This is a weird ask, and I'm sorry. You and your wife seem super happy, and seem kind of perfect. Is it ok to not be perfect? It is always kind of tiering and exhausting, and the perfect is sometimes true but also just a shine you put on things? I love how perfect you guys seem, but I don't know how to be perfect. Sorry is this is super inappropriate
Oh honey, oh darling, it’s not at all inappropriate. I’ve had a couple of people ask me this, so let me tell you the trick :)
I ONLY POST THE GOOD STUFF.
Mary and I are grown-ass adults, and while I know a lot of people use social media as a forum to vent about their spouses (WHICH IS TOTALLY FINE! I don’t judge!), Mary and I are completely up our own asses when it comes to tumblr, twitter and facebook. So we don’t talk shit.
In the immortal words of Jake Jensen, from Andy Diggle and Jock’s The Losers, ‘Don’t start none, won’t be none’. This is the mantra for our relationship. I’m not kidding, this is our #1 rule. Don’t start none, won’t be none. Don’t start shit, be respectful, and that respect will be returned.
Honey, we have problems. We have big problems.A couple of months ago we went through a seriously rough patch, as we are want to do. But you don’t see it, because that’s our private business. I have a couple of friends that I vent to, as I am sure Mary does as well (OR NOT MARY WOULD IT KILL YOU TO TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS COME ON DON’T BE SO TEXAN ALL THE TIME), and discussing my problems allows me to approach it with a more clear perspective.
Please don’t think we’re perfect. We’re not. We’ve had bad days, bad weeks, bad months. We’ve made stupid decisions and said stupid things that have hurt eachother (Me, I have said stupid things. I am the instigator I ADMIT IT).
But when it comes down to it, this is the simple truth: Our relationship is more important than our arguments. We are never, ever leaving eachother. We’ve got ten years in the can, we’ve got infinity more to come. No argument is worth threatening that. We respect eachother, we are honest with eachother, and we (realistically) put eachother’s happiness first.
That’s why you only see the happy stuff. That’s the stuff worth talking about, worth showing the world. It’s just the tip of the iceberg that is our relationship, we have our problems. But we only show the world what we want to.
And it’s totally okay to be flawed and inperfect. Everything is, my darling. Me, Mary, our relationship, you, this whole world. It just comes down to protecting those few moments of perfect happiness by constantly working on the rough edges <3