its not a waste

usachavez  asked:

every time i hear "treat people how you wanna be treated" it is always ALWAYS said to marginalized groups and never at their oppressors. what a waste of a motherfucking platform, mark.

I want to tell a story here.

when I was very little, my mother focused all her moral teachings on being empathetic, focusing on things like, when someone would do something that hurt me, when I wanted to do something to get back at them, she’d stop me and ask me how I would feel if I had done that to them, and ask me to think about what their motives might have been (aka, did they hurt me on purpose or was it an accident) and her number one lesson was “treat others the way you want to be treated”.

which I stuck to for years, until one day I finally came home in tears and asked my mother if it was ok for me to defend myself.

what she didn’t know was that I had been being horribly bulled by all my classmates (being in special ed for my learning disabilities caused the kids to basically see me leave and then come back later and coloring when they were all doing work, not knowing I’d been given one of those ‘do the math problems, the answers are the key to color in the picture’ things) and the stress from their relentless teasing was affecting me physically.

my mother had never realized that even in the face of being bullied, I had continued to “treat them the way I wanted to be treated”, which in their eyes, had turned me into a doormat.

in the end, she apologized to me for doing that to me, and said to instead treat others the way I want to be treated until they show me they aren’t worthy of it.

or as most know it, “do no harm but take no shit”

which imo, is a much better idea to live by.

anonymous asked:

Hey, how are you today? :)

hello this is very lovely of you to ask and you probably are expecting a ‘oh i’m fine thank you’ but im actually PRetty MIFFED

since coming to uni i have lived in two households and in both of them there have been people who are uneconomical when boiling the kettle!! if you’re only boiling enough water for ONE mug then why would you pour in enough water for SIX ?!?!?! how can u be so careless just… chucking water in there willy nilly??? Its sUCH A WAstE because i am thoroughly adverse, as should everyone be, to double boiling. and therefore have to pour GALLONS of this WASTE water away to then boil a small amount for just myself.. THERE IS A REASON MOST KETTLES HAVE MEASUREMENTS ON THE SIDE FOR god sakE USE THEM!!!!! why is it so hard to just STOP filling up the kettle when u have sufficient amount of water for the quantity of hot beverages you are making??? SURPRISE!!! ITS NOT good bye have no time for you haphazard kettle-filling heathens.. 

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shoutout to george, fred, and especially ron weasley for realizing that harry was stuck in abusive and unhealthy household and, in spite of the massive trouble they knew they could get in, taking immediate steps to personally see him removed from that environment, something no adult in harry’s life did.

can Lena Luthor’s storyline be Asami Sato-inspired? not this bs of will-she-won’t-she-turn-evil-because-she’s-a-luthor. 

We already have Lex Luthor as Superman’s archenemy. why not try something new and have Lena Luthor be one of Supergirl’s greatest allies and one of Kara Danvers’ trusted friends

because honestly, a Super and a Luthor working together for the greater good has the potential of being one of the most beautiful things that could happen in the show

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Sleep time

Big plus of being a drawin person is that u can draw yourself whatever you want to see atm. I wanted to draw this scene.

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Sometimes you just gotta drop everything and draw the ot3. You just gotta.

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i see the the “draw pearl (with ears??) at 4am when you wanna draw but don’t know what to draw” door is still jammed wide open