So, I hadn’t really intended to address the matter but I’m receiving a lot of asks and pm’s about it + it’s in the press here so i might as well just get it out of the way real quickly. Two metastases (new tumors created by the main one) have been found in my dad’s liver and it’s shitty but that’s just the way it is. I’d rather not discuss it and while i really am super appreciative of all your support and kindness I would rather not receive asks or stuff about it. I’m finishing up final exams and shit and i just need to focus on the things that i actually have control over (like my grades). so thank you all and i hope this answered your questions.
The downside of no longer being on the cheerleading squad was that now when Bonnie and Caroline had practice Elena was left out. Normally it wouldn’t have bothered her, but her uncle had decided to make a surprise visit to Mystic Falls and she was doing anything she could think of to stay away. She was never really sure of where her dislike for John came from, just that she didn’t like him. She always thought it was because Jenna didn’t like him and she liked Jenna. She refused to think that it was just instinctual. But it seemed that it may have been as she recently suspected that her uncle was actually her father.
She leaned up against a locker, waiting for Stefan’s class to be over. Elena wondered why it didn’t seem weird to her that Stefan was taking high school classes again. Maybe it was because he looked the right age. Part of her had thought that he’d drop out after she realized he wasn’t human. She heard the final bell ring and she pushed herself off the locker. “Do you wanna go to The Grill or something?” she asked. “John is staying with us and I just can’t be around all that right now.” She waved her hand, fingers spread open, in a circle-like gesture that was supposed to symbolize the Gilbert family drama.
"Crazy or not, that kind of love never dies."
"You and Elena? EPIC."
"And that is what makes you (Stefan) her (Elena) better option.
"They are so cute together."
"When it's real, you can't wall away."
"i envy the love you (Stefan) and Elena have."
"Now this is fascinating. I've never seen this before. The only thing stronger than your craving for blood is your love for this one girl."
"There's still a connection between you two. Maybe, deep down, you know that he's your one true love and breaking up with him was a big mistake."
Elena Gilbert (to Stefan):
"You were the perfect boyfriend."
Stefan Salvatore (about Elena):
"She's the love of my life."
"Stefan is your epic love."
"It's your and me, Stefan. Always."
"I love you. I will always love you."
Silas (as Stefan):
"Elena and I have history. Memories, laughs, ups and downs. It's a real relationship."
“Elena is warm and she’s kind and she’s caring and she’s selfless … And it’s real. And honestly, when I’m around her, I completely forget what I am.”
"Silas had his true love (Amara) …and Stefan has Elena."
"I thought Elena was your epic love Stefan."
"You guys are good together. I wasn't so sure before. But Elena is happy with you."
"Stefan. It's always going to be Stefan."
"Stefan is your soulmate!"
"I'm glad that you guys are back together."
"Stefan is different. His love is pure and he will always be good for her (Elena).
"All I see is Stefan and Elena."
"She will always be your epic love."
“How can you stand being here while your girlfriend (Elena) sits at home, worrying about her doppelgänger soulmate (Stefan)?”
“That kind of love, it can change your whole life.”
“Do you think you’ll ever love anyone like you loved that girl?”
“You’d never look at me the way you look at Elena, would you?"
Qetsiyah a.k.a. Tessa:
“Century after century, I watched versions of Stefan and Elena find each other, like magnets, always the same story—conquering all, falling in love. Destiny has been trying to get the doppelgängers together forever.”
“She told me a very interesting little story about the history of doppelgängers, how they’re fated to fall in love with each other."
“Well, if it isn’t Stefan’s fated love! Come on in. Who am I to stand in the way of destiny?”
“Do you not notice the universe trying to mirror my love for Amara by bringing our doppelgängers together?”
“I don’t know if you know this, but our doppelgänger stars are fated to be together. So, like it or not, you’re going to end up with somebody who looks like me. Although the universe seems to have all of its eggs in the Elena basket.”
“I was coming back for you, Stefan. No matter what happens, it’s the best choice I ever made.”
“When you and I were together, every single atom in my body told me that it was the right thing. That we were the perfect fit.”
“I will always protect Elena."
“I know you love Stefan. And it will always be Stefan.”
“I never stopped loving you.”
“I will always love her.”
“It’s like I knew that he would never stop loving me.”
“We have history together."
"You're lucky I like you (Stefan)."
“You love her. You’d do anything for her, and you have.”
“I remember when I compelled him to feed on Elena. He fought so hard, he actually managed to resist. Now, that’s love.”
"Stefan won't let you (Elena) die."
“I love you, Stefan. Hold on to that. Never let that go.”
i am not going to twist myself into knots trying to figure out how elena will exit the show and i won’t even work myself up into believing that she realizes her choice, in the end, would always be stefan although, honestly, that should be what happens (and i’m not necessarily saying that stefan should choose her back, that would be disrespectful to steroline). but the party line for delena is that damon made elena “feel alive” except much like most things about their actual relationship, that was taken from stelena. stefan and elena’s relationship was based on the fact that individually, they were both stuck in neutral, unable to move forward, to feel anything but numbness and sorrow but together, they awakened passion in each other, not just passion about each other, but about life in general, about family and friends; elena was able to re-discover herself with stefan and yet never used him to define who she was as a person.
stefan is representative of the life elena wants, which is why in the season 3 finale when she had to choose between him and damon, damon was alone in a remote location while stefan was back at home with her friends and family; it was why in 5x18 their dream life together involved careers, a house, family, children, laughter. it’s why in season 5, she says, in front of damon, that stefan knows her better than anyone else (better than matt, than bonnie, than caroline, than jeremy) and even though in 5x18 when she asks, “do you think damon and i will ever be able to talk like this?” she adds, “like friends?” it goes to show that she wants the same intimacy and emotional vulnerability with damon that she has with stefan but that that kind of intimacy is unique to stelena. that isn’t simply stability, that is a sense of home.
damon, to me, has always been a detour on her route back home, a road less travelled that she had to experience as a way of growing up and experimentation but that’s all because, try as the writers may, there is actually no *substance* to their relationship. and quite frankly, the writers don’t try that hard with delena. everything between them is spoken rather than actually depicted in action. elena says she never felt more alive but how? what have they done, how has she acted *within their relationship* to really substantiate that? stefan took her to ferris wheels so she could remember to live life, he took her on the back of his motorcycle so she could enjoy the power of vampirism, he took her to see a sunset so she could appreciate the beauty in the world around her, those are moments that made her glad to be alive but what did damon actually do for her? *truly*? most of their relationship is her placating his insecurity and stripping away crucial aspects of herself to constantly forgive him and love him; and there is absolutely no respect in that relationship simply because they *can* forgive each other anything and everything. there is no limit to the pain he can cause her, there is no amount of people she loves that he can kill or terrorize, she will always ask for more, which means that she actually isn’t his redemption because she expects no better of him and because she expects no better of him or of herself, she loses her agency, her independence and her morality. she isn’t a person with damon but she is with stefan. and that’s why, for her, it should always be him.