I think you and theculturalvaccuum have brought this up before, but why do D&D love the "we don't choose who we love" bit so much? Unless you're speaking in strict terms of sexual attraction, you actually have a great deal of choice who you love. I really don't understand why D&D find this so g-d clever, but it seems pretty clear this is a spot where they're convinced they've "improved" on GRRM's work.
Yeah, like, this is really not a major theme of GRRM’s, is it? And when it’s there, it’s not quite so positive (Robb and Jeyne).
I’m not sure I really want to psychoanalyze why it is that D&D are so drawn to this sentiment, especially when there’d be heavily unsavory implications based on certain um…patterns of what they seem to find romantic (especially in Benioff’s works). Like, whatever their reasons are, you hit the nail on the head that they think this is an improvement, for sure.
Maybe this is their idea of being progressive? It’d be about as misaimed as everything else they do.