joanna strafford

I don’t use people’s faults or flaws against them to win an argument, because they are not mine to use. Only thieves take things that don’t belong to them. But I do give the truth and that’s worth more than anything in the world. So listen to it. Understand it. And learn from it.
—  Joanna Strafford
Just because a person claims that they are a good person doesn’t get them off the hook when they do bad things. In the end they should be held just as accountable for their behavior as anyone else would. Real people will always fess up to everything they’ve done wrong, make it up to people they unintentionally hurt in the past and not filter their behavior with excuses. If you are good person, you would  make a consistent effort to do the right thing no matter what it takes, no matter the cost.
—  Joanna Strafford      http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/
And those who have treated you bad in the past, don’t want to hear how strong  you are now after everything they put you through. Putting you down or treating you second was not an act of theirs to make you stronger. But you will always show them that life is about experiences and experiences make you who you are today. And karma is the result of what you put back in the world, so make it count and make it right. And strength comes from your ability to let go and move on to a place where happiness and love can be shared with people that appreciate your time and your value your journey.
The more you keep on just living your own life, the more you will keep on proving them wrong.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/ 

Most people will never have something nice to say to you or about you but when it’s their chance of saying something negative don’t be surprised how quickly they are willing to jump on the band wagon. We live in the century of toxic people. Where the only comments you receive on a selfie is the question of why do you take so many pictures of yourself instead of you look nice today - where the message of asking friends if they want to hang out are seen but not replied to. It is a day and age of being replaced when something better comes along and where others are dead-set on finding the right one instead of being the right one to someone that could be. We force friends to change instead of putting in an effort to understand their differences or taking an interest in things that mean more to them then they do to you. It is the day and age of being ignored - where good friendships go unnoticed and where people drift apart purposely.

We need to be more than that. We need to be there in a way that matters. We need to make an effort of being kind to one another even if it starts with the comment you look really nice today on a selfie they just posted up or a compliment when you see them out in the real world trying their best to fit in or sending a message about how their day was and showing some sort of genuine interest in that person’s welfare.

Tell someone they are beautiful even if they’ve heard it thousand times, let them hear it a thousand more. It is not about that person anymore. It is the principle that you noticed them.

The world is hard enough, but being there in a supportive way will always bring comfort to those who continue to struggle.

—  Joanna Strafford 
I know some people will “say that you can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue within their actions.” But if those people are still effected by everything you have to say, somewhere deep down inside they realize that their actions are wrong, they are just too stubborn to admit when they are and are too much of a coward to change them.
—  Joanna Strafford, Tangled

Sometimes the only way to get through to certain people is to give them a dose of their own medicine. In the end it doesn’t always make it right, but unfortunately that is the only way to teach people who are accustomed to old methods. 

And those that judge or pick apart other’s weaknesses or flaws are most likely hiding something they are afraid to expose of themselves. 

In the end the best advice I ever received from my father was to always look at where any negative criticism is coming from to understand why people do or say the things they do.  

They will never learn the importance of their own lessons that God or life or their experiences tried to teach them. Don’t let them stop you from learning your own.

—  Joanna Strafford
I don’t use people’s faults or flaws against them to win an argument, because they are not mine to use. Only thieves take things that don’t belong to them. But I do give the truth and that’s worth more than anything in the world. So listen to it. Understand it. And learn from it.
—  Joanna Strafford
A transformation or metamorphosis is a personal journey: It has nothing to do with what they want, or he wants or she wants or what society wants for us. It has to do with what WE want and what WE need. Our changes will happen whether they agree on those changes or choices or ideas.
A metamorphosis cannot be stopped, just as a caterpillar cannot be stopped from growing into a butterfly.  No one can stop you from being the person you are meant to be. Your life is your life, so always allow your change or metamorphosis be a personal one.
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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/ 

A friend told me the other day that : “One part of putting yourself out there is the fact that people have the choice whether or not to accept your perspective, reject it, or attack you. You are very positive. Some people don’t like those with faith in something that have no faith in themselves.”

But I know eventually these people have to realize that they are in control of their own destiny, future and life and by sitting back and complaining what other people in life are doing will just keep on lessening the chances or the opportunities for them to get what they want in life.

You have the ability to live the life you want to live each and every day you wake up. Don’t deny other people their chances because you refuse to see the merit in your own.

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Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/

I don’t use people’s faults or flaws against them to win an argument, because they are not mine to use. Only thieves take things that don’t belong to them. But I do give the truth and that’s worth more than anything in the world. So listen to it. Understand it. And learn from it.
— 

Joanna Strafford

http://joanna-strafford.tumblr.com/

Just because you cared about a person in the past doesn’t mean that you will always care about them, or you should care about them. If they were toxic to your being, then leaving them behind was the best choice you made. You left them in the past for a reason. Don’t let them give you a reason to go back there.
—  Joanna Strafford
You taught me how to keep calm, you taught me how to stay strong. You taught me how to focus on what is truly important and how to disregard what isn’t. Those are the lessons I needed and will always need. Thank you for being there. There are only certain people that come into our lives that will make a big impact in good ways. Remember, who they are and stay loyal to them. True friends are hard to come by and sometimes even harder to be. Do your best at doing what is right.
—  Joanna Strafford
It’s  better to ignore something that makes you jealous then to pretend to be happy for the person you keep on pretending for. It’s a song and a dance that you should have given up on trying to learn, because the moves are all wrong. Stop pretending to be something you are not, stop creating lies to foreshadow the truth of your insecurities. Not everything is about you. Work hard for your own achievements; Give yourself something to believe in, but don't stand in the light of those who are just trying to succeed. Create your own light. Create your own opportunities.
—  Joanna Strafford
If you find yourself complaining about the friends that are around you for not appreciating you for who you are, then maybe it’s time to change the friends that you surrounded yourself with. Don’t hang out with negative people and then complain about how negative they are. You may not be able to change the people around you, but you can certainly change the settings and those settings will allow you to move on to bigger and better things. Find your own self worth and realize that you deserve to be around people who will go out of their way to make you ‘smile’ not vice versa. Don’t explain to the people that you need to cut ties from, just cut them from your life. Most of them will feel they either have a part in your life or deserve to be a part of your life without actually making an effort to be there in a positive way. If you do nothing to change the environment that you find yourself in, then you will never see positive changes.
—  Joanna Strafford
People that can’t handle the truth due to fear of their delusions being shattered or of the fear of being wrong, will do everything they can to distort what you say or put words in your mouth. Their only defense is a ‘play on words,’ because they are not intelligent or courageous enough to come up with their own. They bother people that are trying to achieve their own dreams by having negative thoughts instead of being happy for them. Never explain yourself to anyone who seems jealous, intrusive or committed to misunderstanding you. They purposely want you to trip on your journey. Let them know that they need to focus on bettering themselves. The nicer you are to them, the more they either will hate you for it or love you for making them see a new perspective that could help them in their future. Encourage them as much as you can without losing site of your journey. The more you feed into the negativity and argue back, the more you will loose focus on what is important in your life and what will help you maintain balance and inner peace.
—  Joanna Stafford (Becoming Joanna Strafford: The Collected Quotes and Writings, Vol 3)
Open-mindedness needs to stand behind every thought, every action and every conscious effort for change to grow into something better. With this, you will able to change with your surroundings without losing your values or what stands important to you. You will be able to welcome new experiences and understand different approaches to life. You will face challenges or obstacles without self-doubt being the one thing to stand in your way and where risk will overcome the dark clouds of fear. Your strength will blossom. You will have the chance to experience life to the fullest. And maybe life experiences are not what you ever planned them to be, but in the end you accepted those chances and made them your own. Remember this, remember this always. You have what it takes.
—  Joanna Strafford

I really give credit to those who change for the better, who realize their own negative or toxic way of thinking has prevented themselves from moving forward or has prevented others from realizing their own potentials. True confidence does not come from knocking down other people but by encouraging those people to strive to be better.

No matter what happened in the past, you can change. You can improve. You can be better than the person you were yesterday and you can make a difference in your life. The ball is in your court.

And remember your dreams are valid; don’t make anyone feel they have the right to keep you from soaring too high into the sun.

It’s your flight, if they were so concerned about you getting burned they would have giving you sun block before you ventured out into the unknown. Only insecure people will try to clip your wings, before you even had the chance to know how far you could fly.

—  Joanna Strafford
Those who are invested in you for the wrong reasons won’t give you room to be who you are meant to be without suffocating you with their own expectations or with the expectations of others.  Most people who expect an award for teaching you to let go have refused to learn their own life lessons. And we end up trusting the wrong people or expect too much from a friend who was only willing to give so little. But that’s a lesson that we give to ourselves. In the end not everyone is worth the time or the effort we bestow onto them. But we learn to let go to make room for things that are better.
—  Joanna Strafford