As you get older, you might start to find that things get harder. The world isn’t always a kind place. Especially for men like us. Take a look at the people on this mat. We are your community. When things get hard, we are gonna be the ones who hold each other up. As Randall’s father, you are his foundation. Come lie down, as if you’re gonna do a push-up. Randall, climb on your father’s back.
And all I was supposed to feel was grateful.
I was supposed to just shut up and be thankful that I had these great parents who wanted me when my birth parents didn’t.
But the truth is you never wanted me, either.
What are you talking about? I was a replacement for your dead baby. That’s all I’ve ever been. You got it all wrong, son. No, I’ve spent my life striving for perfection, and you know why, Dad? ‘Cause I live in fear.
That if I let up for a moment, I will remember that I am unwanted.
I was just supposed to shut up and be thankful that I had these great parents who wanted me when my birth parents didn’t. But the truth is, you never wanted me either. I was the replacement for your dead baby, that's all I’ve ever been.
My dad put on a tie every day because he had to. I put one on every day because I want to. It’s important you know that. Maybe I don’t run into burning buildings for a living, but to me, my work is challenging and exciting. I will not apologize for the fact that it’s hard to explain to people.