hi! im someone who has not ever really questioned my gender identity bc i was born female & identified as female my whole live & ive always liked “girls things” things growing up but also a lot of “boy things” ive wondered what its like to be a boy or at least not a girl i think maybe too many times & lately ive been v uncomfortable with my long hair & girlier clothes even tho i know i look good in them i think im starting to question my gender & idk what to do or what it all means, if anything
i think it means it’s time to explore!
explore the ways other people are defining their gender, the ways they talk about gender on the whole, how they might affirm different feelings to do with their gender.
explore ways to feel more comfortable with yourself and your outward presentation. maybe cutting your hair shorter is something you want to try, or trying out different styles of clothing.
if possible, find communities of people who will, for example, use a possible new set of pronouns for you, and who’ll help guide you in this exploration, be those irl community/support groups or online spaces.
explore just being a different gender. you can do that y’know. it’s not appropriation or faking it or any of those things that literally all of us think at first. try a gender on for size, shop around, explore in any way that lets you get a good idea of your feelings and identification around it all.
and if you explore all that and find that you come back to identifying as female, then you’ve still learned something about yourself. So I think it’s worth a shot :)