Saw this book at the doc. The first part of the book was T.J. teasing her and embarrassing her over and over again.
I like that it shows her thinking to herself how she really feels or maybe something she wants to do to get back at him, and recognizing that she could participate in the that behavior, but that she makes the conscious decision not to because she knows it’s not nice, even though he had teased her a lot in the past. She isn’t motivated by a need for revenge but instead her own efforts to embody kindness and awareness no matter how she actually feels.
It’s easy to let emotions and the satisfaction that our ego selves crave let us be just as bad or worse than someone who has wronged us. But by taking that moment to observe our own thoughts and emotions and to keep them to ourselves because we don’t want to be part of that negative behavior, we can stop perpetuating needless conflict that is mostly about defending/avenging the ego and does not actually serve anyone positively.