it's you and me stefan

So, I hadn’t really intended to address the matter but I’m receiving a lot of asks and pm’s about it + it’s in the press here so i might as well just get it out of the way real quickly. 
Two metastases (new tumors created by the main one) have been found in my dad’s liver and it’s shitty but that’s just the way it is. I’d rather not discuss it and while i really am super appreciative of all your support and kindness I would rather not receive asks or stuff about it. I’m finishing up final exams and shit and i just need to focus on the things that i actually have control over (like my grades). 
so thank you all and i hope this answered your questions. 

if this isn't love, then what is?
  • stefan salvatore:
  • she's the love of my life, i'd go back to her in a heart beat.
  • if it were my choice, i'd want to be with you forever
  • if it meant i got to be with her, have children, grow old with her.. if it meant we'd die together, be buried together then yes. i would take the cure
  • i would never hurt you, you're safe with me
  • when you and i were together every single atom in my body told me that it was the right thing. that we were the perfect fit.
  • actually i don't pretend to be anything when i'm with her. that's the whole point. i just get to be myself.
  • but you know, the life that we had, it was amazing too. and it wasn't a spell or a prophecy, it was real. we fell in love on our own.
  • you know, this is a future memory. it's where your boyfriend whispered to you that he loved you. i love you.
  • how do i not remember you? i mean you're smart, you're pretty, you're funny. obviously you're the strongest woman in the world.
  • every time that i tell myself that i'm moving on, there's this part of me that just can't seem to shake her.
  • i was a better person when i was with her. i didn't think i'd ever feel that way again. until elena.
  • i love you. i will always love you.
  • i love you so much.
  • i'm simply not able to resist her.
  • elena is warm and she's kind and she's selfless and it's real. when i'm around her i completely forget what i am.
  • elena gilbert:
  • i love him damon. no matter what i feel for you i never unfell for him.
  • no! you don't get to make that decision for me. if you walk away, it's for you because i know what i want. stefan i love you.
  • for once i don't regret the day before it begins. because i know i'll see him again.
  • but i love stefan, it's always going to be stefan.
  • it's you and me stefan, always.
  • i thought i couldn't be with you stefan but i can. you don't have to push me away. i can do this.
  • but i love you stefan. I love you stefan, you.
  • i cant lose the way i feel about you.
  • i dont want us to be apart anymore, ever.
  • stefan, my wrist. here. take my wrist. you need more blood. i trust you.
  • i cant lose the way i feel about you.
  • i love him damon. he came into my life when i needed someone and i fell for him instantly.
  • i kind off felt like i didn't know how to live anymore but then being with stefan... somehow i figured it out
  • i love you so much
  • i picked you because i love you. and no matter what happens that's the best choice i ever made.
  • look, he would never give up on me so i'm not gonna give up on him.
  • i love you stefan. hold on to that. never let that go.
  • other tvd characters:
  • katherine: you'd never look at me the way you look at elena, would you?
  • klaus: now this is fascinating i've never seen this before. the only thing stronger than your craving for blood is your love for this one girl.
  • klaus: and that's why you're her better option. i personally think she's wasting her time with damon.
  • rebekah: i envy that. you and elena. i envy the love you have.
  • klaus: well crazy or not that kind of love never dies.
  • caroline: i'm sorry but stefan is your epic love. and i'm not going down without a fight.
  • rose: stefan is different. his love is pure, he'll always be good for him.
  • klaus: personally i don't see a fairytale ending for you. all i see is stefan and elena.
  • klaus: must be hard trying to live up to stefan. he stopped himself when i compelled him to feed on elena. that's love.
  • lexi: when it's real you cant walk away.
  • caroline: you and her - epic. her and damon? ew
  • gloria: there's this girl with a necklace. you love her. you'd do anything for her.
  • damon: you're still wearing this necklace. isn't that a reminder of your unbreakable bond with stefan?

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The downside of no longer being on the cheerleading squad was that now when Bonnie and Caroline had practice Elena was left out. Normally it wouldn’t have bothered her, but her uncle had decided to make a surprise visit to Mystic Falls and she was doing anything she could think of to stay away. She was never really sure of where her dislike for John came from, just that she didn’t like him. She always thought it was because Jenna didn’t like him and she liked Jenna. She refused to think that it was just instinctual. But it seemed that it may have been as she recently suspected that her uncle was actually her father.

She leaned up against a locker, waiting for Stefan’s class to be over. Elena wondered why it didn’t seem weird to her that Stefan was taking high school classes again. Maybe it was because he looked the right age. Part of her had thought that he’d drop out after she realized he wasn’t human. She heard the final bell ring and she pushed herself off the locker. “Do you wanna go to The Grill or something?” she asked. “John is staying with us and I just can’t be around all that right now.” She waved her hand, fingers spread open, in a circle-like gesture that was supposed to symbolize the Gilbert family drama.

  • otp: we have history together
  • otp: you won't be sad forever
  • otp: it was epic
  • otp: we're a work in progress
  • otp: i can't lose the way i feel about you
  • otp: it's real
  • otp: i completely forget what i am
  • otp: when it's real you can't walk away
  • otp: don't walk away
  • otp: don't hide from me
  • otp: you are the woman that i love
  • otp: you bought me flowers
  • otp: i trust you
  • otp: you were saving my life and i was saving yours
  • otp: i just want to spend as much time with you as possible
  • otp: it's your choice
  • otp: you have nothing to worry about
  • otp: i came back to this town to start a life with you
  • otp: it's just so nice to see you laugh
  • otp: come with me
  • otp: but i love you
  • otp: it's you and me stefan always
  • otp: always
  • otp: you're staring; i'm gazing
  • otp: because i love you so much
  • otp: with stefan she was home
  • otp: i can't think of a better reason to die
  • otp: because you and i fell in love
  • otp: i don't want us to ever be apart anymore
  • otp: this is a future memory
  • otp: i just want you to fight for it
  • otp: i will always protect elena
  • otp: it matters
  • otp: i'd want to be with you forever
  • otp: close your eyes
  • otp: i'm not gonna let elena lose anybody else
  • otp: i just want to know that he's alive
  • otp: hold onto that
  • otp: never let that go
  • otp: he'd never give up on me
  • otp: i'm not gonna give up on him
  • otp: come home
  • otp: where else would i be?
  • otp: you love her
  • otp: you'd do anything for her and you have
  • otp: you owe me that
  • otp: i owe you everything
  • otp: you are the one thing that has kept me from giving up
  • otp: nothing is stronger than your love for this one girl
  • otp: i know who you really are better than anyone else
  • otp: i'm not giving up
  • otp: i knew you'd catch me
  • otp: i still have hope
  • otp: you have to get your hope back
  • otp: you had me
  • otp: that kind of love never dies
  • otp: you're the one who saved me
  • otp: i love her
  • otp: i don't believe that you feel nothing
  • otp: i never stopped loving you
  • otp: i will always love you
  • otp: some guy i used to date
  • otp: some girl i used to date
  • otp: you have me
  • otp: she's a pretty special girl
  • otp: you're her better option
  • otp: you should love the person that makes you glad that you're alive
  • otp: being with stefan somehow i figured it out
  • otp: just in case there is no later
  • otp: i love him
  • otp: i never unfell for him
  • otp: i was coming back for you
  • otp: i'm smiling; me too
  • otp: the best choice i ever made
  • otp: i'll be with you forever
  • otp: one day at a time
  • otp: your hands on my body
  • otp: you're so cheery
  • otp: you're the one getting me through this
  • otp: you just have to hold on
  • otp: i just need you to trust me
  • otp: stefan is your epic love
  • otp: now that's love
  • otp: he fought so hard he actually managed to resist
  • otp: i envy the love that you and elena share
  • otp: all i see is stefan and elena
  • otp: you know how badly i wanted a human life with you
  • otp: she didn't give up on me
  • otp: i won't give up on her
  • otp: i never thought i'd feel that way again until elena
  • otp: i just can't seem to shake her
  • otp: you just have to find that one thing inside of you that makes you want to live
  • otp: welcome back
  • otp: she's the love of my life
  • otp: i'd go back to her in a heartbeat
  • otp: you never gave up on me
  • otp: i owed you one
  • otp: don't give up
  • otp: these are the moments that keep me from falling apart
  • otp: stefan has elena
  • otp: this is where we collided
  • otp: you're smart you're pretty you're funny
  • otp: how do i not remember you?
  • otp: you were the perfect boyfriend
  • otp: you respected my choices
  • otp: i told you not to hide
  • otp: you may not remember but i do
  • otp: i got you
  • otp: i won't let her hurt you i promise
  • otp: your instincts were always to protect me
  • otp: you know me better than anybody else
  • otp: i do know you
  • otp: i wanted it to be you
  • otp: that kind of love can change your whole life
  • otp: every atom in my body told me that it was the right thing
  • otp: we were the perfect fit
  • otp: she wasn't you
  • otp: the life we had was amazing
  • otp: it was real
  • otp: we fell in love on our own
  • otp: i'll always love you
Mystic Falls About Stelena.
  • Klaus Mikaelson: "Crazy or not, that kind of love never dies."
  • Caroline Forbes: "You and Elena? EPIC."
  • Klaus Mikaelson: "And that is what makes you (Stefan) her (Elena) better option.
  • Caroline Forbes: "They are so cute together."
  • Lexi Branson: "When it's real, you can't wall away."
  • Rebekah Mikaelson: "i envy the love you (Stefan) and Elena have."
  • Klaus Mikaelson: "Now this is fascinating. I've never seen this before. The only thing stronger than your craving for blood is your love for this one girl."
  • Katherine Pierce: "There's still a connection between you two. Maybe, deep down, you know that he's your one true love and breaking up with him was a big mistake."
  • Elena Gilbert (to Stefan): "You were the perfect boyfriend."
  • Stefan Salvatore (about Elena): "She's the love of my life."
  • Caroline Forbes: "Stefan is your epic love."
  • Elena Gilbert: "It's your and me, Stefan. Always."
  • Stefan Salvatore: "I love you. I will always love you."
  • Silas (as Stefan): "Elena and I have history. Memories, laughs, ups and downs. It's a real relationship."
  • Stefan Salvatore: “Elena is warm and she’s kind and she’s caring and she’s selfless … And it’s real. And honestly, when I’m around her, I completely forget what I am.”
  • Qetsiyah: "Silas had his true love (Amara) …and Stefan has Elena."
  • Rebekah Mikaelson: "I thought Elena was your epic love Stefan."
  • Matt Donovan: "You guys are good together. I wasn't so sure before. But Elena is happy with you."
  • Damon Salvatore: "Stefan. It's always going to be Stefan."
  • Caroline Forbes: "Stefan is your soulmate!"
  • Jeremy Gilbert: "I'm glad that you guys are back together."
  • Rose: "Stefan is different. His love is pure and he will always be good for her (Elena).
  • Klaus Mikaelson: "All I see is Stefan and Elena."
  • Lexi Branson: "She will always be your epic love."
  • Silas: “How can you stand being here while your girlfriend (Elena) sits at home, worrying about her doppelgänger soulmate (Stefan)?”
  • Stefan Salvatore: “That kind of love, it can change your whole life.”
  • Rebekah Mikaelson: “Do you think you’ll ever love anyone like you loved that girl?”
  • Katherine Pierce: “You’d never look at me the way you look at Elena, would you?"
  • Qetsiyah a.k.a. Tessa: “Century after century, I watched versions of Stefan and Elena find each other, like magnets, always the same story—conquering all, falling in love. Destiny has been trying to get the doppelgängers together forever.”
  • Damon Salvatore: “She told me a very interesting little story about the history of doppelgängers, how they’re fated to fall in love with each other."
  • Qetsiyah: “Well, if it isn’t Stefan’s fated love! Come on in. Who am I to stand in the way of destiny?”
  • Silas: “Do you not notice the universe trying to mirror my love for Amara by bringing our doppelgängers together?”
  • Katherine Pierce: “I don’t know if you know this, but our doppelgänger stars are fated to be together. So, like it or not, you’re going to end up with somebody who looks like me. Although the universe seems to have all of its eggs in the Elena basket.”
  • Elena Gilbert: “I was coming back for you, Stefan. No matter what happens, it’s the best choice I ever made.”
  • Stefan Salvatore: “When you and I were together, every single atom in my body told me that it was the right thing. That we were the perfect fit.”
  • Stefan Salvatore: “I will always protect Elena."
  • Damon Salvatore: “I know you love Stefan. And it will always be Stefan.”
  • Elena Gilbert: “I never stopped loving you.”
  • Stefan Salvatore: “I will always love her.”
  • Elena Gilbert: “It’s like I knew that he would never stop loving me.”
  • Elena Gilbert: “We have history together."
  • Jenna Sommers: "You're lucky I like you (Stefan)."
  • Gloria: “You love her. You’d do anything for her, and you have.”
  • Klaus Mikaelson: “I remember when I compelled him to feed on Elena. He fought so hard, he actually managed to resist. Now, that’s love.”
  • Elijah Mikaelson: "Stefan won't let you (Elena) die."
  • Elena Gilbert: “I love you, Stefan. Hold on to that. Never let that go.”
just some thoughts . . .

i am not going to twist myself into knots trying to figure out how elena will exit the show and i won’t even work myself up into believing that she realizes her choice, in the end, would always be stefan although, honestly, that should be what happens (and i’m not necessarily saying that stefan should choose her back, that would be disrespectful to steroline). but the party line for delena is that damon made elena “feel alive” except much like most things about their actual relationship, that was taken from stelena. stefan and elena’s relationship was based on the fact that individually, they were both stuck in neutral, unable to move forward, to feel anything but numbness and sorrow but together, they awakened passion in each other, not just passion about each other, but about life in general, about family and friends; elena was able to re-discover herself with stefan and yet never used him to define who she was as a person.

 stefan is representative of the life elena wants, which is why in the season 3 finale when she had to choose between him and damon, damon was alone in a remote location while stefan was back at home with her friends and family; it was why in 5x18 their dream life together involved careers, a house, family, children, laughter. it’s why in season 5, she says, in front of damon, that stefan knows her better than anyone else (better than matt, than bonnie, than caroline, than jeremy) and even though in 5x18 when she asks, “do you think damon and i will ever be able to talk like this?” she adds, “like friends?” it goes to show that she wants the same intimacy and emotional vulnerability with damon that she has with stefan but that that kind of intimacy is unique to stelena. that isn’t simply stability, that is a sense of home. 

damon, to me, has always been a detour on her route back home, a road less travelled that she had to experience as a way of growing up and experimentation but that’s all because, try as the writers may, there is actually no *substance* to their relationship. and quite frankly, the writers don’t try that hard with delena. everything between them is spoken rather than actually depicted in action. elena says she never felt more alive but how? what have they done, how has she acted *within their relationship* to really substantiate that? stefan took her to ferris wheels so she could remember to live life, he took her on the back of his motorcycle so she could enjoy the power of vampirism, he took her to see a sunset so she could appreciate the beauty in the world around her, those are moments that made her glad to be alive but what did damon actually do for her? *truly*? most of their relationship is her placating his insecurity and stripping away crucial aspects of herself to constantly forgive him and love him; and there is absolutely no respect in that relationship simply because they *can* forgive each other anything and everything. there is no limit to the pain he can cause her, there is no amount of people she loves that he can kill or terrorize, she will always ask for more, which means that she actually isn’t his redemption because she expects no better of him and because she expects no better of him or of herself, she loses her agency, her independence and her morality. she isn’t a person with damon but she is with stefan. and that’s why, for her, it should always be him. 

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You’re supposed to  t r u s t  that I’m nothing like Enzo.

I don’t know actually. You’re not exactly the sharing type.