it was a google search for research

Parrot Keeping

I don’t get it.

People want to get a single parrot because if they get two then the parrot won’t like them as much.

But then they don’t want the parrot to view them as a mate.

What did you expect? You got a pet in which most species mate for life. Their lives revolve around their mate, preening their mate, feeding their mate, having sex with their mate, raising babies with their mate, driving away competitors from their mate, and yes, spending their entire life with their mate.

You prime them for this situation by you or a housemate being the only ones available, and then freak out when they want to do this to you. It’s natural. It’s not bad. Your parrot isn’t misbehaving, it isn’t a bad bird just because you are keeping a wild animal in a captive situation where it just wants to do what every feather on its body is telling it to do. Stop treating it like such, stop punishing them for displaying mating behaviors.

Do what you signed up for by getting a single bird or work to get your bird a feathered mate. That doesn’t mean buying the first bird at the pet store you see and throwing them in a cage together and wondering why they don’t like each other. That means becoming a match maker and setting up play dates, or even consider rehoming your bird to someone who can.

Stop buying parrots and expecting these wild animals to be pets. They’re not. We’re on the way to domesticating birds like budgies, cockatiels, love birds, Indian ring necks…but we’re still so far from being able to keep them happy and healthily easily like we are with chickens and pigeons who thrive with us. Hell, starlings make better pets than parrots since at least they often choose to be with us.

And please, when you’re researching any animal don’t do a quick google search. Talk to as many people as possible, both new owners and experienced owners.

fullmooninthenightsky  asked:

Hey, I read you answered questions on witchcraft and I'm just about starting out on being a witch and I'm just kinda lost. How do I find out what kind of a witch I am, for example? And what about room decor, plants, drying herbs, crystals, sigils and others? How do I even start being a witch?Do you have any websites or blogs (or tips?) that could help me out? Thank you ♡ x

Hi there!

You find out what kind of witch you are, by deciding what kind of witchcraft you want to practice. Most people just choose what they want to be, based off what they like, what they feel drawn to, or just what they want to do. [Here] is a list of types of witches that might inspire you / help you get started on finding a type of magic you want to work with first. This list is not extensive, and what you choose you aren’t stuck with forever - you can try other things, combine things, whatever you want to do! Witchcraft is super personal, and it’s all for you, by you. You also don’t need to confine your magic to any singular label; you can choose more than one to work with.

I picked sigil magic to start with, for example, because it seemed easy, and I knew I could draw; it also required very little supplies, and it also honestly seemed the least likely to backfire. xD My craft eventually evolved into eclectic magic, because I began using a bit of everything else (crystals, herbs, candles, etc.) in my magic to get what I needed.

As for room decor, that’s up to you. You don’t need it, though. You don’t need to *look* witchy to *be* witchy. If you need to be on the down low about your magic, you don’t have to draw huge pentacles on your walls or wear all black or anything like that to still have magic work. What makes you a witch or magic user is what’s inside you, not around you (it can help but, you know, not required). But, if you want to make your room look “witchy,” whatever that means to you, go right for it. But I don’t think it will impact your magic in any way. (I don’t view altars / magical work spaces as decor - they are more than just decorations.)

In regards to plants, it’s another case of if you want to. All my herbs I get pre-dried in grocery stores and bulk stores, because I can’t grow plants worth squat. I’ve taken fresh herbs from grocery stores, actually, that’s a lie, but they were already grown, and I just hung them in my window to dry them. If you want to try growing your own herbs, feel free, but it isn’t necessary - pre-dried and store bought have worked perfectly for me for the last two years. (I also don’t know anything about growing herbs or gardening, so you’d need to go elsewhere for those answers.)

Working with crystals and sigils are optional - they can prove beneficial, but if you don’t want to do that, you don’t need to. 

Working with *anything* is optional, when you get right down to it - all these things, candles, herbs, crystals, are just amplifiers and focuses for magic. You can perform witchcraft with just your own body, energy, and intent. You just need to know how. (P.S. [energy work] is how.)

Doing your own research will never go amiss, let me tell you that right now. I know it can seem daunting, and you don’t know where to start, but seriously, just a Google search of “witchcraft crystal magic” or “witchcraft sigil magic” can pull up a lot of information and give you more ideas of where to go that you can follow on your own. (I really recommend specifying “witchcraft” when searching on the internet, because you might get a lot of pop culture links that just aren’t relevant, or a variety of other articles that might not be applicable.)

You start being a witch by deciding you want to be a witch. Boom, congratulations, welcome to witchcraft! :D From there, it’s going to be a lot of research. Research will help you determine more about witchcraft in general, and from there you can decide what you want to do with it. Once you have an idea of things you might want to try - working with crystals, herbs, sea magic, etc. - you can do more focused research on those topics. 

Once you have an idea of what you want to do, try it out. Give some things a shot and practice. Write down what you try, so if it doesn’t work or things go wrong, you can look back and think “what if I try this instead?.” and then try it. It really is all about experimentation. You will make mistakes, spell may not work - it is something that has happened to us all, and likely will again. Nothing is perfect and neither is magic. Don’t be daunted, though - you are new to it, it will take some time to get the hang of and build your confidence up. Just stay positive, and remember that mistakes are learning experiences, and help define you more as witch. Never give up. The magic is inside you, you just need to find the right way to work with it. 

Here are some more posts on starting with witchcraft:

Some of my favorite blogs:

@breelandwalker @oldmotherredcap @fuckyeahpaganism
@recreationalwitchcraft @maddiviner @cunningcelt @witchtips
@teapartyforthewitches @sigilathenaeum @orriculum @magpiesmagicnest
@the-darkest-of-lights @witchy-infobook @thepaganstudygrouppage
@spooniewitches @lowspoonswitchcraft @neurowitchcraft @neurodwitches
@witchy-words  @urbanspellcraft @witchsaves @thewitchlessons
@thewitchingour @witchy-woman @violetwitchcraft @spiritvexer
@the-ram-witch @theoryofmagick @low-budget-witches @witchoncampus
@phoenyxoftheashes @cosmic-witch @phaesphore @stormbornwitch  
@stormwaterwitch @witchglitch @cladinscarlet @smokeandblueroses  
@darkwoodswitch @alsowitchcraft @nightkunoichi @stsathyre
@witchofkeys @witchy-tips @witchy-businesss @thiscrookedcrown
@herbs-and-spells @herbs-and-journals @belladonnaswitchblog
@the-atypical-pagan @thepunkgreenwitch @liberumbrarum
@upthewitchypunx @queerkitchenwitch @lavenderspells @witchcraftings
@broomcorner @modern-witchcraft @themoonmysteries
@idontusemycauldrons

Long post, but yeah, I hope that helps you! If you have any more questions, I’ll do what I can to help you. :)

Learning Graphic Design On Your Own

A Quick Note…

Everyone learns differently. Some people like to ask questions in class, others like to watch videos that they can pause and replay, and even more people could prefer to just tinker and see what happens (I’m personally a tinkerer). The first thing you should do when learning on your own (so probably online or through books) is to do some research and know how you like to learn.

So, let’s start with… what even is “Graphic Design”?

Let’s get this straight… graphic designers aren’t fine artists. They are problem solvers, visual communicators, and sometimes curators of information in an aesthetically pleasing way. We organize information and try to make the world an easier-to-understand and more beautiful place. Of course, there are other fields like advertising where we communicate to customers why they should buy certain products. Or there are User Interface/Experience designers that will develop websites and video game interfaces and design how you interact with it. Look into graphic design and see what field you want to be in. What do you want to do with graphic design?

Fun fact, the google definition says: “the art or skill of combining text and pictures in advertisements, magazines, or books.” and to that, I’d like to say we do SO MUCH MORE.

Now that you know what you’re doing…Here’s the VERY BRIEF process!
(I may make individual posts for each step later on)

  1. Learn the basics
    1. Typography, how to use the basic principles of line, shape, color, and so on is usually for everyone no matter your field.
    2. Basics like composition are also very important. If you’re into editorial then typographic spreads will be more of your focus. If you’re in web design then seeing how websites are typically laid out will be a thing to look into. Basic typography, color theory, and principles still apply!
    3. Basics and principles are a google search (or a book) away! Everyone talks about these things ALL the time.
  2. Look up inspiration and develop an “eye” for design
    1. Follow design blogs! Follow other designers! On all of your social media! (There are so many Tumblr blogs and Instagram accounts solely dedicated to graphic design curation).
  3. Look into the big names of the industry
    1. Why were they remembered? Everyone else in the field probably remembers them for that, too.
    2. What was so great about them? Apply what you learn to your own work!
    3. If they’re well known, they probably have at least decent work to get inspired from!
  4. Research is done… time to do some work!
    1. If you’re just starting out, there are some things you’re probably not used to. Doing things by hand with sharpie markers on paper will definitely help train your eye and mind to think more about communication, not pretty things. 
    2. Abstract things down into simple shapes. Then try communicating that same object with fewer shapes. Maybe only lines? Geometric style? Play around with communication! This is key when you get into icons, logos, and other visuals that require a more minimal look. 
    3. Remember, you make information more easily accessible. The best logos are easy to remember because they are simple and effective. Your work may one day need that kind of punch!
  5. The jump from traditional to digital
    1. It’s time to learn about your program(s) of choice… my biggest piece of advice would be to just mess with it. Learning on your own by trying to make something is one of the best ways to train your mind and body on how to use the programs.
    2. Try every tool. Try making basic shapes. Then make basic objects with those shapes. Then try making a person or something more complicated. Try to test every tool to see what you’d use it for!
    3. Don’t know anything or how to do something? Google it! If you’re asking there’s probably 5+ different YouTube videos, 3+ articles, and 100+ tutorials on how to do it.
  6. Let’s work on projects!
    1. Now that you’re familiar with the history, principles, other designers, and the programs… just keep on making stuff!
    2. Making your own projects (make your own website, business cards, a flyer for a club, a T-Shirt, and so on…) is my biggest recommendation on how to learn graphic design. Actually applying everything you’ve learned will make you think in a problem-solving way! Also sharing things that you’ve made that actually matter is way more fun than sharing a fancy circle you made with no context. (You can say “look at this T-Shirt I made!” instead of “look at this weird circle I made!”)
  7. Get feedback from designers and non-designers
    1. Once you’ve made stuff… ask everyone! Non-designers will give you a client’s perspective of your work. A designer’s perspective will help you grow as a designer and they may see things that you and your average person wouldn’t have noticed. (you’re always free to ask me if you’d like!)
    2. Please remember to not take feedback personally (unless they’re being rude, then just ignore them). You’re learning and growing and there’s always room for improvement. A lot of feedback is not a bad thing!
  8. Stay determined!
    1. Being a designer isn’t easy. That T-Shirt you made that took you a couple days? Someone could say they don’t get it. Other designers could say there was a better way to execute your idea. Another person may even say it looks like something else!
    2. When you design you have to expect to make revisions, rethinking, and making more revisions until it’s at a good enough place to publish. But no matter what, you have to remember that it’s not about PERFECTION. It’s about getting it DONE and learning to grow. No one is perfect, and it’s mostly subjective, so just take the criticism you agree with and don’t apply what you disagree with. As a designer, you should know what’s right, wrong, or what you should consider bringing up to other designers.
    3. KEEP MAKING MORE STUFF! You can even remake older stuff as you go on! Just keep going!

That’s my super brief process!

Now honestly, I could’ve gotten down into the nitty gritty details of each step, but this is basically how I’d suggest going about it if you want to get a head start before getting into college, or you want to just learn on your own.

If you guys have any additional questions or want me to go more in-depth about anything, feel free to let me know! :)

Astral Travel vs Astral Projection

This is honestly one of our most requested posts right now. We’ve got numerous anons in our inbox asking us “what is astral travel, how do you do it, and how is it different than astral projection?”

So first off I’m going to address what the astral is so we’re all on the same page. The astral is, in essence, a variety of different realms/dimensions/spaces that can be accessed and is populated by astral beings. Spirits often live here, various deities and entities, and even human souls who simply exist there or are dead or will exist in the future. (Time is weird in the astral.) It’s basically an Otherworld or perhaps the Otherworld often described in myths and legends. It’s not always safe. Just like you shouldn’t trust every single human you meet here on earth, you shouldn’t trust every single spirit you meet in the astral. 

So now on to different ways to access the astral, primarily astral projection and astral travel. 

Astral Projection 

Personally, I find astral projection a lot harder. It’s essentially a form of self-hypnosis. A quick google search/preliminary research will most likely tell you that astral travel and astral projection are the same thing.

Astral travel and astral projection are not the same thing. 

Astral projection typically involves a very deep meditative state. It’s pretty much synonymous with inducing an out of body experience (OBE). Your mind is on the edge of sleep and has to stay there in order to induce the right state for astral projection.

Personally, I find this dangerous. First of all, exploring the astral is not safe. Take a guide with you or make sure that your body/self is personally protected. (Sprinkle some black salt on your forehead, carry a protective charm, make a spell jar that will protect you during astral travel, etc. Doesn’t have to be fancy, just keep yourself protected!) There are potential dangers to astral travel and astral projection.

The biggest concern I have with astral projection is that it can often induce sleep paralysis and other hallucinations that are not necessarily related to the astral realms. People who have experienced sleep paralysis may see shadow people at the edge of their bed, demons attacking them in their sleep, etc. Your body is asleep but your mind is awake. Brains are weird. It can also induce a state of panic because hey, your body isn’t moving but your mind is very awake, sounds like the perfect time to panic and make you believe that you’re being possessed by demons. Which, if you’re already scared of demons or negative/evil entities, your mind will be more likely to create those and some very real spirits like to feed off your fears. 

So now that I’ve probably scared most of you out of astral projection, let me talk about the ways that astral projection can be a good and useful way to access the astral. 

It’s easy to believe that what you’re experiencing is real. With astral projection, your soul is literally separated from your body, and things are a lot more vivid. When successfully and safely practicing astral projection, there’s a lot less room for doubt over what you’ve experienced because typically it is incredibly sensory. Humans have a tendency to believe what they can see/feel/touch/smell/hear. 

It’s also easier to be aware of what you’re doing in the astral. You’re experiencing a very vivid trip to the astral, so it’s easier to know and control what you do. Messages are likely to get through easier. It’s very similar to lucid dreaming in that you’re aware of what’s happening so you can respond appropriately. That’s not to say that you can’t be aware of things during astral travel, it’s just a bit easier with projection. 

Unfortunately, it can be very difficult for some to astral project for a variety of reasons. Personally, I have a very difficult time doing astral projection. Your energy might be blocked or your soul may just really wanna stay inside your body. Realizing you have a hard time doing astral projection can be really discouraging if you believe that it’s the only way to get into the astral. 

So if you’re discouraged because astral projection seems really hard and unattainable and kinda scary and now you’ll never be able to do the spirit work that you want to, don’t worry. I’m about to talk about astral travel.

Astral Travel

Just like astral projection, there are dangers to astral travel. I don’t want to make this post seem like it’s perfectly safe and harmless to astral travel without concern for your safety. Don’t be afraid, but don’t be stupid. 

Have you ever done a guided meditation or visualized what you want? Congrats, you can astral travel! It’s almost difficult for me to describe how you astral travel simply because it’s almost second nature to me now. Unless there’s something blocking or hurting me, I can pretty much access my astral space or explore at any time of the day. (Lol I’ve astral traveled at work before. I don’t recommend that, as astral travel can and does require some concentration.)

When you’re new to astral travel, it might be helpful for you to get into a meditative state. Not a hypnotic state, just a nice and relaxed meditative state. Now visualize somewhere that you like. The ocean, the mountains, a nice field, a city you enjoy. Or, if you have a hard time getting there, picture a door. What does that door look like? Tell the door you want to go to your astral space. Now open that door. 

Ward your astral space. Your own personal astral space can be modified and changed within reason. But the big difference between imagination and astral travel is that not everything will respond exactly the way you think or want it to. Your space will grow and change without your attention/care. You can even just practice astral travel by taking care of your astral space. 

Do you want to leave your astral space? Get your astral protections ready (please for the love of all that is good in this world WARD YOUR ASTRAL SPACE) and visualize that door again. What does it look like? Does it look different? How do you feel about that? What is your gut telling you about the door and where it leads? Listen to your gut. Ask the door to take you to your astral guide. That’s one way that you can find someone to help you explore the astral safely. 

I must put the caveat that not everyone will see things in high definition. In fact, it will mostly be in your mind’s eye, not your physical eyes. That’s part of what tripped me up when I first began exploring the astral. I was expecting to see things with my physical eyes but was ignoring my mind’s eye where things were happening. It is very similar to your imagination and personally, I believe that successful astral travel needs some creativity and imagination. So don’t worry if your astral travel mostly looks like a dark space with a vague feeling of what things are and where they are. Pay attention to other things. What do you hear? What do you sense? What do you just sort of know? What do you smell? What do you taste? Don’t worry if visualization is hard for you. It’s still possible to astral travel. A lot of times it’s very easy to overcomplicate it 

So there you have it folks! Astral projection vs astral travel! I hope this helps some of you!

~Mod Petra

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this was gonna be a tutorial and i guess it still is but if anything it’s just a really long and drawn out “essay” on drawing people with epicanthic folds. one of my biggest pet peeves is people drawing asian people exclusively with the same type of eye they’d give white people or anyone else who typically doesn’t have the fold! however i know that most people are taught with the standard white person eye (google image search for “eye” and it’ll all be pictures of white people’s eyes) so learning to draw epicanthic folds is a consciously learned thing. 

therefore i bring you this, which attempts to break the mechanics of epicanthic folds down into something that’s a bit easier to digest and implement in your own art! 

style can be argued i guess but it’s not that hard to stylize eyes with folds if you do proper observation and research. eyes with epicanthic folds are as diverse as eyes without so it’s not like you have to adhere to a strict model for them (although many people think that you have to) and all it takes to distinguish the two in stylized art (and even in semi/realism once you think about it) is a few lines! like i said this is a learned process but it’ll make your asian characters (and characters of other races even) a bit more interesting and believable.

anonymous asked:

What's the difference between hoodoo, voodoo, and rootwork? I'm kind of a beginner witch and am researching all I can about the different kinds of witchcraft, even the ones I don't practice. But all three get lumped together in everything I read. Are they interchangeable? What even is the correct spelling of "voodoo"? And can you recommend some good places to start researching. The last thing I want is to disrespect anybody!

From an answered ask:

They’re related, but not the same thing. Hoodoo is just an umbrella term for a bunch of other practices that originated in the Western part of Africa. It’s considered just folk magic, not a religion. Southerns of the US practice this, especially Christians.

Voodoo has 2 branches: Louisiana Voodoo, and Haitian Voodoo [Should have been spelled Vodou. You’ll see why later]. It is considered a religion. The only difference really between the 2 is the ritual order (Louisiana Voodoo doesn’t have much of it.) Voodoo is a combination of religion and folk magic (and if you know anything about the history of Voodoo and where is came from, you should know why that is).

Rootwork is just that. Working with roots and flora. Of course, in the past, you used the local plants in your area and today, its much easier to get roots from other places in the world.  

Rootwork and hoodoo are actually interchangeable. Of course, with these definitions they don’t look like it. But if you were to use both words interchangeably to a hoodoo practitioner they most likely wouldn’t bat an eye. And to be a little bit more specific, you use rootwork in hoodoo as it is one of the practices used in hoodoo.

You can also use rootwork in voodoo, but rootwork does not equal voodoo. And hoodoo does not equal voodoo. So~

  • Hoodoo = Rootwork
  • Hoodoo  ≠ Voodoo
  • Rootwork  ≠ Voodoo

Spelling is actually important to know. I think it doesn’t get talk about a lot in the community except for a random tumblr post or blog post floating about saying how that person hates it when people always spell it one way and dont know the other ways. And why theyre used.

(Correct me if I’m wrong anyone) ‘Voodoo’ is not only the mainstream version of the spelling but usually refers to Southern Voodoo or Louisiana Voodoo. ‘Voodoo’ is actually seen as derogatory and wrong to some in Haiti which brings me to the other way spelling it. ‘Vodou’ (or ‘Vodoun’, ‘Vodun’, ‘Vodu’ and sometimes ‘Vudu’) usually refers to Haitian Vodou. You’re going to see the different spellings used all the time. But know that when Someone is saying ‘Vodou’ they are mostly talking about Haitian Vodou and when people say ‘voodoo’ theyre either lumping all voodoo together or theyre talking about American Voodoo. And, all Voodoo came from Coastal West Africa (From Nigera to Ghana).

Also, when it comes to researching, you’re not going to get much when it comes to Voodoo since information is passed by word of mouth. Hoodoo on the other hand is everywhere on the internet. A quick google search and a quick YT search will get you so much. 

Quick note though, If you see anything related to LuckyMojo, take it with a grain of salt. The owner of the website is a bully, and pretty much infiltrated and made money from a community that was never hers.

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A very simple summary of sleep paralysis

I’ve been getting a lot of questions about this, so I tried to give a basic explanation as to what this is. Please keep in mind that this is what I learned during my research for a project. I am not a doctor and this is how I understood it. It’s also a summary, so there is more to this, of course. This is simply the basics. Should you find a mistake, I promise you that I did not do so on purpose and would therefore be thankful if you would politely correct me and not yell at me. I am open to listen and be educated!

There are several factors that can increase the chance of experiencing this and you can find them with a simple google search. I am not listing them here because I know from experience that being aware of some of them can make you worried and scared that this might happen, which can keep you up at night. So please go look for them yourself if you’re curious!

Also, I have heard that you can try to break the paralysis by wiggling your tongue. Personally, I’ve never managed to move ANYTHING at all in this state, but if you can, I suppose you can give it a shot!

If you’re suffering from a mental illness and/or a disorder that causes you sleep paralysis from time to time, I am not qualified to give you any advice on how to decrease the chance of this happening, and I don’t know how well following other steps like not lying on your back etc will help you with this. 

I wish you all the Best!

What I've learned so far from sugaring

I’ve been sugaring for a couple months and here’s what I’ve learned

*use a fake number and email address

*write everything down, make a list of POTs with a description to keep them apart. When your talking to 5-10 different men at a time it’s very difficult to tell them apart after awhile, write down their job, little facts they tell you, where they live ect. It’ll make your life so much easier

*be clear about your goals, i truly believe the most successful babies are the ones who’s goal are more than just getting material items. Like wanting to have $xxx In your savings account, pay off debt, start business ect.

*when buying clothes/ accessories to update your wardrobe, buy things that are timeless and with stand trends. You’ll get more longevity out of them. Trends come and go but that little black blazer is timeless. Obviously buy things that are trendy but don’t blow all your sugar money on something that won’t be in style within 6 months.

*95% of people that contact you from a different state than your in are scammers. If anyone messages you and says they will need you to run errands when their away is a scammer.

*never ever ever ever ever wire money to someone, it’s a scam. A true Sd would never send money then ask for some of it back. They’ll say they need your help sending money to someone blah blah blah, a successful business man wouldn’t ask their SB to handle business for them, they have people for that.

*never give your bank account information unless you absolutely trust them, even then be careful! Scammers don’t always send fake checks via mail, they can also transfer fake checks into your account. When the bank finds out they will penalize you and can shut your account down and you won’t be able to open a account with any national bank for 2 years.

*Google your POT, reverse search their number. Type their name into Facebook or Google. If their a prominent person they will have a Google presence. It’ll help weed out fakes and scammers. I had a fake tell me he ran a charity for George w bush that had something to do with orphanages. A quick Google search of charities george Bush was affiliated with showed me he had nothing to do with orphanages

*do your research before starting. I was on Tumblr and advice blogs for a week before starting and learned as much as possible which helped immensely.

*take some of the Tumblr blogs with a grain of salt, there are alot of fake tumblrs, and also alot of amazing ones with wonderful advice. Don’t believe the hype some blogs show that you’ll make 5k a month allowance right away. It’s not impossible but not everyone gets that.

*bouncing off the last tip, don’t feel bad about taking a lower amount from a POT or Sd. If the amount your getting helps you then work it. I have guys who give me more and I have some that give me less than what i truly want, but it helps when rents due and I’m not ashamed of it because at the end of the day whether your getting $100-1000 It’s more money than you walked in with. And i set boundaries with ones who give me a lower amount, i wont spend all day with them unless their willing to give more. Normally i stick to getting food and keeping it to 1-2 hours. But don’t sell yourself short. If someone low balls you to where you feel like it’s not worth it, don’t go for it.

*take care of yourself, give yourself a day once a week to relax, take a bath give yourself a face mask or deep conditioning treatment. Give yourself time to recharge and self love

*understand it’s not easy. It’s like a job, especially before you find your Sd. Talking to so many people, having to respond to messages in a timely manner, making profiles, having to be your best you and going on POT dates can be exhausting.

*take breaks when you become overwhelmed. I’m taking a little break to recharge, don’t wear yourself thin. You need to take care of yourself!

*have a backup vanilla job so you are still making money. You’ll have times where your slow in your sugar life and won’t be making As much money, so always have a back up plan

*save save save.

I hope this helps someone, happy sugaring!! 😘😘

flatwoulds  asked:

Hi! I have to write an essay on Animal Exploitation in circuses/seaworld and such for one of my classes, and most of the sources I try to find are from PETA or affiliates of PETA. Do you know of any good articles or sites where i can get some accurate information from? thank you!

Hmmm. So, I looked through your blog to try to get a sense of where you’re coming from, and it seems like you’re in high school - which means that I’m going to base this response on the assumption that your teacher gave you a purposefully anti-captivity assignment (which is something I’ve seen more and more teachers going, and which is super frustrating because it only allows students to look at one side of a major controversy and then expects you to prove one side true). If you’ve got the flexibility to change your thesis a little bit (for example, to investigating if a company is exploitative instead of arguing that they are) I would highly suggest doing that, because you’ll find way more information and have a much more interesting paper at the end of it. I

I don’t know how much your school has taught you yet to think critically about sources, but it’s worth noting that the sources you can find on a topic will tell you something about the political / real world context of that topic. You said you’ve been looking up sources for animal exploitation in various contexts, and all you’re coming up with is results from extremist groups who are known for lying and manipulating information. If there’s nothing that shows up on a couple of other cursory google searches, that tells you something - in this case, it hints that no definitive answer on the topic exists, and more importantly, that either there isn’t enough research for people to publish or nobody not an extremist group supports the stance you’re looking at strongly enough to publish about it. This is something you can talk to your teacher about - any good teacher will listen to ‘hey I can’t actually find reliable sources for this, what do you want me to do’ if you can back it up with sources about how PETA and animal rights extremist groups and how they manipulation (there are lots of these, you can start with the website petakillsanimals as a jumping off point, but I would use what they talk about to find news articles or other pieces on the same topics because they’re also a radical, biased source). 

There’s also not going to be a lot of publications on the other side of the issue - things defending no, these places aren’t exploitative. That’s partially because it’s a super nuanced issue, and it’s also because the non-research parts of the animal world are just not academic in nature. People are generally working with animals rather than writing about them, and the publications that do occur tend to be focused at other members of the field rather than communicating with the public (that’s the job of the PR departments, apparently, and it’s stupid and they’re doing a really bad job of educating people which is partly why this blog exists). So the question then becomes: how do you find more sources and viewpoints on the topic when the specific issue you’re looking to learn about isn’t one that gets published on directly?

Here’s where I suggest you start. If you’re going to talk about something being exploitative, you have to define what exploitation is and why something is exploitative. Generally with animals, the arguments people use to back up claims of abuse or exploitation are low welfare, being under human control / used for human wants, not being in nature (with the assumption nature is nicer and better for animals), that sort of thing. I’d start looking into Seaworld or Ringling or whomever you’re focusing on with an eye to those issues - do the animals have good welfare? Has it been studied? If not, are the similar studies with that species or another species in the same environment? I’d look into some animal ethics, stuff about human use, and definitely look into the differences between the lives of animals in the wild vs in captivity in terms of average lifespan, injury, reproduction, that sort of thing. You can absolutely search the archive of this blog (use the search bar on the blog page, not the tags, because then you can search the text of posts) to get an idea of where to start. 

Now, you’re in high school, so I can’t imagine your teacher is expecting you to be reading academic publications - they’re dense and hard to get ahold of. So, where do you find this information? Sadly, I don’t think this blog will count as a primary source for most teachers. So, you have a couple options. You can get on google scholar and start plugging in keywords until you find authors who seem like they’re writing on what you’re looking for, and then search their name to find out if they’ve written books - those will generally be written for the public and be much easier to read. You can also get a list of what information you’re looking for and some keywords and talk to your librarian for help. 

When you’re using these sources, just remember - look up the author. Look up their political associations and memberships and see if they have a bias on the topic. Bias doesn’t mean that you can’t or shouldn’t use them as a resource, but it’s something to take into consideration when developing conclusions or when trying to figure out why statements between sources are contradictory. 

Good luck!

Y'all need to do more research and make yourself disappear. You can’t run a blog about sugaring or even reblog/like stuff about sugaring and escorting with your information and face plastered all over the damn blog. The same way is sex workers screen men via pics/ phone number/ email. They do the same y'all. You might slip up and send him a pic you have posted on here. He does a quick google image search and now your whole shit is exposed. I know there are posts like this already but I’m saying it again because people don’t seem to understand! There’s a difference between showing yourself/your hustle off and completely exposing your life and identity to the world.

Road to Success: Before Opening for Commissions

Artist’s Notes

**First off! I made this specifically for DeviantArt, and then realized that it really applies to every artist who is looking to get into the market of freelance work. I apologize that this journal references that site specifically quite a bit, but the information is still solid.

Commissions. Commissions. Commissions!
It’s all anyone on here seems to talk about. It’s like a measure of popularity.
But there’s a lot of danger in opening for commissions before you’re prepared, and that’s what this particular journal is about. Let’s avoid the common commission pitfalls (a journal for another day  ) and get a healthy, fully prepared start!

Build Your Fanbase

I’ve seen some people join deviantArt (or other sites) and instantly expect to get commissions. We’re talking the same day that they sign up.
Sorry, that’s just not how it works. Actually, you’ll be lucky to get commissions on deviantArt at all. DeviantArt is a community of artists. Sure, there are some buyers on here as well, but very rarely will you find regular work on this site. I like deviantArt because it’s a social network with other artists. It’s a place where I can come to make friends and learn. Sure, I can advertise myself on here, but most of my work comes from my Twitter, Tumblr, and own legwork.
I’d recommend establishing yourself with the same username in as many places as you comfortably can. When you’re narrowing down the prospects, I’d say to avoid small, start-up art communities (you know the ones I’m talking about, those “exclusive”, “by invite only” art sites. Who is going to buy your work there?). Make yourself known on established websites where there is already a user base to be a part of. Twitter, Tumblr, Art Station, Behance, deviantArt, LinkedIn, ConceptCookie and even FurAffinity (if you’re into that kind of thing) are all fantastic options.

Understand Pricing and it’s Consequences 

First off, don’t sell for points. Points is quite literally the equivalent of pocket change. 80 points is $1.
That means that if you’re selling a full color image for 500 points (which I see all the time) you’re selling it for $6.25.
$6.25 for a full picture. A full picture that I can promise you’ve spent more than a half an hour on.
I’ll write a full journal on how pricing works, but generally, you should not be selling your work for less than minimum wage per hour.
I’ll go through a lot of other pricing options in the other journal, but keep in mind that you are working on artwork. This is your time and you should be paid for it. Yes, you might absolutely LOVE doing artwork (so do I!) but you should still be paid for creating images for other people.
If you choose not to be paid now, or to be paid in pocket change now, or to be paid for $5/hr now, you’ll likely regret it later. Your “target market” for lower pricing will not be the same as your target market for average pay. People who pay in dA points likely won’t be returning for more work later, and if they do, it’ll be for the same price. People who are willing to pay what your work is worth are more likely to be repeat customers, are likely to talk more about your work if you do a good job, and are, of course, willing to give you the amount that you deserve so that you’re doing less work for the appropriate amount of money. If you spend most of your time targeting the lower-range market you won’t be able to raise your prices later. (For the record, I’m not talking about general watchers and followers, some people just can’t afford to buy art or don’t need it, but they’re no less valuable in terms of having an awesome fan base. We’re strictly talking about clientele here).

Create a Strong Terms of Service Agreement

Do your research!
Don’t just look at other ToS Agreements on deviantArt, many of them are not strong. If you can’t afford to hire an attorney, do some serious Google searching. There are a ton of really good samples of what your ToS should include.
Again, I’m planning a full journal for this as well, but a few points I could make right now are to include;
A) That you own all rights to your work. Make sure that this is a part of your Terms of Service. Yes, it goes without saying that you own what you make, but many times customers have the misinformed idea that because they’ve paid you they automatically own the artwork and can sell it, make prints of it, etc.
B) A clause about what happens if you become ill. I know it’s likely not something you’re thinking about now, but what if you take a commission and suddenly become ill or are involved in an accident of some kind? You’ll want to detail out what happens. Does the customer get a full refund? Do you require an extension on the work deadline? Do you retain their deposit or the payment for the work that’s been completed, but refund the rest? Think about this now, not later.
C) Bounced checks and returned payments. What if the client pays you in a check and it bounces? What happens if they do a charge-back with PayPal? Is there a fee that you’ll need covered? Most companies have a Returned Payment Fee because they don’t want to get stuck with the fee from the bank or processing center. It’s a smart fee to have included in your contract. From a consumer point of view, I know we all hate that fee, but from a business perspective, it’s a smart idea to have.
D) Do you have a Rush Fee? If a client contacts you and says “I need this done in three days time!” and your average turn around is a month, will there be an additional charge? Keep in mind that this means you’ll be putting all your other clients on the back burner, working longer hours than usual and possibly even weekends or holidays - maybe both. Most artists do have an additional charge for this. Think of it as over time.

**Have a Terms of Service before you open for commissions. Not after. Don’t wait for something to happen where you wish you’d had one.** 

Have Samples of Your Work

Weirdly enough, I felt the need to add this in here. I’ve seen a few people open for commissions that they don’t even have examples for. I’ve been contacted by people who have seriously told me “I don’t have any samples of animation, but I’m a really good animator. I work for $50/30 seconds. When do I start?”.
What?
No!
Don’t be that person. If you’re offering character design commissions, have some samples. If you’re offering storyboard commissions, have some samples. Illustration? Have some samples. Badges? Make some samples. Animation? You guessed it. Samples.
By doing this you’re not only showing your potential customers that you can provide the work you’re claiming you can and giving an example of quality, you’re doing yourself a favor by knowing an approximate of how long it’s going to take you to finish the work so you’re not overcharging your customer or short changing yourself.

In Closing

Remember! These steps aren’t just to help you get more commissions, they’re there for your protection. You don’t want to be involved in an all-too-common horror story scenario where a client can take advantage of you, and you don’t want to give your client a horror story about yourself (that they’ll undoubtedly share with every one of their friends and followers).

Protect your client, protect yourself, and protect your business.

anonymous asked:

Do you have any hcs about how exactly Vilde realizes that she is a lesbian? Or do you hc her as bi?

yes!!! i 100% believe vilde is the biggest Lesbian to ever lesbian nd i’m always down for talking about it:

- so i love my baby vilde but she can definitely be a bit clueless sometimes and i think it takes her a long time to sort out all her confusing feelings towards girls
- she barely had any exposure to lgbt people growing up and she doesn’t really know what it means to be gay until she starts meeting /actual/ lgbt people
- and shes never thought too much about her lack of attraction to guys, just brushed it off as not being mature enough or ready for a relationship, thinking ‘surely i’ll start to develop those feelings soon enough’
- but they never?? come?? and all her friends start to hook up with guys so she does too but the feelings just don’t arise, she feels nothing but vague discomfort when she kisses guys and she hates being touched by them, it makes her feel icky. and shes so angry with herself for not being able to feel what her friends feel when they hook up, she thinks shes not trying hard enough
- and then eva kisses her for the first time at that party and she finally /feels/ something and its a m a z i n g. it just feels so right and she never wants it to stop and she finally understands what you’re meant to feel when you hook up and why people do it in the first place
- she brushes these feelings off and tries not to think about it. they were both really drunk (even though she’d only had one glass of wine…) and it didn’t mean anything?? right??
- but she can’t get that kiss out of her head. she’s constantly thinking about eva, the feel of her lips, how good it felt to have her arms wrapped around her waist, how sweet she smelled
- and it happens again. and again. and again. and it’s always at parties, and vilde tells herself it’s just the alcohol talking, but she starts to catch herself staring at eva at school and when they hang out together, and just wanting to kiss her again (even though she’s sober??)
- so she hooks up with a couple of guys but it just doesn’t feel the same, and she tries to have sex with magnus at the christmas party but it just doesn’t feel right and she can’t go through with it
- she thinks maybe its just eva she has these feelings for… but she catches herself staring at other girls, girls she’s never even met before, just bc she’s mesmerised by their long legs or the way their hair ripples down their back and she just thinks: ??? what does this all mean ??
- she starts to do some research on being lesbian (even though it takes her 20 mins to actually type that word into the google search bar, and she has to do it in incognito because she can barely admit her own suspicions to herself)
- she starts to identify a couple more of her feelings through researching, and she learns about ‘compulsory heterosexuality’ which actually kind of… applies to her perfectly?? for some reason
- and ad she learns more and more, she realises how natural and normal feelings towards other girls can be, and she starts to think that ‘lesbian’ is not some big scary label, but an identity that she kind of connects with
- basically its a long, slow process but over time she sorts out her feelings and admits to herself that she just really fuckin likes girls, and thats ok

WWC Inbox Re-opens (Spring 2017)

Greetings all,

After a long and needed break, Writing With Color will re-open the floodgates to your new questions on Monday, April 10th 2017. (Until then, remember we’re not accepting any writing Q’s right now, this includes through fan mail!) As usual, thanks for your patience as we worked through our hefty backlog and took some time for ourselves and our families.

As usual we remind those with questions to read the Asking Guidelines/FAQ first. This page has been edited since we last opened so even if you’ve read it before, check ‘er out again.

A common rule-breaker: receiving questions we’ve already answered. It’s why we urge everyone to take a deep dive into our tags before asking Q’s. 

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In more efforts to sort our resources for you, we’ve recently published some ask compilations (with more to come):

WWC Compilations 2017

Thank you, everyone; we’re excited to answer your fresh, new questions!

–WWC

ok but the number one tool of research is knowing how to re-word what you’re looking for. 

maybe there’s no herb for a google search worded “witchcraft herb to not suck at stuff” but there is one for “witchcraft herb for improvement”. 

it’s kind of a dumb example but one of those searches yielded nothing and the other i found it in the first couple links and gave me like 6 different herbs to choose from so just play around with words a bit before giving up

Supercorp au where kara goes to help barry and oliver but in her down time she borrows felicitys computer to research some of the differences between her earth and their earth. She misses lena so she decides to do a search for her doppelganger but theres no record of a lena luthor ever existing. Kara realizes that the luthors never adopted lena on this earth so she has no idea what her name might be. After googling various combinations of ‘lena’ 'genius’ and 'amazing jawline’ with little success kara gives up.

A few days later when all the fighting has concluded kara is hanging out with team flash at barrys place and preparing to go home. The tv is on in the background and something catches her eye. A beautiful pale woman dressed in medieval clothing. She asks cisco about her and he starts telling her about the character, kara interrupts him and asks who the actress is. He says her name is katie mcgrath.

One day I had the department phone and I get a call from a woman looking for a “plain navy hooded jacket with no logos or anything,” that exact description. I looked around the department, but the only hoodie I found had a gigantic logo right on the front, and I informed the customer, who hung up without saying thank you or goodbye.

About 5 minutes later, caller ID says the same number is calling. I answer and the same woman from before asks for a plain navy hooded jacket. I guess she was expecting someone else to answer the phone? Anyway, we didn’t get any navy hoodies in in the last five minutes, so I tell her no, we don’t have any plain navy hoodies.

Maybe another ten minutes go by, and I get a page for apparel with a call on line 2. It’s the same fucking phone number. This time a man says, “My girlfriend called earlier, and I don’t think she explained correctly. She needs a plain navy hoodie with no logo.” So now I’m pissed off because this guy seriously called to mansplain a hoodie to me, and not only is there literally nothing confusing about what she’s looking for, he said the same thing. So I say, “I know what she’s talking about. She wants a Hanes or Fruit of the Loom navy hoodie.”

“Yes! Exactly.”

“Okay. We don’t have any.”

“Well, I was there last year, and y'all carried them.”

“They’re a seasonal item, we only have them from September-ish to January, which is why I’ve said 3 times now that we don’t have any.”

“Well, where else could I find a plain navy hoodie?”

The thing is, I’m an introvert and a millennial. The Internet is the best thing to ever happen to me. If I were in their shoes, I would’ve already gone online and bought a navy hoodie from Amazon or something and never spoken to another human being about it. So even though I’m a little pissed at them for being annoying, I’m not being at all sarcastic when I tell them to Google it.

“She needs it by [whatever day of the week.]”

“Most stores have an overnight or two day shipping option.”

He hung up and called right back to tattle on me to a manager for “not having compassion for the customer.”

But seriously, even if you don’t buy it online, Google will show you a list of websites that have the item, and then you can check out the store website, which will sometimes let you put in your zip code to see if a store in your area has it in stock, and there are pictures, and then you can call the physical stores in your area, and Google takes less than 2 seconds to search for stuff, and it feels like it’d take less time to do prior research instead of cold calling. At the very least, you could save time by not calling the same place three times.

 my fic for @jugheadweek about how jughead would discover/accept that he’s aroace


Jughead was 8 years old when he got his first clue that he wasn’t like other kids.

He and his best friend Archie were swinging on the swings on the school playground and Archie was telling him all about his crush on Archie’s other best friend Betty.

“- And you know, me and Betty have been friends forever, but now I think that I really, y’know, like like her!” Archie was looking over at where Betty herself and a group of girls were playing hopscotch as he talked, an expression of innocent excitement and infatuation lighting up his face.

Jughead followed Archie’s gaze and watched as Betty noticed Archie’s stare and waved at him with a shy smile. Archie waved back enthusiastically before turning to look at Jughead.

“What about you, Juggie? Do you like anyone?”

The question startled him a bit. Did Jughead have a crush on anyone?

He thought about it, and realized that he had no idea what a crush was supposed to feel like. How was it any different from friendly feelings? What made what Archie was feeling for Betty different than what he feels for Jughead?

Jughead gazed up at the sky while he contemplated these questions, kicking his tiny legs in the sand.

Finally, as Archie seemed to be getting impatient enough to say something, Jughead told the truth. “I… don’t know. How do you know you have a crush on Betty?”

Archie looked as taken aback by the question as Jughead had been by Archie’s before recovering and screwing up his face into a thoughtful expression. “Well… I just know. I mean, I think she’s really pretty and I wanna hold her hand and talk to her and date her, and I’m always afraid of looking stupid in front of her because I want her to have a crush on me too, y’know?”

Jughead didn’t know. As Jughead listened to Archie’s explanation, he realized that he’s never felt anything like what Archie was describing.

The thought of holding any girl’s hand or going on dates with one like Jughead’s seen on TV was actually grossing him out just thinking about it. And the thought of a girl having a crush on him was… scary.

Jughead didn’t say any of this to Archie, as he didn’t really want to. Jughead understood that getting crushes on girls was something that was considered normal for boys his age and maybe Archie would think he was weird for not understanding it.

“Yeah, um, I get it. I don’t have a crush on anyone right now, though,” Jughead said, going for telling Archie a half-truth instead.

Archie gave him a bright smile. “Don’t worry about it, Jug! There’s tons of pretty girls in our class! You’re sure to get a crush on one if you talk to them, and then I’ll help you get a date with her, ok?”

Jughead nodded and smiled weakly at his friend. This was something that Jughead should want, that will eventually happen to him, that Archie expects will happen for him- so why did the thought of liking a girl that way seem so impossible?


Jughead was 14 years old when he started to seriously wonder about his sexuality.

Not long after that day on the playground 6 years ago, Jughead had stopped really worrying about crushes and dating. After all, he was just a kid, and wasn’t dating really supposed to be for adults anyway? Jughead had simply come to the conclusion that he would want to be with someone when he was older.

Yet here Jughead was, 14 years old and still wanting abso-fucking-lutely nothing to do with romance.

Or sex, for that matter, which seemed to be yet another thing Jughead just didn’t understand that everyone else seemed obsessed with. All the talk of girls and crushes and romance only got worse as Jughead grew older, and now he had to deal with a world that revolved around all that and sex, something that the thought of frankly made him want to puke.

It was especially difficult dealing with this reality when you’re friends with Archie Andrews, probably one of the most girl-crazy people Jughead has ever met. Go figure.

“Jughead, did you see that new girl in class today? I’d heard she was hot, but holy shit!” Archie said as they walked to their next class, falling into step beside Jughead.

Jughead sighed and pinned Archie with an unimpressed look. “Archie, you know I don’t care about that stuff. I’m not affected by my hormones like all of you other degenerates, seriously.”

Jughead had long since given up pretending to care about or relate to anything Archie said whenever Archie was like this. Which was a lot. It was way too much work to try to be someone else, to lie to everyone including himself about his own feelings. Especially when he’s talking to his best friend.

Usually, Archie would laugh or continue on as if Jughead hadn’t said anything at all, but this time, Archie just looked at him with a weird expression.

Jughead was about to say something when abruptly Archie grabbed his arm and pulled him into the boy’s bathroom, shutting the door behind them.

“Archie? What are you…” Jughead trailed off, watching in confusion as Archie checked that there was nobody else in the room before turning to face Jughead, looking uncharacteristically serious.

“Listen, Jughead…  I’ve been meaning to ask you something.”

Jughead waited silently, watching as Archie seemed to struggle with his words before heaving a deep sigh and looking at him with determined eyes.

“You know you can tell me anything, right? You’re my best friend, no matter what, and I just want you to know that… that that’ll never change.”

“Archie… what is this about?” Jughead was getting seriously concerned now. What was making Archie so serious all of a sudden?

“Jughead. Are you gay?”

Jughead stared blankly. What kind of question was that? That’s ridiculous, Jughead didn’t like guys, he liked-

Except Jughead couldn’t recall ever liking any girls. Not once has he thought of a girl the way Archie always seems to, has never really liked the idea of romance for himself. Could it be possible that it’s because he would rather be with a boy?

This idea made him more confused than he’s ever felt before. How had Jughead never considered that maybe he’s not interested in girls because he’s actually interested in boys?

“… Jughead? Hey, are you ok, man?” Archie’s voice penetrated Jughead’s thoughts and startled him back to reality, where Archie was frowning at him worriedly and putting a hand on his shoulder.

“You know you can tell me anything, dude. There’s nothing wrong with being gay and, y’know, I want you to know that it doesn’t matter to me if you are,” Archie said.

Jughead shook his head. “Archie, I… I don’t know. I mean, I’ve never thought about it before.”

“Hey, man, take your time. I’ll be here for you when you figure it out.”

Jughead’s heart swelled with affection for his friend and he managed a smile. “I know that, Arch. Now let’s just get to class. If I’m late again then it’ll land me in detention.”

Archie nodded and grinned at him before opening the door and leading the way out towards the biology classroom.

Only later on, after the school day was over and Jughead was at home and alone in his room, did he have time to think over what Archie had said and whether or not it could be accurate.

Jughead thought about it. He tried to imagine himself getting nervous around a boy because of a crush, wanting to hold a boy’s hand, dating one, kissing one, even tried to imagine himself being intimate with one, but-

Nothing. Jughead tried his hardest to feel anything at these thoughts and he just. Didn’t. The thoughts were even starting to make him feel uncomfortable and he wanted to stop, but no, that can’t be right, they weren’t supposed to make him feel uncomfortable. That was how forcing fantasies of girls made him feel, so what could it possibly mean when he felt the same way when his thoughts were about boys? When he felt equally resistant at the thought of being with either in a romantic or sexual way?

Again, it occurred to Jughead that he didn’t know how crushes were supposed to feel, what being in love was supposed to feel like. That feeling before, when Archie had showed genuine concern and love and support for Jughead and Jughead had felt a bit like his chest was going to burst from that feeling of knowing that Archie cares for him and is and always has been an amazing friend- was that romantic attraction? Did Jughead have a crush on Archie?

Jughead tried to imagine dating Archie and immediately gave up, snorting at the very thought. Yeah, no, Jughead loved Archie, but not in that way… right?

Jughead groaned in frustration and buried his face into a pillow. How was he to know if he doesn’t know what crushes feel like? Jughead didn’t think he had a crush on Archie, but how could he know for sure? He really hoped he didn’t. Imagine having a crush on your straight best friend. That would suck.

Jughead sighed and got up to fetch his laptop. It seemed he needed to do a little research.

After about a half hour of google searching, Jughead came to the conclusion that no, he did not have a crush on his best friend, which was simultaneously a huge relief and somehow a bit of a disappointment.

It’s not that Jughead wanted to have a crush on Archie, but the fact that he didn’t only sent him right back to square one.

It’s not like it was possible to just. Not be attracted to anyone. Jughead had never in his life met anyone or heard of anyone feeling the way he does. So… was there something wrong with him?

Instead of continuing on down that train of thought, Jughead decided to once again enlist the help of his good friend Google.

He brought up the search bar and typed, “is it possible to not feel sexual attraction?”.

He pressed enter and the very first link that popped up caught his eye, a website called asexuality.org. Jughead clicked on it and began reading.

So. Asexuality is a term for people who don’t feel sexual attraction, and asexual people can range from being either straight up repulsed by sex and the thought of it to choosing to have sex for the physical pleasure or to pleasure their partner or just to have kids or any number of reasons. The more Jughead read about it, the more Jughead realized that, yeah, this is definitely what he is.

The information available also told Jughead that there are asexuals who feel romantic attraction, who desire to be in relationships, and those who don’t, called “aromantic asexuals”.

Putting a name to what Jughead now knew he was, that he knew he had to be, and knowing that there were others out there just like him made Jughead feel more confident and sure of himself than he ever had before. Jughead researched for hours, reading almost everything the website had to offer and then branching out and reading stories from actual asexual people, actual aromantic asexual people, describing experiences that Jughead related to so much that it made him feel exceedingly giddy.

Sure, Jughead hadn’t really been shy about not wanting girls the way the other boys in his class do for a long time, but that didn’t mean that Jughead never wondered why he was different, wondered when he would start liking girls, as if it was something that was inevitable, that was definitely going to happen eventually.

But now, Jughead knew that it wasn’t going to happen, most likely never would, and he was ok with that. All he’s ever really wanted was to know for sure who he was and to be confident about it no matter who he turned out to be, and finally knowing that it’s an actual thing to not be attracted to anyone in any way and knowing that it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with him was… invigorating.

Jughead refuses to pretend to be someone he isn’t, and being the odd one out among his peers wasn’t going to change that. He isn’t going to hide who he is- he isn’t going to pretend he is anything other than an aromantic, sex-repulsed asexual person, because that’s who he is, and Jughead Jones doesn’t care about what other people think- all he wants is to continue being his laid-back, life loving self, and no matter how hard it gets he won’t let himself lose sight of that kind of life for himself.

After all, what life is worth living if you don’t love who you are and fuck what anyone else thinks? Not one worth living at all, Jughead thinks, and with that thought, heads out to talk Archie into buying him a burger at Pop’s.

anonymous asked:

Did you do a lot of research when you started all of this? If so, can you please tell me where? I've been wanting to do something with Fae, but the internet leads me to a bunch of weird places. Thank you!

I didn’t actually do much research specifically for this project; most of it was double-checking things I’d picked up somewhere along the way (like is silver really good for anything besides werewolves), plus a lot of extraneous google searches like ‘WHY hole rock magic see’ and ‘running water safe fairies because????’

So I haven’t got any specific sites for you, I’m afraid. But pretty much all of the lore from the original comic in particular is roughly modernized scraps of old celtic/irish mythology. So that’s probably your best place to start looking, rather than ‘fairies/fair folk/etc’ - try something like ‘irish mythology protection charms/names/wild hunt/the sight/etc.’, and with any luck it will take you to some better places.