i know that this is an unreliable place to ask this but i think you're a trustworthy being and im a touch embarrassed by this. I was diagnosed with adhd when i was younger and i was medicated but thought we had it under control so we got me off the meds in like, 2 years. Its been like 8 years now and i keep having more and more issues, but i feel like if i tell mom or get help that I'm resetting all my progress and she'll not listen anyway. I'm an adult but it's easier to do things with support
Hey mate, you never need to be embarrassed about this sort of thing, let’s see what we can do for you.
Firstly, the reality is sometimes adhd like symptoms can fade in childhood and resurge later on, but they’re not typically registered correctly. Othertimes it’s consistent.
Predominantly, you can pretty much get ANYTHING under control with the right medication, but when you wean off of it, things can go a bit tits up.
>ADHD is treated primarily with a mixture of behavioural therapies and medications, requiring effort to maintain on all parties. (e.g. parents need to work to modify their behaviours and reactions to certain behaviours, and the child in question learns safe ways to react and this is done in conjunction to using medication to facilitate this).
It’s not unlike depression or bipolar, in this matter. Medication works in tandem with therapy, to facilitate attending therapy and continuing with your life; but sometimes people reach a point where it’s they feel they are ‘fine’ and everything is on an even keel… so they stop taking medication. There is often a brief period where things go well, then they crash; it is more dramatic depending on diagnosis and personal experiences; individualistic for everyone, really.
Why am I telling you this? To point out how utterly and ridiculously normal it is to suddenly have your symptoms reappear, even after you thought they’d gone/calmed down/been ‘fixed’.
I’ve found two Aussie resources which may be helpful in terms of support and information.
They have a lot of information, a national helpline to take over your concerns with (Ph: 02 9889 5977), and several resources for kids, adults, parents and teenagers.
>ADDults with ADHD
They share the helpline with ADHD Australia, but also allow you to send emails for email support/counselling.
Alternately, if you would just like to talk about your situation and feelings with someone who will listen (and you can be anonymous if you wish), the following are helpful. They can bolster your confidence, and help make a plan about talking to your family, if you prefer.
>Lifeline (Ph: 13 11 14)
Lifeline has trained counsellors on their national helpline who can talk you through any situation, simply listen, or help you make a plan as to how to move forwards. They also have Crisis Chat (Online Counselling) between 7pm & 4am (Sydney Time), seven days a week.
>Kids Helpline (Ph: 1800 55 1800)
It caters for children, young adults and parents; here is the Youth & Young Adult section (for ages 13-25).
Kids helpline has confidential, trained counsellors that offer assistance via the aforementioned phoneline, email counselling & online chat counselling.
Any of these resources may assist you.
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So what do you do?
There are a few options.
>If writing down what is happening is easier for you, then do it, have it prepared for when you speak to your parent and/or doctor about what is happening. Documenting your symptoms and concerns helps some people.
>Try speaking to your parent first.
You never know how they will react, until you have tried (unless you feel unsafe in this option). If not your parent, then a family member or close friend who you know will understand and support you.
You have the right to assistance, and to feel well. The fact this is impacting on your life, stressing you out, and that is most likely exacerbating the situation.
>Are you able to make and attend a medical appointment without a parent present (e.g. are you 15/16)? If so, this can be an option. However, if you are exceptionally concerned and unable to do so, presenting at a local free clinic or the hospital can be a good last resort to have someone professional listen to you. However, as it will be non-urgent, you may need to wait a significant degree of time.
>Utilise the resources. Even simply going through a few fact sheets can give you the words, the documented evidence you need to present the situation to family members/medical professionals about what is happening.
>Talk to people. Tell them what is happening for you, ask them if they’ve noticed anything; sometimes family is so close they don’t see your behaviours as anything but normal or ‘a bit naughty’ over time, and miss the signs. “Oh, that’s just how Dingolord is, always a bit fidgety.”
>Phrase your words in first person for maximum impact.
“I am struggling to _____ and ______ because I have noticed my symptoms returning; especially ______, ________ and ________. Which are preventing me from completing tasks, activities, and impacting on my _________.” Etc.
People understand and empathise better if you are honest, open, and put it into a perspective where they have to envision themselves in your place.
However, as previously mentioned, if speaking about it is difficult for you; then use written format. Write it, type it, leave cryptic symbols in crayon on the fridge… but put it down, explain the situation and give it to the person you trust most. “Mum, I’m struggling and I’m not sure how to explain, so I wrote it down.”
Or, even the doctor. “There’s a lot going on, and I’m very stressed out about it, but I find it difficult to talk about… so I’ve written down what I’ve noticed, and how it’s impacting me.
Is this affecting your ability to focus on normal tasks? On schoolwork?
Are you stressed? Has this thrown off your sleep schedule or messed up your appetite? Is this preventing you from hanging out with friends or involving yourself in social activities?
How is it affecting you? Write it down. Document the physiological and psychosocial concerns you are experience.
Can you not get support within the household? Put that down too. That’s an important factor when assessing a case, support is imperative.
There are many facets to wellbeing, and practitioners in the medical and allied health fields are trained to assess them all. Usually if, say, someone is not sleeping, barely eating… the GP or social worker will go through their circumstances, find the root of the issue, and make referrals based on the identified issue. Same thing here.
If you have had a diagnosis that affected multiple spheres of your wellbeing (physical, emotional, behavioural, social, mental, environmental, familial, educational, etc.), then the fact you are concerned about it returning should be enough to do some degree of investigation.
There are people on your side, and people you can talk to in relation to this situation.
While I do hope this information and rudimentary plan helps… if it doesn’t? Just come back, mate, and we’ll try something different, no problem.
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