i’m not saying you should idolize larry murphy, i’m not saying you should love him. but i think before you go bash on him, you need to understand him.
the charcters in dear evan hansen are incredibily three dimensional, we all know that and we all acknowledge that. do they fuck up? yes, of course. everyone makes mistakes, and DEH focuses on the why. why does it happen? why do they do it? what makes them do the things they do?
we already know evan’s story well, we’ve seen many glimpses of jared’s, connor’s, heidi’s, cynthia’s. they’ve all made some mistakes. excpet everyone is so keen on blaming one person for this. that person is larry murphy. it might be because he has such a minor role in the musical (compared to characters like evan or heidi) or he just doesn’t do anything. he doesn’t do much, he doesn’t say much about connor and apprently people are angry with that. everyone’s so keen on bashing larry murphy, and i mean bashing. i’ve seen some pretty horrific attempts on humour circling around larry and the hate on him. ‘he should’ve taken care o his son like he did with his glove’. you hate on him because he ‘wasn’t there’ for connor.
but isn’t that exaclty what connor did? isolate himself? cause grief to his family, push himself away from cynthia, abuse zoe and ignore larry? you all see to forgive connor to easily, that you aren’t aware of what larry is trying to do? he’s quiet, he seemingly ‘doesn’t’ care’ about his son, but maybe because… he doesn’t know how? just like connor didn’t know how to talk to zoe, or make friends at school? how brash connor and evan’s first interaction was? larry murphy doesn’t know HOW to deal with anything. but he’s trying, and y’all just ignore that.
in ‘to break in a glove’, larry says:
‘or you’re just trying to do what’s best for a kid who’s lost control,’
he’s not trying to say that he did everything he could for connor and it’s CONNOR’S fault that their family is broken, he’s not trying to justify his lack of communication and say ‘it was the right thing for connor but connor didn’t listen’
he’s trying to say that he’s tried HIS best to help connor but his best wasn’t enough, and he KNOWS that it wasn’t enough. and he’s quiet, maybe not as close to connor and maybe that’s viewed as neglection. maybe he wants to talk to connor but he can’t. maybe he just doesn’t know what to say and is scared of screwing the entire thing up even further. or maybe, just like connor, he doesn’t know HOW to talk to someone. maybe, he’s just like connor.
i’m not trying to justify his actions. i’m not trying to say that what he did wasn’t wrong.
i’m just trying to get you to understand that there isn’t ‘one villain’ in this story. there’s more than one. villains are actions, villains are words, but in DEH, villains are not people.