my mom and grandmother keep pestering me about getting a boyfriend but I'm a lesbian but they're so homophobic I can't tell them and every single guy I mention they ask if it will be "something more" it's suffocating. How did I get them off my back??
That’s a very tough situation to be in and I imagine it’s incredibly draining emotionally. My best advice would be to tell both your mother and grandmother that you are currently not interested in being in a relationship and there are other things you would like to focus on, such as school, friends, your hobbies, work, developing yourself, etc. Just say that currently a relationship is not a priority for you and it would make you feel better if they didn’t pressure you all the time to find a boyfriend. I know this situation is difficult, hang in there hun. Best of luck and take care.