Men beating and raping and getting off on the degradation of women is a men’s issue, yeah. But what happens when we ask male allies to address these issues? They a) write books (that women have usually already written) and make money off of them or b) join feminist/women’s lib groups aka invade women’s spaces in order to be seen as doing something to address these issues. They never actually c) speak only to men about rape/male violence against women/porn/prostitution or protest men’s magazines or whatever, because that would require more effort than hanging around with and getting treated like heroes by feminists.
i feel like my default state is loneliness. most of the time its bearable and comfortable but its starting to get jarring again. i want to meet someone new, someone whom i like and likes me back, but i cant think of a good way how to go about it. the only ways i can think of seem inorganic. what should i do? try to bear it more and wait?