Shipping is okay with real people when it’s done respectfully. Here are MY do’s and don’ts of shipping real people:
DO: make fanfics and fanart. It’s a great way to improve your writing and drawing skills and it’s a fun way to express yourself.
DON’T: send the people involved in the ship said fanfics and art unless it’s ASKED for. It can make them uncomfortable, and put a strain on their friendship, which no one wants. (Especially you!)
PRO TIP: If you have fan art that is all friendship and not romantic/sexual, send it to them! Everyone loves a drawing of themselves!
Examples: Minicat, H2ovanoss, and Phan.
DO: Spread positivity! Compliment each others fanfics and artwork. Support each other’s headcannons and opinions!
DON’T: Hate on someone’s fanfic or fan art if it display’s something you’re uncomfortable with, such as smut and/or triggering content. Although, said fanfics should be tagged accordingly and given the proper warnings.
PRO TIP: If you see fan art promoting any vile and inappropriate issues, REPORT IT. For example, a fanfic that someone wrote for a fandom I was in, was promoting Pedophilia and that IS NOT OK. Please take proper measures to get the fanfic promoting serious issues such as pro-rape, pedophilia, romantization of self-mutilation, and etc. removed.
Examples of this are in banana bus squad EVERY FANDOM.
DO: Send sweet tweets and comments that contain something along the lines of; “You two are so cute!” “I love your friendship!” and other sweet comments like that.
DON’T: Send tweets and comments that say something like, “They’re definitely fucking” “Are you two dating?” “Are you guys gay?” “I bet they secretly like each other! Look at all this evidence!” “You and your girlfriend/boyfriend need to break up so you can date [insert name here]!” and other comments along the line of those. It’s rude and disrespectful and makes them feel uncomfortable.
PRO TIP: If someone in your ship starts dating someone else, DO NOT ATTACK THEM. It’s rude, awful, and down right just nasty. It’s an extremely childish thing to do. Respect their partners like you would your favorite person.
Some examples of ships that have grown apart in real life because of excessive shipping and hate being sent their romatic partners are: Troyler, Septiplier, and H2ovanoss.
DO: Make friends within the fandom and have healthy discussions about other ships, headcannons, and posts.
DON’T: Attack someone if your OTP is their NOTP. Do not put hate on headcannon’s and fanfic about how “They would never do that in real life”. Fanfiction and headcannons are suppose to be fun. The way people write their fics are their own choice and maybe be inspired by things they have dealt with in the past. I know that when I write fanfics they can get a bit ooc because I focus on the story line, rather than the people I’m writing it about.
Some examples of shippers that have hated on others for the reasons above are: Destiel, Phan, and Jaspar.
Above all, keep the shipping, the fanfics, and the romantic/sexual fan art in the fandom. If they wanted to see it, they would ask for it, or find it themselves.
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