Would I rather not have been adopted? I don’t know. The question demands that I calculate unquantifiables. How can I weigh the loss of my language and my culture against the freedom that America has to offer, the opportunity to have the same rights as a man? How can a person exiled as a child, without a choice, possibly fathom how he would have ‘turned out’ had he stayed in Korea? How many educational opportunities must I mark on my tally sheet before I can say it was worth losing my mother? How can and adoptee weigh her terrible loss against the burden of gratitude she feels for her adoptive country and parents?
— Jane Jeong Trenka, The Language of Blood