its not even all

anonymous asked:

I saw your tags on the apologizing link and I remember the last time they talked about apologizing was a gmmore, and link said he won't apologize unless he actually means it. Like when u bump into somebody by mistake he won't say sorry because he's not sorry then Rhett said that he would say sorry because it will solve the problem right away, even if he didn't mean it!!

I need to rewatch that GMMore! I could have sworn it was the other way around. Perhaps they are already taking a page from each other’s books.

There are so many men who give lip service to feminism/women’s rights/true equality, but have no desire to actually meaningfully change anything. So I am at a loss for why people think educating men is a great thing and that they, men, will step up to help us if we do this. Let me put in this way, think of an abusive relationship. Part of the reason abusers exist is because they get benefits okay? They get to do what they want, when they want, have who they want at their beck and call, AND experience no consequences. An abuser gets benefits from an abusive relationship. In the same way, this system is beneficial for men. It’s actually especially beneficial for the “good” ones, which is a joke, but also another conversation. However, when we talk about abusive relationships, what *always* gets lost in these conversations? That men benefit. This system, and other systems of oppression, are like an abusive relationship on a mass scale. There is no incentive for men, *even good men*, to stop unless it is forced. Within abusive relationships that force is often distance (separatism) or physical (self defense). That is why I advocate both, not education. Educate kids and women sure, but leave the men behind. Because this is before I even get to what happens to men who learn feminism/feminist theory and use it for themselves. Men who want to do the work, who have morals, will always be there. But mass education for true change, especially in this culture now (porn anyone?), is not realistic *and* predators are always changing tactics so good luck keeping up with everything. All of my experience leads back to oppressors only change when forced or they want to. I don’t want to wait around for the second option

to the people living with their abusers who aren’t able enough to get out, who are so traumatized that they can’t function, i hear you. you’re not worthless, you’re not weak or deserving of punishment. even if you’re an adult.

when you’re traumatized and you live with the person (or people) who abuse you, that fear doesn’t always turn to active motivation to escape. sometimes being retraumatized sucks away our ability to function because we’re using all our energy focusing on the immediate threat. why would you have extra room to think about a job or school when you’re in danger? your brain is trying to protect you.

please remember that you’re not failing. you’re coping with an overwhelming situation, and sometimes that’s the best you can do.

tomplinson  asked:

I agree with the post on how Isak can't save even with being manic. But personally I think Isak would "save" even by loving him just the way he is unlike Sonja did. Where she blamed anything she doesn't agree with on his mental illness, which is obviously unhealthy for Even. So personally I think Even saved Isak with his confusion on his sexuality, while Isak saves Even from a unhealthy environment.

yeah i agree because honestly people who think a mental illness can be ‘cured’ w love or whatever honestly have never even been close to someone w a mental illness 

yeah i think it would be great if they meant that isak will accept even in all that he is 

andddd I’m off to London until saturday~! c: hope you’ll have a great week guys and pls enjoy both YOI and the HQ!! finale for me as well i CRY 

tfw ur six paragraphs into yr argument but u realize u fucking mischaracterized the nature of the spatial relationship to crime & have 2 go back & fucking revise all yr goddamn conclusions bc bols is a DIFFERENT favorite trope of the criminal-spatial-lies continuum

not to be Dramatique but can u believe sarah jane smith singlehandedly invented fashion in 1976 with her iconic™ pink pinstripe overalls, the crimson top, candy cane striped socks, and new balance sneakers… ur faves could never?

qrowin-shitposts replied to your post: i feel like i’m getting a lot of ship related asks…

Your Kacchako metas inspire me and we seek your opinion on many things

WELL… THE THING IS 

besides kacchako and toshinko, my opninion on MHA ships pretty much range from “it seems cute, but i don’t ship it,” “i don’t see where the chemistry comes from???” or “I… I don’t care”

it’s… fairly lackluster. there’s not much for me to comment on b/c i just… don’t really care, so i don’t really see the point in asking me about ships b/c i’m not really going to give anyone a good answer one way or the other

now Dad Might, Dadzawa, platonic relationships, and friendships between the characters–ohohoho, now THAT’S gonna get my attention and i’ll usually  have plenty to say on the subject

but in relation to ships, it’s pretty much just…. *shrug*

good morning glitter bombs  !  my to-do list for today says  :  be a meme.

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Beasts Within - Chapter 22 - New Era
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
By Organization for Transformative Works

Relationships: TodoBakuDeku, KiriKami

Summary:

“I can’t believe you thought you could keep your relationship a secret though. Just look at how sickeningly in love you three are!” Kiri couldn’t help but laugh yet again as both Shouto and Deku blushed and covered their faces with their hands at the same time.

“You’re one to talk!” Bakugou yelled suddenly. His face was redder than Kiri had seen in a very long time. Bakugou motioned towards him and Denki and screamed, “When we’re you going to tell me about this!”


Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…….
I can’t believe it’s over??
I am both sad and have a sense of accomplishment XD

jesus h christ, is it physically impossible for a dude to just be like “oops, my mistake” when they’re BLATANTLY GODDAMN INCORRECT and you correct them (which I always do politely and probably too gently bc I’m nice, dammit)

like they will totally ignore that they even MADE an error and just….. act like it never happened!!! which can lead to some very confusing conversations and me feeling like I am the one who somehow made a mistake or misunderstood

which I absolutely did not, goddammit

protip: quit it