Something just occurred to me.
You know how rogers bitches about tony “not following orders” all the time?
Looking at Tony’s past, there’s probably a real reason other than “lol he’s just a dick who wants to make things harder for everyone”
Think about Iron Man 1.
Stane told Tony to do stuff all the time. Tony didn’t always listen, but you kinda get the feeling that Tony’s just been doing whatever Stane tells him to in regards to the company, and has been doing so for years.
Now think of how that movie ended.
Turns out Stane has been selling weapons to terrorists under the table and has been actively trying to kill Tony the whole movie.
Most people talk about how this probably gave him more trust issues, lead to his dislike of being handed things, etc. Trust issues doesn’t really need explanation, and I’ve seen people explain him being handed papers to sign off weapons deals and developments, and Afghanistan showed him what he was doing. Logically, he knows that the act of being handed things isn’t what caused it, and i doubt he signs anything without himself or Pepper reading the whole thing anymore, but that’s what his brain latched on to. That’s all well and good (Not really, but you get my point)
Now think about the act of giving and following orders.
Its one person telling another person what to do and expecting them to follow without question.
Can you imagine how many red flags that would set off in Tony’s mind?
Rationally, he probably knows that Rogers isn’t going to have him kidnapped and tortured with the end goal of murder, but PTSD doesn’t care what’s rational.
He probably can’t even make himself do it some days, the need to think for himself and make sure there are no holes in any logic too overwhelming to ignore. The need to over analyze every order he’s ever given to make sure it won’t cause harm to others or himself (It’s Tony, you know he comes last) isn’t avoidable. He trusts Rogers (or at least he did pre civil war, I personally can’t see Tony trusting Rogers with much of anything after Siberia), but no matter how hard he tries he just can’t do it, he can’t be another solider in the crowd, doing that almost got him killed more than once.
And yeah, maybe he’s trying to push Rogers’ buttons a little.
But Tony isn’t like any other avenger except maybe Natasha and Bruce.
Steve is driven by the need to do the right thing. Thor swore to protect Midgard. Clint seems like a thrill seeker to me. He was an assassin who killed without remorse, at this point I think he’s more addicted to the thrill if being Hawkeye than anything else, saving lives is just a bonus.
Natasha wants to get the red out of her ledger, but it seems to be secondary to her own safety and livelihood. Bruce is probably closest to Tony, but he always seemed more focused on keeping the hulk out of the world than helping people. Which, to be fair, keeping the hulk away is preventing a rampage, but that seems more like a preventative measure than active heroism to me.
Pure, unadulterated guilt. In his mind, he has a lot of sins smearing his name, and he won’t rest until he believes they’ve been wiped clean. (which, with the downward spiral he seems to be in, will be never) He puts it before everything: His company, his image, even his own health. Yeah, the other avengers may be willing to make the sacrifice play in the field, but none of them destroy themselves off of it the way Tony does. None of them give up food and sleep, drive themselves into the ground with little to no reprieve 24/7 the way Tony does. He works as a consultant of SHIELD to help the world, he works on new inventions for his company because every single person who works for Stark industries relies on him to be successful or they risk loosing their jobs. He gives up his own home to the Avengers of his own free will so they can react faster in case of emergency, and when that fails he builds another place that will fit the bill. None of the other Avengers have given up nearly as much as Tony has for the greater good, at least knowing what they were doing. Yes, Steve ended up 70 years in the future, but he thought he would just die. Tony has spent millions on the Avengers, making sure they have everything they want or need, and they don’t so much as send him a thank you.
But he still does it, he still gives everything to the people that lied to him, and, far worse in Tony’s case, betrayed him (like Stane, Like Tobias Stone, Like Natashalie, Like everyone), because he’s a man with a debt who won’t stop until it’s paid, even though the interest just keeps mounting higher with every year.
Does that sound like a man who would purposefully put people in danger if he could help it?
If Tony could genuinely believe that Rogers would always make the right call to save the day, I doubt he would do anything besides make a few jokes to keep up the charade. But he can’t, because he believed that of someone else and they stabbed him in the back so he can never hand someone else a knife again. He isn’t capable in putting him entire trust in people, because everyone betrays him until they don’t, but those few are the exception and not the rule, and the scientist in his screams that those aren’t reliable enough odds to bet on. He doesn’t follow orders because he can’t, because no matter how hard he tries he cannot trust anyone else to make the right call, so he has to analyze everything first.
Whelp, that was a tangent that I didn’t expect to go on. I should probably write something for this…