Hello Butterfly, it's a pleasure as always to read you! I have a question I couldn't find (but I suck at it anyway). Jon says to himself that he should love his men but not be their friend, Ned Stark style, when he chooses not to sit with them at meals, etc. But we saw through Arya's PoV in AGoT that Ned made it a point to have meals with his men, hear them yap about their lives, and made that part of his strength as their leader. Did Jon misunderstand Ned, did Arya, or did I misunderstand Jon?