I didn’t know why people felt that it was different how Danny reacted to Jorah volunteering vs. Jon volunteering. Until I watched it again.
Then I saw it
This was her reaction to Jorah:
Shock, confusion, worry, the casual ‘what-the-fuck-do-you-mEAN-you’re-going?’ look. but then eventually…
Acceptance… five seconds later.
And then Jon starts talking. when Davos goes “They won’t follow Ser Jorah”, and Jon goes “they won’t have to”. Davos got it right away what the hell this boy was planning to do.
And Danny… Oh, sweet summer child:
She didn’t get it at first. It went from … ‘what..?’ to “oh god..”
THIS is the look of utter f e a r. She is terrified right now, and she does not know what to say. Her inner feelings are conflicting with her job as a queen.
And what face does Jon give?
That face a guy makes when he’s screaming ‘I’m sorry’ in his head.
Now… here’s one of my favorite parts…
Jorah even fucking looks at Danny, waiting for her to SAY something (I think this is also the moment Jorah knew. He just knew)
And Danny… her breathing is so uneven… She is legitimately scared for Jon.
“I haven’t given your permission”
I don’t care what you say… This is not Danny being a Queen. This is Danny being selfish. She let her personal feelings get in the way.
But Jon’s entire speech. About strangers trusting strangers, pulls at her. Jon forcibly pulls the Queen inside of her.
And Danny looks at Tyrion. Hoping for his counsel.
And she finally breaks. She doesn’t accept it, No, no no, she is absolutely 100% against this. But if you are anything like me or probably 99% of people in this world, when you want to say something you cannot say because you are trying to hold yourself together, all you do is nod.