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anonymous asked:

medication anon from before- how did you know it was time for medication..? specifically for your depression. thanks again

i’ve been suffering with mental health issues since i was about 12. i wanted medication from about the age of 13, but was always denied because of my age. i went again at 16, and was told no once more. then i turned 18 (which is two years ago now) and they finally gave them to me. 

if you’re trying to figure out the best time for medication i would say now. if you’re even slightly considering medication then talk to your doctor about it. medication does not have to be long-term nor do you need to be desperate for it. you can take a course of anti-depressants for a few months to boost your mood. 

its no problem. if you have anymore questions feel free to send them!

I’m already in love with this game. It hits real hard as a young adult. Mae is a fantastic protagonist.

“why do you use crayola colored pencils and copy paper”

“why do you use ms paint and paint.net”

“why do you draw with a mouse and not a tablet”

“why don’t you use a good digital camera and not your laptop/camera phone”

“stop showing me a picture of an empty wallet”

some of the things i've been told since coming out as asexual in 2015

-“you’re too pretty to be asexual”
-“you just haven’t met the right guy yet”
-“you’ll change your mind once you’re in a relationship”
-“if you ever get in a ‘relationship’ your partner will just cheat on you so he can have sex”
-“is there something wrong with you?”
-“it’s just a hormonal thing. doctors can help you fix that”
-“so… you’re gay?”
-“here’s the name of my doctor you should see him about your homone levels”
-“that’s not a real thing”
-“there must be something wrong with you”
-“you’re probably gay but too scared to tell anyone”
-“i can fix that ;)”
-“i called my pastor and he said he’s going to put you on the prayer chain”
-“the bible doesn’t necessarily say that asexuality is wrong, but it’s wrong because it’s an identity thing. you should just identify as a child of God, regardless of whether or not you actually get these feelings”
-“you’re basically just straight”
-“so you’re just gonna be alone forever?”
-“so you’ve never loved anyone?”
-“ohmygosh is this because of your past trauma?!”
-“i’m so sorry, this must be because of all you’ve been through”
-“you don’t look asexual”
-“so you probably masturbate a lot then…”
-“asexuals aren’t part of the lgbtqia community… the A stands for 'ally’. stop pretending like asexuals are descriminated against”
-“isn’t that a plant thing?”

(feel free to add some of your own experiences)

there comes a time in every fan’s life where you just decide “fuck it, I’m not going to pretend to defend why I’m allowed to like A Thing even though everyone thinks it is Bad Art. I’m just going to like it and anyone who wants to judge me for liking A Thing without a detailed mea culpa Explanation should try this instead: I like A Thing because it makes me happy or brings me silly joy and that is all the Explanation I care to give. liking A Thing does not have to equal an endorsement of A Thing as Good Art or Model Writing. maybe it’s even garbage, but it’s My Happy Garbage, so peace out sailor.”

REPEAT AFTER ME:

YOU. ARE NOT. OBLIGATED. TO LOVE. YOUR FAMILY.

IF THEY HURT YOU 

IF THEY MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE SHIT

IF THEY DISRESPECT YOU

YOU. ARE NOT. OBLIGATED. TO LOVE. YOUR FAMILY.

NEVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE.

okay thanks bye

Gay Aphobe: Headcanoning gay characters as ace is homophobic because it steals representation from the gay community

Me:

 so some fun facts about working in carpentry (from someone in the field) that probably no one wants but could be fun for writing about julia and mags with:

  • it is so so important to maintain a positive relationship with your clients and that’s probably why mags is so proud of his rustic hospitality and wants to use it at every corner because your relationships and reputation is half the job
  • for one you get returning clients and tends to be the best and most reliable source of income and you also usually will end up getting gifts from them too which is, sweet
  • if they’re doing pretty well off during a year i’m almost certain that they offer discounts for their services for the poorer members of raven’s roost, mangus in particular has a “doggy discount” that if they own a dog and they let it work with him they get a good discount
  • both of them (+plus stephen) are probably ambidextrous to a degree as when working on repeat projects, you tend to get really tired and sore and continue working until that arm gives out and then switch to the other to be able to continue working
  • going with that, you get paid by commission or project usually and so hypothetically you could pick up as many as possible (or as many as the union will allow) and probably will do that a couple times and you could literally blow out your entire body but be set for the year in a couple weeks
  • going with the stress on the body, the physical labor definitely means that they have bad knees and probably a bad arm as well not to mention if there is a lot of heavy lifting you can get multiple hairpin fractures along your spine and legs causing intense pain that cannot be treated 
  • also if they’re working with saws (which i’m pretty sure trav did say were in the pocket workshop) then i have no idea why mags reacted so badly to losing a finger because everyone i have ever worked with has or has almost cut off their finger once a week
  • also you get a very high tolerance for pain (which probably helps mags as being a sword for hirer)  like i have literally sliced my entire forearm open and just wrapped it up and continued working
  • since raven’s roost has a carpentry district, that most likely means that they have a lumber sister town that provides all of the resources
  • and again, going with the importance of rustic hospitality, if you’re friends with the lumber providers then you will get first pick on the quality wood and quality literally will save you days of work
  • if there’s a bad harvest one year then it will fucking suck because people don’t stop needing furniture or buildings and you as the carpenter have to pick up the slack for the shitty warped wood and most projects will take about double the time
  • woodworking is a skill trade and has to be learned over years so most likely by the time mags came along julia was already extremely skilled and is able to do commissions and bids on her own and has her own reputation in ravens roost (which…tbh mags could have very well apprenticed under her) 
  • it is extremely hard to go from apprenticing one carpenter to another because even the basics get muddled with your own style to the point where most people measure in different ways and cutting something wrong (especially cutting it short) will waste so much material thus mags being brand new to apprenticing under stephen probably takes years while jules just laughs each time he fucks up a leg of a chair
Just Another Word I Never Learned to Pronounce

am i late as usual? fuck yeah i am

Benefit of the Doubt caused far more suffering than I anticipated, so here, have some post-angst fluff for your wounds. XD (Bonus points to whoever gets the song reference before clicking this. ;P) 

(With a small surprise cameo from @jd-illustrates lmao i’M SORRY, UR ASK WAS JUST TOO PERFECT FOR THIS)

i am totally the king of awkwardly placed time skips

Previous works in chronological order:  Hired, Lovestarved, Trial & Trust, Deeper Than Skin, A Small Solace, In Sickness and in Health, Benefit of the Doubt

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“I love you.”

It was a phrase Black Hat had started hearing often from Flug. Admittedly, it took a lot of getting used to.

Love. He’d always thought of it as such a revolting concept. Yet, he’d feel something strange whenever the doctor said it to him. Something… pleasant.

Even more shockingly, he found he had a desire to say it back. Gross.

……… But still though. How is he to do that?

Every time he’s tried to even say it, he gags on his own words. Ugh, it’s so stupid. Flug must think it’s ridiculous, trying to return a phrase so simple only to back out every time after choking on just the damn “L”.

No, it is ridiculous. Black Hat won’t let some– some dumb word get the best of him!

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anonymous asked:

I saw your post about how tumblr is very damaging (as social media can be) to the mental health of young people. and in your tags you had listed a comment about the tone of extremist social justice, and after doing some searching, I didn’t really understand what that meant. So I was wondering if you didn’t mind explaining that please? Or like an example? I'm sorry, I'm just not understanding it well

So what I mean is, the attitude on here by a lot of people is very much “right is right, wrong is wrong, no I don’t care for context, there’s no shades of grey, everyone is either good or bad”

For example, Chris Evans has been very very vocal about being anti trump, about supporting minority and marginalised groups, generally just being a good dude - against the advice of his PR team - but people on here still try and attack him and tear him down over a comment he made years ago, and the fact he likes Tom Brady. 
Or how if you like someone who turns out to be a jackass (I’m looking at you Johnny Depp) and then you continue to enjoy that person’s work - then you’re also a jackass according to the mob mentality of this website. Regardless of if you’re saying “I recognise this is shitty behaviour and he’s a garbage human being but god damn it I need some semblance of joy in this dark and nasty world and I really love Finding Neverland” - even when you acknowledge someones shitty behaviour, if you don’t denounce any association with them and their work then fuck you as far as this website is concerned. 

And then to take it out of the trivial - I see people bullied on here simply for existing as religious people. All they gotta do is say they believe in god and they’re attacked as being far right assholes who hate everyone. Just because they’re religious. I also see people attacked for being on the left, too far left and people think it’s okay to throw around phrases like “terrorist sympathiser”.

It’s just very polarised, people are either super left or super right, there’s very little middle ground here, and it’s partnered with a mob mentality and a call out culture and the ability to say what you want without consequence to whomever you want to say it to. And that’s a dangerous environment for young and impressionable minds. Because in reality, whilst you will face a lot of people with views opposing your own, most people face to face are willing to engage in actual discussion. Conversation. Not everyone, of course, but on the most part. On here though, it’s more a case of “If you don’t agree with me you’re wrong, and not only are you wrong, you must also be a complete asshole, and also fuck you”. It’s just nasty, and I want young people to be aware of that, especially at a time where it’s so important that young people get involved with politics and social causes. Because in reality, progression isn’t made by yelling nastiness at people that disagree with you, it’s made by discussion and communication and making an effort to understand how and why people feel the way they do. 

@ ranged dps

I am begging you. Please. Please. Stop standing at max range when it’s not absolutely necessary. Find your healer(s) and stick somewhat close. They’ll thank you when their group heals/buffs hit everybody and they’re not forced to drain extra mana. ;___;

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