Lmao it still boggles my mind that in all the popular and progressive Media™ ive seen recently Jake Peralta is the only dude who confesses his romantic feelings with zero attitude of expectation or entitlement and completely puts the person he’s confessing to’s emotional agency as the priority over his own disappointment
Y'all it’s not that hard to write baseline respect of autonomy into your male character’s interactions with the women they love
“Personal size and mental sorrow have certainly no necessary proportions. A large bulky figure has as good a right to be in deep affliction, as the more graceful set of limbs in the world.”
- Jane Austen, Persuasion
“I have great pleasure in thinking you will be so happily settled. I have not a doubt of your doing very well together. Your tempers are by no means unlike. You are each of you so complying, that nothing will ever be resolved on; so easy, that every servant will cheat you; and so generous, that you will always exceed your income.” - Mr. Bennet (Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen)
ISFJ: surprise gifts. mom friends. SASS. thoughtfully wrapped packages left on your doorstep. baking cookies. holiday traditions. hating changes. antique stores. being a solid rock for your friends. bookshelves with well worn books. holding hair up with a pen. elegant coats. stuffing angry words down deep. earthy colors. a hidden quirkiness. steampunk things. having impeccable etiquette and manners. jane austen books. planning roadtrips. world market, having all your friends around you and feeling content. that moment when you finished something you had been dreading. fog over a lake. oil paintings. vanilla and spices. chocolate ice cream. feeling broken but holding your tears in. not telling your friends your problems bc you don’t want to burden them. looking at someones actions rather than just their words. apple pie. loyalty. keeping secrets. hot chocolate on cold evenings by the fireplace. huge, old wooden doors. holding hands. handmade gifts, heart to heart convos. being the worker in the background. not being confrontational but if someone hurts your friend they had better watch out. letters that smell nice. neat handwriting.