julietros

julietros asked:

My sister is getting a degree in Mental Health Studies. I have ADHD and OCD, although I've never studied either. She is constantly correcting me/trying to educate me on both. She thinks she is helping but as someone who is living them, I'm not interested in hearing from someone studying them. She says by correcting me, she is looking out for all the people she knows with illnesses. How do I explain that it isn't her place despite her education?

This is very ableist of your sister. Nobody knows what it’s like for you except you. She might know some general information, but you’re the one with the personal experience, and she is far from an expert if she is still in school (and she won’t be one when she’s finished, either; people who are recognized as experts in this kind of field have doctorates and have spent years specializing in particular disorders - this is totally disregarding the fact that the true experts on what it’s like to have a disorder are those how actually have the disorder in question).

Is there something that you would be willing to hear about from your sister? Maybe she can recommend articles or books that she’s read for her classes. This will keep her involved and let her feel like she’s helping.

But what you really need to do is make it clear to her that you have a doctor/psychiatrist/therapist (whatever) and she is not them, so she actually has zero say in what treatment you pursue, and she definitely doesn’t know anything about your particular case since she is not on your treatment team. In fact, it is unethical of her to try to be a part of your treatment because she is both family and still in training. When she tries to correct you about one of your disorders, tell her “that doesn’t apply to me and my treatment, and I am not talking about this with you.” You have to set and assert your boundaries here.

-J

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julietros asked:

Your blogs get a lot of trolls but you never let them get to you (or at least be seen to). How you deal with people irl may be different but that's okay because these are sometimes people you're going to have to interact with for a long time, you're picking your battles, and no one can always have a witty response at the ready. That said, don't feel badly for being awesome but not sassy 24/7.

Thank you, that means a lot.

I always have a comeback but strangers can and will hurt you and I can’t avoid family so I just take it; this enables me to save the good stuff for trolls for your enjoyment ;)

julietros asked:

What is up with Learning Disability institutions/centres/whatnots doing stuff with ADHD (such as diagnosing) meanwhile ADHD isn't a learning disability? Is there a history there that google isn't telling me?

It’s because while ADHD isn’t a learning disability, it does affect how/what we learn. It’s also because ADHD and learning disabilities are often comorbid, which means that if you’re dealing with a learning disability you may also be dealing with ADHD and treatment needs to take both conditions into account.

-J

julietros asked:

Some of the things people send you make me want to facepalm indefinitely. It's amazing just how many people don't understand the concept of the loc tag being a safe space and why that's important. What's more, they then think you're being racist for wanting it to remain a safe space? Ugh.

Ugh is so right.

The fuckery is rampant today.

But it’s comforting to know that other people understand :)

julietros asked:

Whenever people I know tell me they are concerned they may have ADHD, I always take it seriously and tell them they should look into seeing someone but 99% of the time they laugh it off with a "oh, I wouldn't take meds!" or "I wouldn't want a diagnosis because it might change me!" I find it hard to take a self diagnosis seriously after comments like these thanks to the amount of abuse I went through back when trying to find a professional to test me. What should I be saying to these people?

They really just sound like the typical misguided (maybe just plain ignorant) self-diagnose-ees. It’s totally okay to not want to take meds, but saying “no” to getting a diagnosis if you have a legitimate concern with whether or not you have ADHD is kinda silly. 

And really, yeah, getting diagnosed would change you - for the better. If you KNOW your battle then that means you’ll know how to fight it. 

As for what to do? It’s understandable to get frustrated with these people and they’re going to be plentiful amounts of them. But I think your motivation to help them out with their suspicions is a really great thing! 

Try not to stress yourself out by getting hung up on the misinformed, but don’t give up trying to inform. That’s one of the best things someone with a disorder can do for anyone without it.