Long-ass SB/ho tips outline and I don’t even care
I’m on a roll today haha. Been typing these out as I think of them
all week, so here is a list of things in order of what I perceive to be
least to most talked about:
1. Be able to leave at any time. You never know when you’re going to have to make a run for it or if you feel unsafe and need to bounce. This includes:
- Know your exits. Not all places have the exit the same as the entrance. Figure out where the exit is either before you walk in or as soon as you do.
- Keep all your things as close together as possible.
Pretty easy if you’re in a public place, but if you are at a hotel or
his house or something, try to either keep everything packed or all your
things in one place. This makes you look neat and organized too, or at
least you can claim that if he calls you on it.
- When you’re done brushing your teeth, pack away your toothbrush again. This goes for everything. When you use it, put it back.
- Keep your dirty clothes folded next to your suitcase, if not in it.
- Keep your purse on your person or with your things. I usually put it on the nightstand so it’s easy to remember, and my clothes/rest of my things usually end up next to the bed anyway. Take your bag to the bathroom, especially if there are things inside that reveal your identity if you don’t want him to see.
- If you take off your clothes, leave them right-side-out. If
you don’t do it as you take your clothes off, just fix them as soon as
they’re off. Leave all your clothes in one place. If you’re naked and
need to run, this speeds up the process and you don’t look a complete
mess when you get outside.
- For your shirt, grab the bottom hem and pull it over your head. Once the neck clears your head, take the hem of one sleeve and pull your arm out of it. Then use that arm to hold both sleeves as you remove your other arm. This leaves you holding both sleeves by the ends as the shirt hangs down and your shirt stays ready to be put on quickly.
- For your pants, step on the hem with one foot to slide the other leg out. Might be a little tough with skinny jeans or leggings, but try to pull from the bottoms and slide out instead of peeling them off your body.
- Have the number for a local taxi service saved in your phone. Or Uber, or a friend nearby, or whatever you feel like. Don’t rely on him to get you home.
- Pack a pair of flats if you can because running in heels is way too hard.
- If you do need to leave,
put on your underwear, then pants. Don’t need to wear the bra. Put on
your shirt, grab your things and leave. Run to the staircase–don’t
risk the elevator in case a bunch of people with luggage hold it up long
enough for him to find you there. Go barefoot down the stairs, then
put on your shoes after you’ve reached the bottom. At this point you
should be holding your purse and bra, maybe socks, jacket, heels if you
packed flats, and jewelry. As you walk to the door, put your jewelry
and bra in your purse if you can. Put socks in the heels, or hold them
if you’re wearing the heels. Get into the taxi. Put your bra on around
your stomach, then pull it up under your shirt so you’re wearing it
like a strapless bra (you can fix this later if you want). Put on your
socks if you have them. Double check that you grabbed everything. Get
2. Have a safe place to go to if needed.
This is anywhere very public and preferably somewhere you cannot be
followed. Know how to get there from wherever you are.
- If you have a membership at a gym, they usually check membership cards at the door.
- If you are military/dependent, go on base.
to your place of work and hide in the break room. If your coworkers
ask, say it was a Tinder date gone wrong and this creepy old guy is
- Worst case scenario, go to the bathroom in a public place. Enlist the help of other women in there/call the hostess of the restaurant or a nearby store and explain the situation.
3. Put your phone on airplane mode. Turn WiFi and location off. I’ve seen it mentioned before where people pop up as Facebook suggestions. If you spend a lot of time in the same area as someone, Facebook knows. Even with location off, it can tell your location via WiFi access point and which cell your phone is connected to. Turning off location and WiFi will help, but you need to disconnect your phone from service to block that avenue too. I would say turn your phone off entirely, but my phone takes 6 million years to power on, so that could be dangerous in an emergency. Turning off airplane mode can allow you to reconnect quickly to service. (This is also useful because then your phone won’t be buzzing and stuff. No distractions.)
4. Tell a friend where you’re going and what time you expect to be back. Keep them updated with changes. Even if they don’t respond, having it in writing somewhere can keep you safe if anything happens. Message me where you’re going if you don’t have anyone else idgaf.
5. Ask for everything upfront. Whatever you agreed on (cash, gifts, dinner, whatever), make sure you get it first. I feel like everyone on Tumblr already knows this, but maybe one person will read this who hadn’t read it elsewhere and it’ll help.
6. Keep these things in your bag.
As always, add stuff I didn’t think of if you have anything! Stay safe and may the sugar gods bless you all.