camren’s choice.  There needed to be “tension” between them, for any PR stunt to work. Nothing they tried worked, though. The Camren fandom continued to grow. The PR relationships, they tried with the guys didn’t fly. The only thing to come along and put a weak spot in the Camren rumors, was Lucy. They realized this, formed a plan, and ran with it.

Lucy has managed to do what they have spent damn near five years trying to do. Laucy has not only taken the focus away from Camren in the media, and made Camren shippers doubt the validity of their ship, it has even made people doubt their gaydar where Camila is concerned. Apparently, if she is not with Lauren, she must be “straight”. There are heartbroken Camren shippers out there, who now hope that Camila will find her a nice boy that will make her as happy as Lucy appears to make Lauren. This shit worked like a charm, like they knew it would.

Lastly, “why would Lauren and Camila agree to this if they love each other? Why would they want to "kill” Camren?“ "Killing” Camren is Managements goal, not Camila and Lauren’s. I’m going to be completely honest with you here, and tell you, I strongly believe Camila and Lauren are the ones who actually came up with the idea of Laucy. The only thing they want is to be able to interact and be themselves around each other, without the media questioning their every move, and the “fanatical” shippers disrespecting everyone else in their lives.

The hate those “fanatical” shippers are slinging at Lucy right now, is an example of the exact reason I believe the girls, not only agreed to this stunt, but were the masterminds behind it.

O.K., those are my thoughts on how I came up with my theory, and how I believe this PR stunt could work, if it’s real.

Do I believe Camren is real? I have no problem seeing the purity of the love between them. Is Laucy real? If it is, Lucy is the most forgiving understandable girlfriend on the fucking planet.

Pipsqueak (Tom Holland x Reader)

Hello there, I just have to say I love your writing so much. I think you’re amazing, I was wondering if I could make a Tom Holland x Reader request? Where reader and Tom are dating but it’s like been for a month or so and reader is short and always has trouble reaching things and doing things. (I’m 4'10 so my short problems are real) and Tom just laughs but does help and keeps reminding reader how much he loves how short she is? I just really need some fluff at the moment :)

Originally posted by wwwkissmelovemehugme


“Tommy? Come grab this for me, please?” you ask your boyfriend while standing on your tiptoes, pointing at the baking sheet on the top shelf. You’re baking cookies for Harrison because he just got cast in a short film. The celebration is in an hour and you really want to make him his favourite biscuits before you went. Tom steps forward and wraps one arm around your waist, his hand making contact with your uncovered midriff. You stop reaching towards the cupboard and choose to hug his arm against your body. His other arm reaches out and grabs the baking sheet before handing it to you. “Here you go, sweetness,” he whispers into your hair before stepping back. He retreats back to the couch, but not without pinching your bum first. You swat his hand away.

God, he thinks as he backs away while watching you, I love you.

*

“Babe! Where’d you put the movie?” you called out to Tom. “On the shelf above the TV!” he shouts back from the bedroom. You reach up to grab it but find yourself unable. Instead of struggling, you opt to grab a tall stool from the kitchen counter and to kneel on that. Tom walks in to see you standing on a wooden stool with your arm raised holding the movie out to him. He sighs happily at the sight before choosing to carry you off the stool to the couch. You squeal with laughter when he picks you up. He tosses you onto the cushioned couch and leans to kiss your forehead. Yup, you think as you pull him into a kiss, I definitely love this guy.

*

From that first day, you swear that Tom repeatedly places everything high up so you can’t reach. Your tea mugs have gradually moved from the lowest shelf to the second highest, the cereal lives on top of the fridge instead of on the counter beside it. Everything has moved so you can’t grab anything, and now you’re having family over for dinner. Your families are coming at quarter to six so you have to set the table while dinner is cooking. 

The plates are on the highest shelf above your mugs. With a huff, you pull yourself up onto the counter. Kneeling there you can reach the plates. You hear a snort of laughter from behind you and you turn to see your boyfriend leaning in the doorway. “Not funny,” you mumble. He strolls over to place his hands either side of your knees. He laughs breathily and rests his forehead against the small of your back. “It’s kinda funny,” he tells you. “Well, you can laugh as you’re carrying plates.” “Can do, shortie.” 

Your foot gently kicks his butt as he walks away and he can’t help but chuckle as he hears a muffled “Arsehole”.

*

“(Y/N)?” Harrison calls as he walks through the front door of your and Tom’s apartment. “In here!” you yell back from the living room. He walks in to see you standing on the back of the couch trying to grab something from above the doorway opposite you. The doorways in your apartment with Tom were obnoxiously tall which means you can’t reach, even will a chair underneath your feet. “Oy, get down from there! Tom will kill me if I was here when you broke your neck from falling,” he scolds. “He’s the one making me do it! He put my fucking keys on top of the doorframe!” At this, Harrison doubles over in laughter. 

“I’d understand why,” he says, chuckling. “Why?” you ask. He snorts before replying cheekily, “well, I do have a really good view of your arse from here. It’s definitely not a bad sight.” That gets him a pillow chucked at his face.

I’m totally getting Tom back for this, you think with a smile on your face.

*

“Tom, this needs to stop. I can’t do anything around our house without getting on my tiptoes,” you berate Tom when he walks through the door. “I don’t see what the problem is,” he replies cheekily. “How’d you end up getting your keys?” At this comment, Harrison walks out from behind you into the hallway. Tom doubles over in laughter, “YOU CALLED HARRISON!” he shrieks amused. “Yeah, and apparently I have a nice arse,” you say and wink at Harrison. With that comment, Tom’s laughter dies and he begins to glare at his best friend. You turn to Harrison and get on your tiptoes to kiss his cheek. “Thanks, Haz. You were a big help, today.” Let’s just say Tom was a bit mad at the both of you for a few days.

*

You’ve gotten used to the height of everything by now. You’ve mastered counter climbing as well as chair mounting. Tom can’t help but smile lovingly when he sees your daily conquests to get a tea mug or the cereal box. He likes to watch when you stand on a stool and reach up because his large t-shirts you sleep in ride up your thigh. When you go to grab your jacket from the back of the front door, you instinctively kick your leg up. He doesn’t think he has seen anything better, though, than when you stand on his feet on your tiptoes just to lay a loving kiss to his lips.

“Babe,” he says finally. It’s a Sunday morning and you’re both in lying bed. You hum to acknowledge him. “I love you,” he whispers into your hair, “so, so much.” “I love you too, superhero.”

I love you more, he thinks.

“No, you don’t,” you tell him, still facing away from him.

“What?” he questions.

You turn to face him and snuggle into the pillow before grabbing his hand and wrapping it around your waist.“I can tell right there you were thinking ‘Oh I love you more, though’. But you don’t. It’s a fact.”

He giggles and tells you, “But I do, though. I love you to infinity.”

“Yeah?” You ask. 

“Yeah,” he tells you sincerely; a loving look in his eyes.

When you say, “Well, I love you infinity plus two.” He can’t help but laugh.

the thing about compulsory heterosexuality for me is that it hasn’t been a case of sorting my attraction into “real” and “unreal”. i mean tbh that seems impossible, because attraction as a concept is something im not sure i fully understand how to define, but also – i am attracted to guys sometimes. i have to fuckin fight that, every time i feel it, because i don’t want to feel it. and so for me at least, it’s more a case of sorting stuff into “wanted” and “unwanted”.

and some days i really hate myself, and some days i can’t see my future, being a lesbian, so it’s harder to shake the unwanted feelings. but slowly im getting there. i know i want to spend my life with another woman, if circumstance lets me.

it’s just. i think a lot of stuff about comp het on here treats it like attraction is clear cut and easy to navigate – in my experience, it isn’t. so i try to remind myself that it’s the social influences that cause this, it’s society’s wish for us to be heterosexual, and when im in a good headspace, i can take that to remind myself that. i can be a lesbian. there’s a place in the world for me.