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Arch of Augustus

Susa, Italy

1st century BCE

11.93 m long and 7.3 m wide


It was originally built at the end of the 1st century BC to record the renewed alliance between Emperor Augustus and Marcus Julius Cottius, a celto-ligurian ruler, made king and Roman prefect of the Cottian Alps. 

The arch has a unique arcade, in which the archivolt is supported by pilasters. The entablature rests on four Corinthian columns placed at the extremities of each corner, such that a quarter of each drum is embedded in the monument. The lowest architrave is composed of three bands of which the lowest band is thicker than the middle band, and this in turn is thicker than the top band. Above the architrave, a frieze composed of a bass relief stretches around all four sides. Above that is the cornice which has twenty-two corbels on each face and twelve on each side of the arch. The corbels’ panels are decorated with roses. On tob of that rests the attic, which displays an inscription on both faces.

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scenes from the Amalfi Coast by marin tomic  

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Dreaming of Venice! by Andrew Carter

Some things aren’t abusive as one-offs or as infrequent events, but become such as part of a pattern. A frustrated parent saying “Because I said so” after spending an hour trying to explain “No, sweetie, we can’t afford to send you on an Italian vacation with your friend, because we have bills and a mortgage” is unfortunate, but it’s not the same as a parent who consistently precludes all discussion about anything with “Because I’m the parent and I make the rules!”

Other things become unjustifiable by degree. A parent taking away the PS4 for a week after their kid spends a week playing Final Fantasy XV instead of studying for their exams & doing their homework is maybe not the most effective approach, but certainly won’t be harmful under most circumstances. A parent taking away all leisure time and leisure activities as retaliation for the same behavior has veered straight into unjustifiable territory.

And like… this post isn’t really for the victims/survivors of abuse who read this blog. Y’all probably understand all this stuff already. It’s more to clarify things for the throngs of people who’re still under the impression that I believe that parents are being abusive every time they say “no” or do something that displeases their children.