hey girls who haven’t dated any or many girls: 

your first relationship might not be perfect. your first couple relationships might not be perfect. teenagers don’t tend to have very long lasting relationships and with the added stress of being a f/f couple, it might not last very long or work out well. this doesn’t mean that you’re never going to be in a long lasting relationship with a woman, just that this one ended quickly

every girl who isn’t straight isn’t going to be the right girl for you. you might start dating a girl and then realize you’re not actually into her, or she might feel that way about you. this doesn’t mean you’ll never find a girl you really like who really likes you back, just that this wasn’t the right relationship

there might be issues in your relationship. you might have different expectations, different needs and desires, different interests. you don’t need to change yourself or pretend to be something that you’re not to make the relationship work, you’ll have other chances

given how few other lbpq girls most of us know, i know that a lot of the time it feels like your first relationship is the only chance you’ll get and that you need to make it work out. don’t force it. don’t pretend to be or feel something you aren’t/don’t for the sake of the relationship, don’t let her cross your boundaries because you’re worried she’ll break up with you and you’ll never have another chance at dating a girl if you don’t let her

this is coming from my personal experiences- the first time i dated a girl, i did everything she wanted to, ignored my own preferences, pretended to like what she liked, let her do whatever she wanted. this didn’t make the relationship last longer or be better, it just made it lopsided and unhappy. she wasn’t right for me, i wasn’t right for her, and that’s alright. just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean i’ll never date again

you’re going to get another chance. you’re going to date another girl. everything doesn’t hang upon this first relationship

mod hedera

Do you get what a complex character Jasper is?

As a Jasper fan, I wasn’t very happy abaout these recent episodes showing Jasper as nothing more than a faded-to-lose power maniac villain. BUT, they made up for everything at that last few seconds of “Earthlings.” 

Okay, first, we learned that Jasper was made on earth too, just like Amethyst, but in a less qualified Kindergarten. Considering how Peridot was using it to cheer Amethyst up, I guess where you come from is important for gems. Even the hole you came from can say a lot abaout you. 

I’d like to point out also that some of the injectors were crushed, possibly by crystal gems, to prevent homeworld from creating decent gems and if that’s the point then it worked. None of the holes came out right. Well, except for one, of course. Jasper came out perfect as the “Ultimate Quartz.” And it was her fate to fight and so she fought from the second she broke free of the earth’s crust. Fought for her colony. (Which she might have loved.) Fought for her planet. (Which she might have loved.) Fought for her Diamond. (Which she probably loved.) But she FAILED. Everything she fought for was ruined. By Crystal Gems. By Rose Quartz. 

So she entered under Yellow Diamond’s command (”Because when you’re at the bottom, you follow anyone that makes you feel like less of a failure.”) but it wasn’t her diamond. Homeworld wasn’t “home” for her. And her comrades wasn’t her colony. She only came back to earth to take revenge of these things that taken away from her. But she has defeated once again. By fusion, something that should be based on trust and compaionship, the two things that Jasper has never gained. Nobody she fuses with ever wants to stay and she’ll always be defeated by fusion. Because she doesn’t get it. Because she doesn’t know a thing about love or friendship or any related feelings. All she knows is fighting and being strong. 

But she even failed at the only thing she knows, probably the only thing she’s good at. She couldn’t fulfill her main purpose, what she was made for. She was a failure

So she let corruption took over her. She let this shallow planet twist her too, just like it did to those disgraceful freaks. And she became one of them. Because “We all get what we deserve, right?” 

My conclusion is, all those insults she threw away at Amethyst and anyone or anything she saw as a failure and how she always fights with them to show who is better… It was all an unavailing attempt to prove herself that she wasn’t a failure but in the end, she admitted the truth. 

But she’ll surely be back. 

All we’ve seen and heard abaout Rose Quartz until now was that she was a pacifist lady who fought for the earth as she believed “all life is precious” and did nothing wrong. But these recent episodes (Especially “Bismuth” and “Earthlings”.) just shattered that image (No puns intended.) and led us and Steven to question her. Steven’s main goal was always been to be like her mother but is she really the one he wants to become? I think show is going to a direction where Steven will be better than her mom, won’t make the mistakes she did and even fix them. And what will he start with? Yes, my guess is Jasper. 

I believe that Jasper will surely get her redemption arc and it’ll be the best one. Because we’ve never seen her with an expression other than angst or smug, until “Earthlings" at least. Imagine her laughing sincerily at some joke Amethyst made or getting confused abaout some earth thing that Steven showed her. Imagine her learning to love her home once again.  

To me, it was always hinted that Peridot is a dork and I wasn’t surprised at Lapis becoming an ally. Earth has only set them free but Jasper will be the one who is truly changed by it. And if it really happens I’ll love this show even more, altough I already love as much as I can! 

I only want Jasper to be happy.

EDIT: Guys, some anon mentioned that injectors were broken by Jasper to use their legs as cage bars (clever), not crushed by Crystal Gems during the war. I didn’t see it, thanks to that anon for fixing that. :)