If you make sexuality about attraction to identities
you are fucking homophobic.
Sexual orientation isn’t attraction to some “gender identity” that probably even changes from time to time. It never was.
If sexual orientation depends on the current identity in other peoples heads then it can be changed by others at will. They would have the ability to control your sexual attraction, your desires and so on.
And that’s exactly what trans/genderqueer activists try to do.
“Why are u not attracted to me although I identify as [insert jendah identity]. U are a [insert something] !111 Examine why you don’t like [insert sexual organ]!1 If you aren’t attracted to [insert jendah identity] you aren’t a REAL [insert sexual orientation]1!1
Now here’s the thing - if you picked a random “stereotypically feminine” woman on the street, the odds are overwhelmingly the case that she’ll be cissexual. Despite social gender stereotypes being perpetuated by billions of cis men and women, with the tiny number of trans people having about as much influence as a cork bobbing about in the wake of a supertanker, all the bad things associated with “gender” are apparently all our responsibility.