so, the National Museum of American Jewish History in philly is currently preparing to curate an exhibit on queer american jews, and they’re looking for you.
(you here being a queer american jew, which, if you’re reading this tumblr, you probably are)
do you have a story about your jewish queerness that you’ve always wanted to tell? (i know you do; i’ve read your posts). did you read the autostraddle post on being gay on hannukah and want to give a follow-up? are you sick of depleted representation of people like you, and would love to see some in a museum?
if so, submit a story (SUPER CONVENIENTLY) to this tumblr. (yes, the exhibit has a tumblr. what a time to be alive). tell your story. be heard. get images of yourself out there, and then come to philly and see them on display.
hannukah sameach, and may all your wintertimes be queer
Having dissociative amnesia is so weird because it’s not like normal forgetting where you’re kind of like “I think this happened but I don’t know the details”, it’s looking back at a period of your life and seeing absolutely nothing. There is nothing TO remember, it’s just like a big black pit where your childhood should be.
There are 365 days in a year
And you and I both know from many unfortunate personal experiences,
That not all of those days will be good.
For some, the majority of those days will be a breeze
For others, each day will be a trial.
The world is a difficult place.
The world is an interesting place.
I am here to give you a few reminders
To keep up with this trying world we live in.
1. Follow your own heart and dreams. Don’t ever let anyone else tell you what you can or can’t do.
2. If you want something enough, you will find a way to make it happen.
3. You will meet people who hate you, and you will meet people who love you, and you will meet people who you think love you. Don’t be fooled. Some people are just passing by in your story called life. They’re there to teach you something, so always be aware.
4. Always remember that bad things and situations you don’t like will end. It may take minutes, hours, days, or years, but never forget that they will end eventually. You can get through anything.
5. You are your own person, not anyone else’s. Don’t let people take control of you and change your beautiful self.
6. The people in your life who make you giggle and smile in the darkest of times are ones you need to keep with you forever. There is always the potential for hard times, and you’ll need someone to cheer you on.
7. You do not have to live up to any standards or expectations. Family and peers and society are constantly telling us that we have to be a certain way, or else we aren’t good enough. Tune out of that thinking and just be yourself. That’s the best thing you can be.
8. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone. Being out of the box can bring on so many amazing new opportunities you never even thought existed.
9. A lot is going to happen to you during your lifetime, so let yourself feel anything and everything. Always feel as much as you can. It makes you experience things at a higher level and you can say, “Yes I know this feeling. I’ve been here before.”
10. A good cry cleanses the heart and mind and soul.
11. Appreciate the small things. They can teach you to love and be at peace with everything around you.
12. It’s okay to take a break from everyday duties once in a while.
13. Travel whenever possible, it opens the mind. Go on adventures in new places and learn about the world. You will come back a new person.
14. Get up the courage to talk to strangers. That’s how you meet people. Who knows, the next person you meet could end up being your new best friend.
15. Stand in the rain and breathe in the wide open air and absorb everything you can about the earth.
16. Long walks are something that can clear the mind and resolve many issues.
17. It’s okay to lay in bed with a book all day.
18. Look out the window and watch the snow silently fall. It’s one of the most peaceful and relaxing things you can do.
19. Remember that everyone is living their very own life with their own problems, so always be kind and respect others.
20. Keep and open mind and listen to people’s thoughts. You might discover more than you think.
21. You are not defined by your weight or skin color or career or the number of friends you have or your grades in school or your decisions. You are so much more than that.
22. Everyone makes mistakes in life, so don’t judge a person based on their decisions.
23. Keep your own limits and morals. Don’t give them up for anyone.
24. Live a little. Be spontaneous and experience all that you possibly can.
25. Aim to live a life that you will be proud of and content with when you’re 90 years old.
26. Things in life will tear you down, but time heals everything.
27. Rumors don’t help anyone. Don’t start or spread them.
28. Your soulmate is out there in the world searching for you too. Don’t lose hope. You’ll find each other one day.
29. Treat yourself once in a while.
30. Random acts of kindness can make someone’s day and it can make you feel good too.
31. You’re going to have to work if you want to live a truly happy life. Don’t cheat or make someone else do the work for you. That will only make an unfulfilled and empty life for you in the end.
32. Be proud of everything you do.
33. Self love never hurt anyone.
34. Find things to look forward to. It will keep you excited and more hopeful for the bright future.
35. Leave a piece of you in every place you go and with every person you meet.
36. Always listen to people. Everyone just wants to be heard and understood and feel like they matter to someone.
37. Do what is best for you in the long run, even if it hurts at first.
38. Love with all your heart and soul at every opportunity.
39. Never settle for less. You deserve the best and whatever makes you truly happy.
40. Don’t feel bad if someone doesn’t like you. It’s their loss because they won’t get to experience your magnificent presence.
41. Never fear love. Love can make you grow and blossom and teach you so much. Don’t fear it, but proceed with caution. Broken hearts will heal with time, but they are never fun.
42. Dancing silly to your favorite songs will guarantee some giggles and smiles.
43. Always sing in the shower, and when you’re home alone, sing as loud as you can.
44. Put effort into everything you do. It makes it all worthwhile and you feel better about it in the end. You can reflect and say “Look at this. I’m proud.”
45. Exercise makes you feel good and you’ll feel accomplished too. Try it sometime.
46. You are beautiful exactly how you are. Don’t deny yourself of your own loveliness.
47. You may not be perfect, because no one is, but you’re hella radiant, which is near perfection.
48. To grow as a person and expand your mind and soul, learn at least one new thing everyday.
49. Don’t beat yourself up about things you have no control over.
50. Happiness is not a goal or a point on a map. It is a state of being that everyone deserves.
Now my friend, I hope you can carry these things with you in your heart
Because every time you are down
You can always get back up.
Every time you are afraid
The fear won’t last forever.
This world and the people in it may knock you down
But you need to keep getting back up.
You have to.
Live, live, live.
Live your dream life. Make things happen.
It will be hard and it may seem hopeless and pointless sometimes,
But just remember that things really do get better.
The world is a difficult place.
The world is a beautiful place.
But only if you believe it to be.
I kind of wanted Cas to snap at dean saying “you wanna talk about cosmic consequences?? How about: the DARKNESS. And the fact that YOU KILLED DEATH, DEAN, I don’t think you get to say anything about what I did.”
I got my car inspected at a place called Friendly’s Car Car–and the name was quite accurate! Super speedy inspection–I finished less than a chapter of my book–and super nice people. I’ll definitely be going back.
Purchased all kinds of healthy snacks and stuff for dinner tonight at Trader Joe’s–more friendly people there!
Prepped a bunch of small containers of sliced vegetables, yogurt, fruit, and nuts/granola/pumpkin seeds because not only have I really enjoyed having them at work for lunches but I came home from book club last night to find the husband eating my pre-prepared yogurt and all the toppings that I keep separate but stacked on top (to prevent sogginess). He’s been wanting to eat healthier and I know he’ll do it if snacks are grab-n-go ready and it’s not like it’s difficult for me to just prepare more so he can have some. :) I ordered a few more of these containers because they’re the perfect size for sliced fruit/veggies!
Just dropped off some books in my neighbors’ little library and left a thank you note for the ones I borrowed in their mailbox! I took Walter with me and he enjoyed the extra mid-day walk!
On our way home, my elderly neighbor (who I always wave at but have never really chatted to) told me that I had a “beautiful dog.” So, I asked him if he had any pets and it led to a whole conversation and I brought Walter up the drive so he could pet him and when I left he said, “I’m going to have to tell my wife I got to pet a dog today and talk to a nice neighbor–you did a good deed today, young lady!” I’m pretty sure it was nicer for me, but how sweet of him! <3
I’ve gotten a lot done on my project, as well, and I’m going to have time for both a bike ride and the gym with my gym friends today!
Sometimes, still, Carl will look at Negan and wonder why he
didn’t kill him when he had the chance, when they were at Alexandria for the
first time in two months and his dad, everyone, had ambushed the trucks, held
their guns to Negan’s head and told Carl to bash his brains in with Lucille. It
isn’t as if he’s never killed before—hell, he killed his own mom, and for all
his shit-talking Negan’s right, you don’t come back from that. Three years on
Carl still wakes up sometimes sweating feeling like her hand is on his wrist,
like she’s staring at him from a pool of blood, her stomach slashed open in
ribbons. His mom hadn’t exactly been there for him but he still misses her in a
gaping aching sort of way, like a gunshot wound, when he allows himself to
think of her at all.
But he hadn’t killed Negan. He hadn’t even tried. Lucille in
his hand and everyone, his dad, Michonne, Daryl—even some of the Saviors,
though Carl’s sure they’ve been taken care of since—screaming at him to do it
and he’d looked down at Negan, at that face he knew he was supposed to loathe
with his entire being, and it was like he couldn’t even breathe. The sun
shining on the back of his neck and the rest of Alexandria surrounding them,
closing in, first time he’d seen the place in eight full weeks and it hadn’t
even felt like home anymore.
He killed Glenn, the
logical half of Carl’s brain yells at him. And
Abraham might’ve been a dick but he didn’t deserve going down like that.
He killed Glenn and
Maggie would kill you if she knew.
But Maggie’s not here. Maggie’s at Hilltop. Carl’s at the
Sanctuary. And Negan’s alive, and try as he might, Carl can’t bring himself to
regret that. Not yet.