James T. Kirk is not your Everyman. He’s not your own self-insert male power fantasy. He’s not your generic heterosexual protagonist who’s “too cool to care” about the rules and regulations that come with his high-risk/high-responsibility job. He’s not your depthless heroic leading man who sees women as commodities and kills his enemies without a second thought.
James T. Kirk is the embodiment of optimism for the future. He’s proof that if people could be a bit kinder, a bit softer, a bit more careful with how they treat others, that the world may one day end up churning out a man like him. He’s been through horrible, unspeakable things in his life, and he survived through it all to become the well-rounded, multi-layered, compassionate character you refuse to actually see and understand. He isn’t someone who acts on impulse due to a lack of care or regard for consequences—in fact, that couldn’t be further form the truth. When he does act on impulse, it’s because he cares too much. He wears his heart on his sleeve, and he isn’t afraid to show the ones he loves that he really is with them till the ends of the universe. That’s a promise to them that he could never break, because he is—above all else—a man of his own word.
James T. Kirk wasn’t designed to be relatable. He was designed to be inspirational.