TELL ME BITCH. TELL ME. I DAMN RIGHT KNOW THAT IF I WENT TO ANY GAS STATION ID FIND 3 MIDDLE AGED MEN WHO STINK OF GONE OFF CHEESE AND HAVE DIRTY FINGERNAILS. NOT MY MANS WHO IS LEGIT A GIFT FROM GOD HIMSELF.
4 years ago today, on April 7th 2012, I asked my mom who was hosting SNL that night. She said Sofia Vergera and some boyband called One Direction. She then asked me “have you heard of them? do you like them?”
and i swear to God, i looked over at her with such disgust etched into my face. and i said: “fuck no. that wimpy boyband? I’m not 8 years old, mom.”
Red Ronnet raised his lantern. “I wished to see where the bear danced with the maiden not-so-fair.” His beard shone in the light as if it were afire. Jaime could smell wine on his breath. “Is it true the wench fought naked?”
“Naked? No.” He wondered how that wrinkle had been added to the story. “The Mummers put her in a pink silk gown and shoved a tourney sword into her hand. The Goat wanted her death to be amuthing. Elsewise…”
“ … the sight of Brienne naked might have made the bear flee in terror.” Connington laughed.
Jaime did not. “You speak as if you know the lady.”
I could have never said it better than this wow. It’s a combination of ignorance, peer pressure, and innocent decisions that ended up bad ones. Read before you judge, people, don’t start pointing fingers right out the gate.
“I don’t know where to start. I just found out about the situation about an hour ago, and I’ve been monitoring tweets and comments on articles and forums since then. I think I’ve got the basic gist of what’s happened, but feel free to correct me if I’ve missed something.
First off, I’d like to say that I am from Arcadia (but please don’t doxx me). I recognized several people from the pictures and videos, and I know what kind of people they are. I know what circle Mark came from before he was scouted. A small portion of people from Arcadia are ABGs and white-washed, and they could honestly care less about K-Pop and Korean culture. In these past few years especially, more and more underage people have been getting turnt and faded all of the time, and they’ll rave and go to kick-backs starting from freshman year of high school. It’s the sad reality. The N-word is tossed around like it’s nothing, especially because there is virtually no African-American presence in Arcadia. Most of Arcadia is made up of Asian-Americans and elderly Caucasians. We live in a bubble of sorts and most of us have had a very different high school experience from the typical American.
Most students from Arcadia High School don’t engage in this type of behavior, at least not until they enter college, but we’re definitely getting to the point where we are like a typical American high school now, just with a huge emphasis on academia. And I’ll say it outright: people from Arcadia and the San Gabriel Valley care a lot about their popularity, social media presence, and “likes.” So I’m not surprised that Mark’s friends took this grand opportunity to make their presence known to IGOT7s, knowing that their follower counts would instantly skyrocket. Joey and Jessica’s Instagrams are testament to that. As an Arcadian and a friend of Joey’s, I’m ashamed of their actions. They should’ve kept this private party to themselves, but of course they wouldn’t pass up such a goldmine for like-farming.
And apparently, their behavior during the concert was atrocious as well. They do not have experience with K-Pop concerts. For them, concerts are equivalent to raves and music festicals like Hard Summer, Electric Daisy Carnival, Coachella, etc. It’s normal to go these festivals while drunk and/or drugged, and to go completely wild in the audience. Not to mention, wearing minimal clothing is normal as well. So I’m honestly not surprised that they were apparently drunk and acting crazily, because to them, it’s what a normal music festival is like.
With Yugyeom’s situation, it’s tough to judge. Because yes, he was technically drinking as a minor in the United States. But in Korea, he is legal. And he might not have known about the alcohol age limit in America. (Not to mention, there were other underage drinkers at the party). Of course, he should have been informed, but let’s just give him the benefit of the doubt and say he didn’t know. There was likely a lot of peer pressure from Mark’s friends, being that it was a typical college party scene, and they probably told him to relax and take a couple of shots. As a foreigner who likely wanted to fit in with the “cool kids,” he probably took the shots. It’s funny to see your friends drunk, so the girls who SnapChatted him likely wanted to showcase this, forgetting that because Yugyeom is a K-Pop celebrity, things like this are going to heavily impact his and GOT7’s image negatively.
As for Bambam, I’m quite dismayed, but I can understand why he said it. Like I said earlier, Arcadia has a very small percentage of African-Americans living here. We do not know the trials and tribulations that the African-American community has undergone throughout centuries, because of the N-word and other derogatory terms. In pop culture, these racial slurs trend and so, because people want to be “edgy and cool,” they adopt these terms into their vocabulary. I’m almost postive that Mark’s friends were casually using the N-word to address each other and Bambam likely picked it up to fit in. In an environment like that, it’s very easy to be pressured into doing and saying small things like that. But that doesn’t excuse him for saying it whatsoever. As a celebrity with large followings in countries all over the world, it’s important to be aware of other cultures and the sensitive topics that should not be broached. The N-word is one of them. And considering that there have already been several controversies surrounding the N-word within K-Pop, most of these idols should be aware that this word should be immediately black-listed from their vocabulary. He could have used any other word in the English dictionary to address Mark while they were taking pictures, but he chose that one and I am extremely disappointed that he did. I can’t imagine how African-American IGOT7s and Bambam-stans must be feeling, to have this racial slur tossed around by someone they look up to and admire.
I’m not going to talk about Mark’s tattoo, because that’s really nothing in comparison to everything else that happened. And the whole Junior and Jessica thing is kind of unnecessary. I’m really glad Youngjae decided to stay at the hotel, because he also could’ve been easily influenced to drink as a minor in the United States, while being legal in Korea. And I’m extremely glad that JB and Jackson didn’t get caught up in anything either. Not to mention, Jackson’s probably having a hard time already with the whole support-China political issue happening. And no, I’m not going to get into that, because honestly, I am just so emotionally drained right now and that issue is a world of its own. I don’t even think I could write a well-informed post on that, because I don’t personally know the issues felt by those directly affected by this situation. And as a Chinese-American, I know Mainlanders get hated on for a lot of things and they do deserve it a lot of the times. I’m just going to respect the idols for whatever they decide to do, whether they speak up or not, because there might be a lot of things happening behind the scenes that the public is unaware of.
These past three hours have been crazy, with reading all of the articles, comments, and tweets about the Chinese politics and the GOT7 scandals. It’s just really sad that GOT7 has scandals now and that they happened in my city, because of the actions of my peers. I am honestly so done with K-Pop’s 2016.
(i might remove this post later because i really dont wanted to be doxxed, but we’ll see. so if you want this post to stay, please dont try and find out who i am. thank you.)”
Anonymous said: “Hello~ I was wondering if you could do a got7 reaction to you being/playing in sports?”
MARK: Mark would love that you are sporty as he finds it very attractive. He would love watching you partake in any games and would tell people “She’s my girlfriend,” while watching from the side.
JACKSON: Jackson has mentioned many times that he likes a girl who is sporty so when you said you were into sports he liked you even more. He would beg you to play basketball with him and when he lost would proclaim that he, “Let you win.”
JINYOUNG: Jinyoung wouldn’t be surprised when you told him you played sports as he already checked out your body enough times to know. He would tease you about “Not being as good” as him, but deep down he knew he was wrong.
YOUNGJAE: This fluff ball would be so proud of you whenever you had a game/tournament. He would invite all his friends and the members to watch and would take loads of pictures of you while you played as, “You were too beautiful not to.”
JAEBUM: Jaebum loved that you were into sports as he knew he could be competitive with you. A little rivalry between you two sparked, bets on who was the better soccer/football player began. However, he always said that, “You cheated” whenever you won.
BAMBAM: Bambam would be like JB in the fact that he created something competitive between you two. However, the two of you bet on things such as a “New pair of shoes” or “Paying for the dinner” which was decided through a weekly basketball game.
YUGYEOM: Yugyeom adored your love for sports as he saw the passion pour out of you. He would find you so beautiful while playing sports and always wanted to cuddle you after, even if you screamed that you were, “Too sweaty to be hugged right now.”
Being with JB was a weird experience for you. It felt like both nothing had changed and that everything had changed. You’d still go out for coffee like you always did before and you’d both sit together in lectures and seminars, which you often did anyway. It seemed like the only thing that had changed was that you’d kiss each other every time you met or had to say goodbye. It was so clear that not much had changed when you told some of the people in your seminar and they had said, “Wait, you weren’t dating before?” Practically everyone knew the two of your were together and they shipped you both so much. A few of the girls on campus who found JB attractive weren’t too happy about it since you had ‘stolen’ their man when in reality, he had never shown any interest in them whatsoever. But even they couldn’t deny the literal heart eyes JB had when he looked at you. He would look at you as if you were the most precious thing on Earth. He adored you so much, and you adored him just as much.
It was a common occurrence for you and JB to be sat in a cafe, drinking coffee and sharing a cookie while you chatted only to be interrupted by someone, usually Bambam or Jackson. “Ah look at the lovebirds! How cute are they?” Jackson said loudly as he sat beside you, his own coffee in hand. Bambam and Yugyeom, a dance student who was close with Bambam, sat on either side of JB. “Such couple goals! I can’t handle how cute they look,” Bambam said dramatically as he grabbed his camera and tried to take a cute aesthetic shot of the coffee cups. JB looked at you apologetically, worried you’d be annoyed that they were interrupting another one of your dates. You didn’t mind though, they were all nice lads and you enjoyed their company. Even if it wasn’t at the best of times. You couldn’t count the number of times someone had come over to visit JB’s flat while the two of you were having alonetime. They were even worse when that happened. This was nothing compared to that.
As the five of you sat and talked, Jinyoung then came to join you all. Over the time you had known him, Jinyoung had quickly become one of your closest friends. He sat beside you and joined in the conversation, glad the attention was on yours and JB’s relationship rather than his own. Noticing how happy he was to discuss your relationship, you made sure not to leave him out. “So Jinyoung, how’s everything going with Mina?” You asked, sipping on your coffee as you looked at him innocently. “Fine,” he responded, looking at you with an evil glare as he prayed none of the others would add on to the conversation. “Oh, Jinyoung do tell us all about Mina,” JB then said, grinning at you as he realised that you had planned the subject change in his favour. “I don’t have much to tell really so I’d appreciate it if you dropped the subject.” “Aw, come on! Just tell us something!” Yugyeom begged him. “Yeah, like have you got it in yet?” Bambam asked, winking at him. Under the table, you kicked Bambam’s leg and scowled. “That’s my roommate you’re talking about there. And I was thinking more along the lines of, have you asked her out yet?” “Yeah, we’re going out together at the weekend. I won’t tell you any more than that since i know this lot will try and find us to tease us or something.” “I totally understand. Interrupted dates are the last thing you want,” you replied, looking around the table at the four boys who had all done the exact thing you described. “Oh, (Y/N), our lecture on Victorian poetry is starting in about 20 minutes,” JB said as he saw the alert on his phone. “We better go then. I’ll see you all later,” you said as you left the table, JB’s hand in yours.
Even if they could be annoying by crashing your dates, you did love being friends with all of them. They really did care for you and liked having you around too. They especially like the fact that JB had softened up ever since dating you. He’d always be intent on keeping up his ‘chic and sexy’ persona but hadn’t cared about that reputation as much ever since you started dating him and had told him you much preferred his softer side. Despite his appearance, JB really was a total softie. There’d be nights where he was staying over at your flat for the night and he’d be sat on your bed cuddling you as you typed up an essay, his chin resting on your shoulder. He would watch you type and come up with new points to write about and would often kiss your cheek softly as a form of encouragement. Then, as soon as you typed the last word and clicked save, he’d be pulling you down onto the bed for a proper cuddling session. The first time he had done it, you were in total shock because of how soft he was being. But now that you had gotten used to it, you would be more surprised if he didn’t do it. Even though he was soft as anything, there’d still be many nights where he couldn’t keep his hands to himself and would be constantly feeling you up while you wrote your essay, waiting for you to be done so he could finally get what he wanted. Those nights were just as fun since JB always knew how to get you feeling just as needy as he was with only a few simple touches. You always knew you were in for a good night when JB was staying over and neither of you had any morning lectures to go to.
My Idol is a South Korean competitive reality dating game show. It currently airs on Wednesday nights on Jae-bummer’s blog. First broadcast in 2016, the show offers the opportunity for a lucky fan to go on seven blind dates with seven idols. The idol plans the date with the show throwing in specific missions to complete during the day. At the end of the initial dates, the show opens up an audience vote to decide what three idols will move on to the second date.