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A Crash Course on Asexuality, for Non-Aces

What is Asexuality?

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. That’s it.

Okay so aces can’t have sex or anything to do with sex?

Nope, that’s not what I said.

Sexual behavior does not determine sexual orientation or lack thereof.

Asexuals can:
- Have a sex drive (libido)
- Masturbate
- Watch porn
- Have dirty minds
- Bake cookies
- Have sex
- Have children
- Get married
- Play sports
- Fall in love

…Or they can have zero interest in any of these things, and none of this has anything to do with their status of being asexual.

Wait, if they can have sex then how are they asexual?!

Asexuals can have sex for lots of reasons. Some want to be close to their partner, or want to have kids, some don’t know they are asexual and have sex just because they think that’s what everyone is supposed to do, some get pressured into sex, some have a libido and have sex purely as a way to get off, but still don’t feel any sexual attraction. Some never have sex, never masturbate, and never understand the point of it.

Every asexual experience is different. Aces can range from sex-repulsed, to completely indifferent, to very sex positive! What all aces have in common is that they don’t feel sexual attraction, or very rarely ever feel sexual attraction.

How do you know if you’ve felt sexual attraction or not?

For some, there is never any doubt they are asexual. For others, sexual attraction can get confused with platonic, aesthetic, romantic, or even sensual attraction. Ultimately, it comes down to the individual to decide whether the asexual label suits them or not.

(Note: Platonic attraction is basically wanting to be friends with someone, Aesthetic attraction is finding someone beautiful (not necessarily ‘standard’ beauty, whatever is beautiful to you), Romantic is wanting to date someone and that can mean different things to different people, Sensual is wanting to have non-sexual contact with someone like kissing, touching, cuddling, and Sexual attraction is wanting to have sexual contact with someone.)

I don’t understand any of this!

It is absolutely okay to not understand asexuality! Trust me, asexuals don’t understand non-aces either. Just remember that even if it’s hard for you to understand, that doesn’t mean it isn’t real! (I don’t understand calculus, but it’s still real!)

How can I be a good ally?

- Educate yourself, read more about it, ask an ace if it’s okay to ask them questions! Odds are, you probably already know a bunch of people who are asexual even if you think you don’t.

- If you have asexual friends, ask them what they are comfortable with in regards to even talking and joking about sex, and then do your best to respect that. Some have dirtier minds than anybody, some are indifferent either way, but others might not be comfortable around any kind of sex talk. Just ask!

- Don’t make acephobic comments. Stuff like, “but everybody wants sex, it’s just natural”, “are you even human?”, “have you seen a doctor/therapist?”, “you’ll change your mind when you meet the right person”, “you’re too young to know”, “you just want attention”, “you must think you’re better than everyone else”, “you can’t be asexual because (I think I know your life better than you)”, “you’re just a prude/frigid/naive”, “you’re never going to have a happy relationship”, “if you don’t have sex with your partner, you don’t really love them”, “how do you know if you’ve never tried it?”, “asexual? so you think you’re a plant/sponge?”, “asexuality isn’t real”, “acephobia isn’t real”… etc and so on, are dehumanizing and just plain ignorant, even if you think you mean well. If you wouldn’t want someone saying that to you, don’t say it to us!

- Don’t erase us. Don’t invalidate us. It’s that simple. Even if you can’t understand asexuality, it’s 100% okay to say, “I don’t understand your experience, but I still support you.”

We aren’t weird, we aren’t trying to be special. Asexuality has always existed, it isn’t new, but lately we’re finally able to say, “Hey, by the way, we exist” and have pride in ourselves. All you need to do is say, “Okay, cool.” Respect it, and carry on. That’s it.

Thank you!
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@cheshirerabit said: Shit, your teacher Bakugou idea is something I never considered but now think would be really cool. Cuz he would not stop being a hero but he wouldn’t half-ass being a teacher so it would be like how All Might attempted to hero and teach but could actually work. Plus, I’m all for Bakugou’s role model switching with time to Aizawa. 10/10 idea.

Anon said: OMG Fran now i want to see Teacher or Older Bakugou or or Bakugou with Aizawa

Bless both of you for giving me a reason to talk about this cause honestly I love this idea way more than striktly necessary - this!!! is how I like to think it would go down:

Keep reading

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Killer Queen is learning how to dress and is very helpful Part 2, I suppose!

I like to scribble KQ in various outfits during my breaks, maybe I’ll post the other ones some day as well

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MORE OF THIS MEME- This time, for AfterDeath, ColorKiller, & SnowBirdd! ;7;

This will be the last ones I do for these memes- it’s probably take a long time until I do these again ;w; oh btw the snowbird one are actually based of this *UNHOLY SCREAMING* RP

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Nothing to see here, just a perfectly regular inconspicuous man with absolutely no criminal history and his completely normal cats

doodling JoJo before bed has been good practice so far my friends

anonymous asked:

Can we see what would happen if fatal were to come to Gothy's place cuz of the note please (btw your art style is adorable!!! Eeeeee!)

the momment a child fed up with so many dark humor that they can’t tell if it’s humor or just dark—

Also as we near the objectively happy occasion of Charles Manson’s death it’s important to remember that he was a white supremacist and that the motive for his crimes was explicitly racist. It’s easier to remember now that he’s got a swastika directly on his face but let’s not act like he was just some random deranged killer, his entire plan hinged on his belief that black people would be unable to function without white people telling them what to do, his idiot plan literally ends with “and then when we’re the only white people left on earth we’ll come out of the bunker and be naturally and immediately put in charge of the whole planet because only white people are smart enough to rule.” Thank god it was such a stupid plan but let’s not act like his whole motivation wasn’t wrapped up in his passionate belief in white supremacist ideology. People talk about him like he’s some sort of generic homicidal maniac and not an actual neonazi whose entire idiot worldview revolved around the idiot belief that white people are inherently superior and that structural white supremacy is a natural inevitability

Sometimes a family is a plant lesbian, her harlequin girlfriend, an enigma, a master of burlap, a crazy cat lady, a living ice cube, the crime lord of penguins, a crocodile cryptid, a walking ball of play-doh, and a defunct district attorney and I think that’s great. 

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Watermarked to ensure protection. Good luck catching all the little foxes ;) But, HERES SIDE A AND B!

All posters will be available on Society6 after November!