its a big deal for me

I remember the first time I had a client cry in front of me. It was during group therapy last year and she started bawling while talking about her grandfather who had passed away a few years prior. When she started crying, I was frozen in fear. I thought, “how can I make her feel better,” “What do I say,” “What do I do,” “WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?!” I was internally panicking because crying makes me uncomfortable. I just finished up with a client who started crying the moment they sat down in my office. She cried for a solid 15 minutes. She cried when I saw her Tuesday as well. I’m still affected when my clients cry but now its from and empathic source, not cognitive. I still think about how to handle the situation in a way that is most therapeutic for my client but my mind isn’t going a mile a minute trying to “fix” things for them. Its not that big of a deal but its a subtle way in how I’ve seen myself grow as a clinician in the last year. I needed this little moment of reflection and recognition for myself because lately I’ve been feeling like a shitty therapist and like I made a mistake going into this field. I’m grateful for today. 

anonymous asked:

I know this musical wedding episode is a big deal and I am glad they are promoting the hell out of it and CS but do u find it odd at all that they spoiled us for the dress? Isn't that like usually a big reveal moment they want to keep under wraps? I see some folks theorizing that maybe its a fake out and the real dress will be seen in the ep. this I don't believe but it just feels odd to me to show Emma in the dress weeks in advance spoiling it for us. What's your opinion on this?

Really? Some people think the dress is a fake out??

They think the show would go through the trouble of creating two dresses and getting JMo to wear it and walk down the aisle with Josh and Ginny? And that press who were there and witnessed the wedding filming would post fake out photos for their readers? Which would mean REPORTERS willingly lying to their readers… why on earth would they do that?

Then Jennifer Morrison would post 5 photos of it and write an essay behind the meaning of the dress? JMo who refuses to lead fans on and lie to them?

Sorry that’s really… a nutty theory.

Of course the dress we’ve seen is Emma’s real wedding dress.

They are obviously committed to promoting this episode, so making the first dress photo an exclusive “get” for a reporter was a smart move. They had a choice to make, have the dress be a surprise or use it for promotion. They choose promotion and I think it was the right choice in terms of creating buzz. Nothing odd about it.

anonymous asked:

so it rly irks me that some gay people don't like cishets???? like just because lots of em are jerks doesn't mean they need to be called names???? why do so many exclusionists use as an insult to aces???? especially het aces??? idk it just rly bugs me and I hate it so much --that cuddle-deck ace

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like cishets are people too????? Livin they lives??????? They’re only bad if that PERSON is bad, not as a whole like wtf?????? gays, lets chill a bit?????????

roxyuno  asked:

Congrats on 15.000 + followers!!! I'm so freaking proud!! The first artist I ever followed hAS 15.000 + FOLLOWERS OMG!!!!!!! THIS IS A BIG DEAL!! Sorry but I'm just so happy, I remember how ur art looked before and like how cute it was but now its like " whoosh, look at dis magic " i cant explain my happiness omg i just wow good lord

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Thank you!!
Im sorry it took me so long to get back to you but thank you!!!

So I can’t be the only one who noticed right? Dan being smol in baking vids 😉

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one of the reasons mental illness sucks so fucking much is because people around you can literally tell you again and again that they love you, that they think you’re cool and funny, that they support you in every way, that you’re talented or intelligent, and no matter how many times they say it you’ll always cringe and shake your head and say “no, no i’m not, really” but the SECOND someone says one bad thing about you, even just once. You believe it completely. 

you: disney made one of their white male villians gay 

me, an intellectual: power rangers has four poc, one is a lesbian and one is autistic, all of them are heroes

  • dan: i have a very, very cheeky idea for the next danisnotonfire video
  • dan: which might be a long time coming
  • dan: i don't know. i don't know if im ready
  • dan: it's a big deal, and also not
  • me:
  • me: i'm not saying this boy is married to phil lester
  • me: but he's married to phil lester

i have epilepsy and one of the biggest things that upset me as a kid is not being able to go to a certain place because “oh that place has lights that they specifically said were epileptic”

it confused me to no end, if they knew it was an injuring, and in some cases, a deadly thing, why use them? why not just use normal lights?

the excuse i always got were “well the other kids love them so…” or “its okay, its not a big deal” why? why isnt it a big deal that a place is openly choosing the entertainment of these kids over my safety and my life?

but the biggest thing that fucked w me as a child is sitting there and remembering that if the lights werent there, i wouldve been completely fine, happy, not limited. that the lights didnt HAVE to be there, but people without epilepsy put them there because it didnt affect them.

that my epilepsy wasnt the thing holding me back in that moment, it was the healthy people who never thought- or in this case thought and didnt care- about the disabled children who wouldnt be okay with those lights. I didnt matter because i wasnt healthy.

and even today, when i think about things like that it fucks w me, because I see it all the time and its a constant reminder that some cute, short-lived entertainment made for abled people is, has been, and will always be far more important than the safety and life of a disabled person.

ridersofdickhan  asked:

tell us a story about an insect

parker insists that he doesnt normally sleepwalk. 

i have no idea if its true or not; for the sake of anyone who lives with him (myself occasionally included) i hope it is. 

however. when he’s sleeping off a few injuries and is pain-medicated enough that its effective on his jacked up metabolism, he does

which would not normally be a big deal. thor sleepwalks too, and the only problem with that is he sleeps naked. so i thought nothing of it when peterbird wandered into the common room late at night with his eyes closed. he kinda just showed up and then stood there, so i figured id let him be and went off to go make myself some hot chocolate. ten or so minutes later, i stepped around the divider wall back to the common room. 

and promptly had the everloving daylights scared out of me. 

why? you ask, why were ten precious years scared off your ridiculous life, bucky???

well. because parker was standing right on the other side of the wall, about two inches from my face. with an alarmingly vacant expression on his face. because he was sleepwalking. 

he was sleepwalking on the fucking ceiling

anonymous asked:

the gay kiss in svtfoe is like 1 sec long i wish you guys would stop gaslighting people with this being good rep when the entire second season is given over to a completely unnecessary supposedly heterosexual love triangle, because they won't ever canonize marco as a girl. like seriously. pretending this is great rep has consequences, it alienates fans and it tells disney and other corporations they can throw us scraps and that they don't need to try to get our pink dollars. Stop.

Okay.

First of all, I can do whatever I want. Second of all, I can do whatever I want. And third, I can do whatever I want.

Okay? Glad we established that. With that out of the way, I’m gonna be very clear with people like you who keep telling me and other people like what we should want, need and demand. 

Star has done a lot in terms of destroying gender roles and other stereotypes and taboos for kids and young people out there. Its characters are not flat and they have their own personalities, their own lives and agency, which don’t conform to gender norms as they have been force-fed to us by society. Breaking this kind of stereotypes is gonna be so liberating for so many kids. For example:

  • You don’t have to be girly to be a girl (Janna is into a lot of creepy and icky stuff usually considered boyish, just to mention someone)
  • Being feminine doesn’t define your gender (Marco, and I’m gonna get back to you on this)
  • Having trouble managing your anger does not make you a bad person (Tom. who is working so hard to keep it under control and improve because he wants to be better)
  • You can have a bunch of mixed, apparently contradicting traits, and that doesn’t make you less worthy of the gender you identify with (Star is very girly and likes cute stuff but still kicks ass and loves every second of it)
  • Boys can be affectionate with other boys (if we assume, based on what we know at the moment, that Marco identifies as a boy, and again, I’ll get back to you on that), and that’s okay (Marco and Tom, even though I still think the whole Friendenemies episode was very homoerotic)

Originally posted by mettatonexox

I’m really grateful for this new wave of cartoons (such as Star vs The Forces of Evil, Gravity Falls or Steven Universe). Different shows are exploring different themes from different angles, and that doesn’t mean that one is necessarily above the other. Star may not be exploring queerness in full (like Steven Universe does, for example), more like touching upon its surface, but it is still playing a role in its normalisation.

Never did I say that the infamous 1-second gay kiss was good rep. For me to call it rep, I would need it to feature at least characters whose names we know. But you know what? I’m okay with it being something in the background and I don’t consider it gaslighting, because as far as I know, the show did not make a big deal out of it, they did not announce “Hey! We are giving you guys gay rep! Look at all the diversity we’re including!”. I actually heard nothing from the show-runners. It was the media that blew up and made a huge deal out of it because of some stupid parents’ reaction. The whole thing was a nice detail that acknowledged the existence of gay people and made an effort to normalise queerness by showing them doing something as mundane as going to a concert with their partners. Period.

And on that note, I want to add that yes, more than this is desirable and it’s okay (it’s very important, actually!) to ask for proper representation. But we can’t close our eyes to the stuff that’s already come our way just because it’s not as much as we wanted it to be. Things take time. Society is still coming to terms with LGBT+ people, and rushing them is only gonna make them clam up and reject any notion of it. Hell, parents wanted to take Star out of Disney XD because they were outraged by a 1-sec cartoon gay kiss! Even though I’m tired of waiting, I see that Disney is treading on thin ice with its more conservative audience and has to carefully plan its every step. And they are still making progress. Slowly, but surely.

We got Beauty and the Beast with gay LeFou (even though I still think it should have been the clock and the candelabra), despite the foreseeable boicot from many people. I’m not saying “we’re good, we can stop demanding stuff from show-runners and movie directors”, I’m saying, “let’s appreciate the progress we’re making while aiming for more”. We’ve come a long way since Disney’s massive no-homo when High School Musical gave a girlfriend to Ryan, literally the gayest man alive in the Disney Universe.

And about the “unnecessary heterosexual love triangle”: I dunno, anon, I’m a storyteller and I saw it coming for a long time. The show built up to that point. It’s not like they pulled it out of their asses. Would I have wanted it to be a love square featuring Tom? Why yes, absolutely, but oh well. It still makes sense in the story they’re telling and it’s integrated in the plot. It would have been weird if Marco, who had been crushing on Jackie since Day 1, had just moved on from her without thinking twice.

Originally posted by cosmicstimmer

Now, about Trans!Marco: I’m gonna be very honest with how I view it, and I’ll also let you know that I’m transgender myself (non-binary pal here, hey, how are ya), as well as a transgender rights activist and lecturer, so I know what I’m talking about. I have nothing against the Trans!Marco fannon, obviously. I think some seed has been planted in the show and as of now, people can make of it what they will. I’d be thrilled and on board if there were any confirmation from TPTB. But I’m not taking it as anymore than that for now, and I’ll entertain both Trans!Marco and Cis!Marco notions. Why?

Yes, Marco has been shown as Princess Marco several times already, pronouns have been changed to feminine and nobody has questioned Marco’s new status during those times. However, Marco hasn’t expressed a particular preference for being treated as a girl (true, no preference for masculine treatment has been expressed either, so we’re kind of in a neutral zone I guess?). I mean, you see Marco wearing dresses and a wig with no complain, as well as being treated as a girl, but after that episode is over, you don’t really see Marco displaying any signs of discomfort with gender identity or pronouns or disphoria or gender expression or anything like that. Actually, the character’s development continues as it was before that happened (anybody else remembers that episode where Marco lives on a different dimension for 16 years and embraces every masculinity trope under the sun?). 

Originally posted by soyalexnajera

Now I’m not saying you have to meet a bunch of requirements to be trans (I’m no trans gatekeeper), but these are the kind of things that usually give it away when we’re talking about someone else’s experience, since we are not inside their head. 

Yes, Marco does possess some traits traditionally associated with femininity (like spending hours getting ready for the date with Jackie), but they’re vague enough that they could mean something or nothing at all (like I said, the show does a lot to destroy gender roles). I feel like I can’t really call it for sure based on that. With how indifferent Marco seems to be to different pronouns, I’d actually say that there’s higher chances this character falls somewhere in the non-binary spectrum, rather than identifying as a girl. This is, of course, my personal opinion, and I might be wrong. But it goes to show that the hinting done in the show has been so subtle for now that it could go either way, and so, I fail to see why we should get angry that Marco isn’t being treated as a girl at the moment.

Just my two cents.

  • me, an actual bisexual: I'm excited about this one character being confirmed bi because it's nice to have fictional characters I can relate to, even if their sexuality isn't a big deal in their story.
  • some anti-sjw demon on tumblr dot com: WHY DOES EVERYTHING HAVE TO BE ABOUT GENDER AND SEXUALITY WITH YOU PEOPLE???!1! PC CULTURE IS RUINING FILM!!!1!11! MOVIES WERE BETTER WHEN THEY WERE ALL ABOUT STRAIGHT MEN
I Know Your Wife (She Wouldn’t Mind) - Part Eight

Summary: You go for your first scan, skype with Gen and Danneel, and announce your pregnancy. Everything seems to be going well
Warnings: pregnancy, mild angst
Words: 3.5k
Jared x Reader (Jared x Reader x Gen), Jensen, Danneel, Clif
Beta: @blacksiren

I Know Your Wife - Masterpost

Your name: submit What is this?

You called up your doctor the next morning, apologising for the rude way you ended the last call.

She assured you that there was nothing to apologise for, knowing that the information would have come as a bit of a shock.

You were booked in for an ultrasound scan on Monday morning.

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Why Hamilton is afraid of water.
  • Jefferson: why aren't you swimming in the lake like everyone else? You SCARED of the water? Can you even SWIM?
  • Hamilton: well, I do have my reasons
  • Jefferson: pshhh I don't believe. that you're just a SCAREDY CAT
  • Hamilton: well, actually...
  • Jefferson: wHAT Hamilton?
  • Hamilton: you know, when I was little we didn't have a bridge connecting these two islands; and one was a neighborhood and the other was the town. so we had to swim across if we wanted to get home or had to go out to get some food.
  • Jefferson: ...
  • Hamilton: and, you know, I had a dog. He was a good swimmer, and I was around seven years old, so he swam across with me. He was pretty old, so one day when we were swimming across he drowned and I tried to stop and see what was wrong, but then I got caught in the current like he had and someone had to come and save me. So.
  • Jefferson: oh shit... I'm sorry...
  • Hamilton: it doesn't matter, I barely remember anyway. It's not a big deal.
  • Jefferson: then why are you crying?