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Signs of Emotional Manipulation #7

Your abuser becomes a different person around other people vs. being alone with you.

For instance: a friend might claim they have an abusive parent but when you go over to their house their parent seems overjoyed, friendly, welcoming, etc. Believe your friend. This is common behaviour for abusive people. They tend to isolate the victim and hide their mistreatment very well. It’s pure manipulation.

Hanging out with an old friend made me realize how much I miss the old times like what is my life rn lol

ok this is actually cute ft. older marichat

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Happy 40th birthday, Benedict Cumberbatch! (July 19, 1976)

anonymous asked:

69, 95, 100

69: do you play an instrument? i used to play the piano a few years back but i stopped :(
95: summer or winter? winter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it’s summer here and im literally… like literally dying …. im so tired of waking up and then at like 10 am sweating :(
100: who was the last person you cried in front of? my friend from uni when i told her about j**s tbh :0 it was a few months backkk

ty for sending!!!!

Oh my god crotchety old adults are already complaining that kids are spending too much time out playing Pokemon Go, like haven’t you spent the last 10 years lamenting the fact that kids don’t go outside and exercise enough? So now they go out and exercise but OOOHHH NOOO they need to be HOME doing PRACTICAL things, not having FUN OUTDOORS WITH FRIENDS.

anonymous asked:

Is it normal to hate touching just as if you’re allergic to it? Like hugs are okey but direct skin-to-skin contact is absolutly disgusting. Like i can just feel that filth on their hand when they touch me, i feel so so uncomfortable with just touching itself. Like i’ll feel that place that was just touched painfully highlighted and my muscles will tense for 3 seconds. Sometimes even a hug, which is supposedly okey, is too much :/ Its even like that with my parents

Hey friend,

I would definitely say that is not normal. It sounds like you have some sort of touch aversion going on. This could be because of a sensory processing disorder, a different mental illness, or some kind of emotional issue. This isn’t to say that you are having any of these issues, just that they are common reasons why someone might not like being touched, especially in the way you described.

Some symptoms of touch aversion include:

  • Avoiding hugs or other kinds of affectionate touching because it is unpleasant and sometimes painful
  • finding it hard to relax
  • difficulty transitioning, especially when waking up in the morning
  • other feelings of anxiety, depression, or anger management
  • Disliking and avoiding some tastes, sounds, smells, sights, or textures that most people don’t have a problem with
  • physical awkwardness
  • difficulty forming and maintaining relationships because of a dislike of touching

However, no one here at MHA is a mental health professional, so we can’t tell you why you are experiencing that. If you want to know exactly what’s going on, and what you can do to change it, I would strongly recommend going to see a mental health professional or therapist or a doctor. You can check out our page on getting help for ideas on how to do that.

“What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.”

~Mel

But tell me: what do you mean by they?’
 
‘The messengers who are sent with the Ring.’
 
‘Exactly! And who are they to be? That seems to me what this Council has to decide, and all that it has to decide. Elves may thrive on speech alone, and Dwarves endure great weariness; but I am only an old hobbit, and I miss my meal at noon. Can’t we think of some names now? Or put it off till after dinner?’
 
No one answered. The noon-bell rang. Still no one spoke. Frodo glanced at all the faces, but they were not turned to him. All the Council sat with downcast eyes, as if in deep thought. A great dread fell on him, as if he was awaiting the pronouncement of some doom that he had long foreseen and vainly hoped might after all never be spoken. An overwhelming longing to rest and remain at peace by Bilbo’s side in
Rivendell filled all his heart. At last with an effort he spoke, and wondered to hear his own words, as if some other will was using his small voice. ‘I will take the Ring,’ he said, ‘though I do not know the
way.’
— 

J. R. R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

I was talking to @allieinarden about Hans Christian Andersen’s The Snow Queen and Gerda’s choices. We were swapping details of the story that struck us, and both noted how wonderful it is that Gerda’s love for Kay is self-sacrificial. It can also become romantic, sure, but it doesn’t matter one bit, because it is primarily self-sacrificial. Gerda shows this love by choosing to start the quest for Kay herself. However, when she makes that decision to proceed alone into the world, that is paradoxically when she receives help from both the natural and the supernatural world. That duality of sorts reminded me of one of the saddest moments of The Fellowship of the Ring: the above quote when Frodo chooses to take the Ring. He is so tired, but he chooses anyway. And at the very moment he does: 

Elrond raised his eyes and looked at him, and Frodo felt his heart pierced by the sudden keenness of the glance. ‘If I understand aright all that I have heard,’ he said, ‘I think that this task is appointed for you, Frodo; and that if you do not find a way, no one will. This is the hour of the Shire-folk, when they arise from their quiet fields to shake the towers and counsels of the Great. Who of all the Wise could have foreseen it? Or, if they are wise, why should they expect to know it, until the hour has struck? ‘But it is a heavy burden. So heavy that none could lay it on another. I do not lay it on you. But if you take it freely, I will say that your choice is right; and though all the mighty Elf-friends of old, Hador, and Hurin, and Turin, and Beren himself were assembled together, your seat should be among them.’

‘But you won’t send him off alone surely, Master?’ cried Sam, unable to contain himself any longer, and jumping up from the corner where he had been quietly sitting on the floor.

‘No indeed!’ said Elrond, turning towards him with a smile. ‘You at least shall go with him. It is hardly possible to separate you from him, even when he is summoned to a secret council and you are not.’

Sam sat down, blushing and muttering. ‘A nice pickle we have landed ourselves in, Mr. Frodo!’ he said, shaking his head.

On their own, I think Frodo and Gerda would have found their quests ultimately impossible. However, they still choose to take on that path. Both Frodo and Gerda (and each one of us) have to make a specific, individual, conscious choice to start a quest or carry a cross. However, the moment we freely choose that, we are surrounded with help.

anonymous asked:

ok but can we talk about the able bodied people who make disabled people's struggles about them?? like bitch you ain't the one with this shit shut the hell up

mmmmm this dumb shit, i get it all the time.

“do you have any idea how this is affecting me???? youre not the only one suffering!” like what the fuck,

i get that other people have issues amd that they can feel upset and bad for what i go through but my pain is something i feel alone, it isnt about my abled parents or friends or partners, its about me and my struggle as a disabled person facing something no abled person, no matter how hard they try, can understand.

“im just so tired of watching you go through this, it hurts me” like yeah, imagine how i feel buddy.