attention college freshmen/anyone feeding themselves for the first time
this is for you
it has come to my attention that some people are not feeding themselves properly bc they don’t know how to cook/aren’t sure how to cook on a budget. bc i am everyone’s mom (or at least everyone’s wise older sister) let me drop some very real Broke Rookie Cooking Knowledge. 2 of my favorite recipes are under the cut, both of which come out to $2 OR LESS PER SERVING.
-MAKE a MENU. pick out like 5 things you know how to make and buy JUST WHAT YOU NEED FOR THOSE THINGS. and also a few snacks, but otherwise, JUST THAT. don’t just buy some random-ass groceries you think you’ll need. (also, if you don’t know how to make 5 things, seriously just google simple dinner recipes. i used a “mississippi heirloom cookbook” my aunt gave me and got a ton of good ones.)
-tbh i don’t even buy snacks except for a giant box of cookies that lasts me like 2 weeks at a time and an assload of apples. snacking is bad for you, and if you don’t HAVE snacks, you can’t EAT snacks. fuck snacks.
-off-brand EVERYTHING. you think you can taste a difference? you CAN’T. get shit in cans. vegetables. pasta sauce. salsa. whatthefuckever. it all comes in cans, and it’s always cheaper. i have no idea why.
-whole grain bread and brown rice/pasta are not more expensive than the regular kind, and they keep you full longer. GET THEM.
-@ my americans, Dollar Tree has literally everything. every kitchen utensil. (it’s where i got my big-ass chef’s knife, and that bitch is still sharp.) dishes/cups. snacks. drinks. literal loaves of bread. all kinds of basics, from peanut butter to sriracha to progresso soup. some even have freezer sections. all for ONE DOLLAR. go to Dollar Tree first, then go to the grocery store for whatever you couldn’t find there. i s2g it saves me so much money. (they also have tupperware, cleaning supplies, toilet paper, EVERYTHING. for one dollar.)
-produce is way cheaper than you think. get some fresh vegetables. you really will start to feel like a bag of hot garbage if you don’t eat your veggies.
-COOK in ADVANCE. i work during the day and go to school in the evenings, then i come home and work out. lemme tell you, my ass does NOT wanna cook when im done with all that. cook shit in big quantities, stock up on tupperware (dollar treeeeee), and stick it in the fridge for later. when you’re exhausted and remember you have instant dinner already made, you will want to kiss yourself.
-find some sandwiches you love. make a lot of sandwiches. (pls for the love of God dont use kraft american singles tho. deli-sliced cheese is literally right next to it, and it is NOT more expensive.)`
-FUCK organic free-range shit. you got organic free-range money? GREAT. i sure as hell don’t, and neither do most people. don’t waste your money trying to live your foodstagram #goals while you’re young and poor.
-if you qualify for SNAP/EBT, GET THAT SHIT. there are some assholes out there that will tell you not to, to leave it for the ~real~ poor people. tell them, ‘motherfucker I AM REAL POOR.’ for real though, corporations take advantage of any assistance the government gives them and they still lobby for more. you’d be a fool not to do the same.
In the Heights:
started when he was 19 (1999) and it was in 2005 that it opened first in Waterford. 6 YEARS, Keep in mind that during these 6 years he was in college and teaching, little stuff on Television and doing stuff other than writing a musical it was more like a passionate hobby than a profession for a long time and it probably was not 100% dedication. 3 Tonys and a Grammy came from this 2 hour and 25 minute show.
21 Chump Street:
8 days. 8 days. (14 minute run time give or take.)
was inspired and began July 2008, January 2015 it hit Public Theatre as Off-Broadway and finalized and on Broadway August 2015. 7 years in the making and I'll get back to you when this 2 hours 45 minute show is done being nominated and awarded for stuff.
i rly srsly have a problem with this especially after school ))): like im always on tumblr or something so i never get anything done rip
so im gonna try to practice what i preach from now on!!! lets get into it!
preparing for productivity
when you get home from school or work, give yourself a 20-50 minute break. lets be honest we all have those days when we try to jump right into doing whatever the heck you need to do right when you get home but after like 20 minutes you’re distracted and a mess and not getting any work done. the easy way to prevent this is to give yourself time to do all of that before you start your work so you’re not distracted later (give urself an hour if its been an especially long day). eat a snack, wash ur face tbh, whip your hair, idk what you crazy kids do but do it. srsly. just get it out of the way.
get everything ya need in one place. this is kinda a no-brainer especially since it’s all over tumblr. but srsly why get up every 5 minutes to get a pencil or something? just have it all in the first place. ez.
turn off your phone or put it in airplane mode. personally i like to pretend like im so determined and focused but every time i see the little t at the top of my phone im just gone. don’t let it distract you. if you need the internet, use your laptop/computer for less distractions.
set the mood. idk what you do, whether thats playing the moana soundtrack hanging up fairy lights, putting on your diffuser or playing rap music; idk man! do it.
actually doing the thing
alright so now u got ur fairy lights, ur mildliners, ur face washed, and ur apple juice (??? apple juice is lit???). now throw yourself into it. literally just force yourself to do it. don’t know how??? welll!!! not sure how to help you! (no im kidding don’t leave yet pls)
use the touch it once rule. this is a favorite of the studyblr community. it means that everything on your to-do list, everything you know you need to accomplish– start it. just tell yourself “i’ll only do 3 math problems” or “i’ll only work on this resume for 5 minutes”. they say the hardest part is always starting. chances are, that unfinished worksheet is going to really bother you and you’ll end up finishing it. if not, then just come back to later and touch it again and again until you finish it. tedious, but it works.
use the “two minute rule”. i got this one from @emmastudies! this rule means that if anything on your list takes 2 minutes or less to do (checking your emails, checking your tumblr inbox or something), do it. just get it done.
keep it balanced. do like one easy task and then one hard task so you’re getting everything done but not overwhelming yourself either.
break down your tasks. don’t just look at a giant task like “write a 3-page paper”. break it down into smaller subtasks like “plan paper. draft paper. edit paper. type and print paper.” its much less scary to look at.
visualize procrastination as a monster. i do NOT take credit for this one; i saw it in a masterpost somewhere so this isnt mine!!! but basically i read that you should look at procrastination as a scary opponent ready to eat you alive (and honestly it is). tackle it. don’t let it attack. be so scared of it that you don’t let it get anywhere near you.
honestly just do it and keep at it. stop letting procrastination kick your ass so that you can be productive and stay productive. the work is it’s own reward (:
It’s one thing to start homework and studying, but to stay focused is another thing. Here are some things that work for me!
Before I start anything, I tidy up my room!
I know I won’t be able to stay focused if my room isn’t clean, so before I even sit down I make sure everything is in it’s place. I keep my room pretty neat, so this takes about 15 minutes. If I didn’t do this my OCD would kick in and I’d find myself getting up every 5 minutes to put something away.
Grab everything I need
Again, before starting anything I make sure I have everything in arm’s distance. I make sure I have pens, pencils, calculator, books, etc. I hate when I’m in my groove and then have to get up to find something.
Keep a drink near by
I usually have something to sip on, tea, juice, water, etc. When I feel myself starting to fidget, I just take a quick drink and I’m ready to go again. Plus, it’s so important to stay hydrated!!
Take a break!
When I feel myself really starting to fidget I take a break. I go talk to someone in my family, pet my dog, check instagram, go into my kitchen and eat a snack, doodle, anything really. If I do work for an hour straight, I usually take about a 10 minute break. After this, it’s right back to work!
Light a candle
I always have a candle lit or have my diffuser with my essential oils going. My favorite is lavender! When I smell a good smell it keeps my alert and focused.
I know many people aren’t too sure of this and like to study in silence, but me personally I like to have music playing in the background VERY low. I find that silence is more distracting. But if you like silence, then go for it! Whatever works for you.
Planning, planning, planning!
I always plan out my study schedule/assignments. This is a little bit less stressful. For example, I have physics assignments about every week with 10 questions, so each day I try to do about 1-3 problems (doesn’t seem like too much, but depending on the topic they can take me about 15 minutes each).
I always set a stopping point so I have an endpoint and I’m not just doing work aimlessly, like copying my biology notes. Instead of just going until I feel like stopping, I’ll set an endpoint, like the end of the powerpoint or a slide number, this way I know how much I have to do.
Planning everything out is also better in the long run. I set little due dates for myself (that aren’t real) to help me stay on top of my assignments. Oh, and it is so nice when it’s the day before the assignments due and you aren’t even worried because you had it completed two days ago.
It’s easier to do a little each day than to cram everything the day before. I know after 3 hours of studying/doing the assignment I’m not even paying attention, I’m just going through the motions of doing work.
Take a deep breath!! You’ve got this ♡
So these are somethings that I do! If you would like to try them out I would love to know how they work for you! Everyone is different, so stick to what works for you! Thanks for reading :) x
Okay so I see some posts about executive dysfunction that kinda misrepresent what it is, so I wanted to clarify.
Executive dysfunction is not: laziness, lack of motivation, lack of willpower, lack of self-control, bad attitude, an excuse to not do something
Executive dysfunction is: an actual deficiency in the function of the frontal lobe that can be seen and measured in an MRI scanner, associated with neurodivergencies such as autism and ADHD, and mental illnesses
When you can’t do something because of ED, it’s not because you aren’t motivated enough or lack self-control. It’s because your brain literally isn’t running the commands needed to make your body move and do the things you need to. You may be hella motivated and determined to do something and you still won’t be able to because you don’t know where to start or how to proceed to the next step or what to do at all. You may be very hungry, know that you have a frozen pizza in your fridge, yet not be able to do the “fairly simple” steps to cook that pizza because of ED.
Executive dysfunction cannot be helped with more motivation, rewards, hard work or whatever. The part of your brain that is supposed to break the task into steps and guide you through them isn’t working right now, and no amount of rewards or discipline will make it work. The only things you can do is accommodate for the lack of this function: either ask someone near you to guide you through the steps of your task, or have a list of steps prepared beforehand, while your frontal lobe was more merciful. Shouting, crying, blaming, punishing yourself, etc won’t do one bit to help it.
And for people who don’t know what it’s like to have ED and have people around them who do have it, here’s the thing: instructions have to be very precise. I know you never pay attention to this because you don’t have to, but here’s the deal - even the smallest steps have to be akwnoledged. For example you may think that an instruction to make tea looks like this:
1. Fill the kettle with water and boil it.
2. Put a tea bag in your cup.
3. Add sugar if you want
4. Pour hot water into your cup
5. Take the bag out after a minute or two
6. Enjoy your tea
But it has many, many intermediate steps that a typically functioning frontal lobe will figure out, but a person affected by executive dysfunction won’t be able to do. So instead that instruction will look more like this:
1. Open the kettle
2. Open a bottle of water/turn on tap water
3. Fill the kettle with water
4. Turn off the tap water/close the water bottle
5. Close the lid on the kettle
6. Push the button to turn it on
And so on. So that one step in the first instruction is actually six steps in the second instruction. And giving a person with executive dysfunction the first instruction probably won’t help them at all. And btw this is might be the reason that person in your life leaves the lights on or doors open or products out of the fridge all the time - their brain just doesn’t guide them through it.
So, things to remember:
1) Executive dysfunction is a real thing and it’s not the person’s fault
2) It cannot be helped with motivation, self-control, discipline, rewards or punishments
3) It can be helped with careful, thorough instructions prepared by yourself beforehand or by someone else without ED
4) It is very difficult and frustrating for the person experiencing it first and foremost
5) If you have ED, be kind to yourself. Learn ways around it. Rest from time to time. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. And be honest to yourself about whether you can or cannot do the thing yourself. Trust me, it will help you in the long run.
1. POWER OFF Turn off your electronics - or at least, ignore them! Yes, the oh mighty difficult task we all face in this modern era. If you have alarms set, then you’ll obviously need to leave your device on, but make sure you don’t use them for at least 30 minutes before bed!
2. DECLUTTER Take at least 5 minutes to declutter and organize your room before you go to bed. If we’re being realistic, it’s more than likely to bore you… But on the plus side, at least your room will be cleaner! If that doesn’t suit, rearrange things. This could be your notes, your room, clothes, whatever!
3. BUILD HABITS Try take some time to relax and unwind. Go take off your makeup, have a shower, make a warm beverage, read a book, write a to do list, journal about your day. Just do something that doesn’t involve screens, will help you distress and worry less about the day to come.
If you can, try exercise at least 30 minutes per day. This will help fatigue your body and make it easier to fall asleep. Of course, this may not suit everyone, it is just a suggestion.
Soothing aromas + sounds — definitely a key way to calm your inner self. You could also try slowing down your breathing which will decrease your heart rate, therefore making you more relaxed.
Make sure your rooms is dark and at a good temperature! You don’t want unexpected light coming in and waking you up - unless you want to get woken up by the sun. A good temp also allows you to sleep throughout the night without being woken up by the heat or cold.
Try not to think about things right before you go to sleep. Especially things you need to do tomorrow, mistakes you’ve made, assignments due etc. If you’re going to think about anything, think about happy thoughts, memories, upcoming events. You don’t need to go to bed with negativity.
RULES, RULES. This is important. You need to set rules for yourself,
and if you are truly ana, you will have no problem sticking to them
because you are STRONG! Rules are everything. Examples: Don’t eat
anything white. Do not, under any circumstances, eat after 6:00. Don’t
eat before 3:00. Cut each bite into x amount of pieces, chew x amount of
times. Do not eat anything that has over 3 grams of fat. Make your own
and keep adding to them.
Ana must be the center of your life.
a full glass of water before you eat and then sip a full glass between
bites, you’ll get full much faster. Remember it takes 20 minutes for the
brain to realize the stomach is full.
denser food because it feels like more. Light and fluffy foods compact
in your digestive tract and you will feel hungry soon after.
Take out only the amount of food you plan to eat and don’t allow seconds.
before you eat. Don’t eat while distracted (TV, etc). Stop and consider
if you really want to eat that then consciously give yourself
4 100-calorie meals is better than one 400-calorie meal.
eat anything bigger than about a cup, your stomach will expand and
you’ll get hungry more. If you need to, eat more frequently, not bigger
and other “healthy” bars and shakes have more carbs and calories than
in the meal they’re intended to replace. Stay away.
at least a glass of water every hour. It’s better for weight loss to
sip throughout the day than to chug a full glass (except before eating,
in which case it can make you eat less, or make you slightly nauseous so
you don’t want to eat at all). Try keeping a water bottle somewhere
you’ll see it a lot, like every 10-20 minutes, and take a drink from it
every time you see it/notice it.
up to a shot of apple cider vinegar before eating, it’s supposed to
minimize fat absorption. Also speeds metabolism and can help curb
cravings. Drinking more than a shot causes a vague nausea which helps
Ice or gum are good food substitutes. Celery works too if you’re really hungry.
small, dark colored plates. Dark blue or black makes you eat less, and
smaller plates and utensils cause you to take smaller portions from the
a list of “bad” foods. Periodically, cross one of the list and pledge
to never, ever eat it again. Eventually there will be none left.
in front of a mirror, naked or in underwear if possible. If you can’t,
carry a picture of yourself in a revealing outfit and look at it when
you want to eat. When you have cravings pinch your fat and look at your
problem areas, don’t add to them!
Eat a lot of fiber for digestive health and low calories.
a methodical routine for eating. Cut food into tiny pieces, count your
bites and the number of times you chew, set your utensils down between
bites, and sip water between bites. Add other rules or rituals of your
higher-calorie items earlier in the day so you have more time to burn
them off; if you eat late eat light or it will be more likely to be
stored as fat due to inactivity. Try not to eat too late, sleep burns
calories and is a good opportunity to burn fat with little effort. The
body must burn through all digesting food before taking energy from
stored food (fat).
you go out, take very little money or only enough to buy whatever
non-food item you plan on buying. This will make it harder to buy food
take bites, either from others’ food or while cooking, as the calories
add up surprisingly fast and you may not realize how much extra you’re
down everything you eat and its calories. This will make you think
before eating and also make you more aware of how much food and calories
you are actually consuming. You can also write down other things such
as how you’re feeling, who you’re with, place, time, and why you chose
to eat it, this will help you track patterns in your eating behavior.
Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you want to eat. Food = pain.
a time you cannot eat past. 6:00 or 7:00pm are good choices. This is
especially helpful if you are prone to night binging. Then make a rule
that you cannot eat before 6:00 or 7:00AM, this is like having a 12-hr
fast every day.
shouldn’t eat for at least 3 hours before going to bed. The extra hours
will help burn off the calories. If you eat soon before sleeping, you
absorb more calories due to inactivity and you put on weight.
Have a peppermint or peppermint tea. Peppermint decreases hunger.
Brush your teeth when you want to eat. The clean feeling and mint aftertaste will put you off food.
Press on your stomach when it grumbles. TUMS also stop stomach growling and have calcium.(5 calories a piece so be careful!)
a list of all the reasons you want to be thin and avoid food. Look at
it when you want to eat to remind yourself why you won’t. Or, write a
new list every time you want to eat. It’ll distract you, postpone
eating, and thinking of the reasons will inspire you.
a ribbon the size you want your waist to be. wrap and tie it around
your wrist like a bracelet. Every time you look at it you’ll be reminded
of your goals. When you’re tempted, take it off and wrap it around your
waist. See how close you are, or how far you have to go, and resist the
leave at least one bite of food on your plate. This will help you to be
able to stop eating and prevent binges. It will also stop you from
compulsively finishing portions even when you have eaten enough.
Save $1 for every meal you don’t eat, then use the money to buy yourself a non-food present.
Friends will only get in the way. Avoid them until you reach your goals.
eat in secret. This is a terrible habit that leads to compulsive
binging. If you wouldn’t eat it in front of all your friends you
shouldn’t be eating it at all! Also if you only eat around other people
they will know that you do eat and assume you eat alone as well, thus
lessening suspicion that you have an ED.
eat out of a box or jar. Always eat from a plate or bowl. This will
help you in several ways: You will see how much you are really eating;
you can determine in advance how much you will eat and not go back for
seconds; using a small plate or bowl will make you eat even less; you
can count/measure out an exact serving and know the accurate amount of
calories you are consuming.
Give clothes to Goodwill as they get too big for you. Don’t keep them around “just in case.”
If you live alone, put thinspo and/or reverse thinspo pictures on the pantry and refrigerator. A mirror works well too.
you have hunger pangs, picture your stomach eating away your fat, and
that what you feel is the feeling of thinness and your fat burning
Coffee is an appetite suppressant. Drink it black or with Splenda or other no-calorie sweetener.
your bites, and the number of times you chew them. Plan in advance how
many bites you can have. Then make them smaller or use smaller
Paint your nails so you can’t eat until the polish dries. Teeth whitening strips are good too.
water before eating. If you’re still hungry, drink green tea or broth.
If you still need to eat, you’ll eat less than you would have.
low-calorie foods with strong flavors. Sometimes you’re craving taste,
not food. For bouillon, use less water than is recommended. Peppermints,
pickles, peppers, and mustard are good choices.
Do not eat anything unless you know the exact amount of calories in it.
Chew gum while cooking. That way you can’t take bites while it is cooking, and you won’t want to eat it once it’s done.
Keep food out of sight, not sitting out, and stay away from food and the kitchen to keep your mind off it.
Keep a pocket thinspo in your wallet with your cash so you won’t spend money on food.
For sweet cravings, lick a chopstick and dip it into a diet Swiss Miss pack.
your current weight on one hand, and your goal weight on the other.
When you go to eat, you’ll be reminded how fat you are, and how skinny
you could be.
The Four D’s: Distance yourself from food. Distract yourself. Delay eating Decide what your goals really are.
tea raises metabolism and is very good for the skin and overall health.
Drink it in the morning to increase metabolism for the day. Add lemon
to make it more effective and to add a detoxifying aspect.
Hot water with lemon is another good morning drink.
foods raise metabolism, if you don’t like them you can take cayenne
pepper capsules available in supplement section of drugstores or health
apple cider vinegar is said to raise metabolism, have a few
tablespoons, can also be mixed in water (with lemon would be best) or
used as salad dressing.
the morning with stretching to wake up your muscles, the morning is
also the best time to exercise because your body will use stored food
(fat) as fuel instead of food you ate. It also processes food better
throughout the day and gives you more energy if you exercise in the
at least 6 hours of sleep each night, less than this can decrease
metabolism by 10% and increase appetite by 15%. You look better and feel
better when you have more sleep also if you’re sleeping then you’re not
Keep good posture, it burns 10% more calories throughout the day. You also look better.
Vitamin B6 and B12 raise metabolism and give you energy.
Eating protein increases your metabolic rate by 14%.
Hello, it’s #optomstudies here again with another Sunday Study Tip on catching up when you’ve fallen behind!
A masterful skill that not even the best studyblrs may have tackled. A lot of advice in the studyblr community regarding this seems a little airy-fairy (I almost question if they remember what they themselves went through), so hopefully my post will shine a different light on it (or so I hope anyway!)
1. Work out what’s essential and what isn’t. You’ve basically wasted time right to get to this point right? With limited time left, use an Eisenhower matrix of Important vs. Urgent to determine what you need to do left.
Important and Urgent - any and all due assessment tasks
Important but Not Urgent - studying lectures for exams, compulsory readings
Not Important but Urgent - additional homework tasks that need to be handed in but aren’t worth much, like logbooks
Not Important and Not Urgent - additional readings (although it’d be great if you did this, sorry, you’re out of time)
Then cross out everything that you can afford to not do. Ironically, I find that when I use the Eisenhower matrix when I am not strapped for time, studying (in the Important but Not Urgent category) usually gets the short end of the stick. But when I’m already falling behind, all the additional readings and homework tasks get thrown out the window and I just work on studying instead.
2. Do everything that will take you less than 10 minutes to complete. Get all those pesky emails out of the way, all the small team meeting notes, everything else you need to do for someone else. That will cross out a whole chunk of things from your list. You’ll be left with the meaty stuff like studying, completing assignments, etc.
3. It’s a little damn late for you to regularly revise, so just binge everything. Honestly, this is the best way to get everything done. Don’t switch tasks or subjects. You don’t want to spend about 20 minutes just getting into the flow before switching subjects once the hour’s up. Plus, since you’re already panicking, turn that fear and panic into motivation for you to really focus for long chunks of time - just think about what you do the day before a final exam - because the threat of the exam is imminent, you basically study the whole day right? Trust me, if you’ve really screwed up your study schedule, you won’t have to worry about common procrastination (assuming you don’t want to fail).
University is just one assignment done, moving onto the next before you even have time to breathe. It’s usually quite different to high school in that everything is quite closely packed together since it’s a 13 week semester. In high school I thought that 3 assessments in a week was the end of the world (lol pls kid).
So just do whatever needs to be done first, and then if you finish before the day the assignment/exam is done, then great, you can study for the next assessment task.
Still, I do recommend chucking your phone out the window just in case, since people usually all study last minute, meaning they’ll be asking you “hey do you know wtf Prof was talking about in lec 5?″
4. Break up your courses into hour-long chunks. Although we’re bingeing, it’s important that you make a list, even if it just says “Lecture 1, Lecture 2, Lecture 3″ so that you have a direction to go. Don’t allocate too much time for any one lecture, but at the same time, be realistic about how much you can cover in an hour. For example, if you’ve got 6 hours until an exam, you’re either going to study Lectures 1-3 really well, Lectures 1-6 so-so, and Lectures 1-10 superficially.
So choose wisely based on what you know or don’t know. If there’s a topic you know quite poorly, consider if it’s worth the time to study and learn the concept, or just bank on the subject not showing up in your exam. I’m actually pretty poor at gambling what will be in the exam, so I always choose to just study everything at a basic level.
A common pitfall I find in this area is skipping the basic stuff. You think you know it, but when you close your book and try writing it out on a blank piece of paper, you suddenly falter. This has happened to me repeatedly in an exam. I know all the really complex stuff like the back of my hand before I get into the examination room, and then I suddenly get a really simple question and I’m like wait, what was the answer again? I advise making lecture outlines that you just rote learn - this comes in useful for long response questions because you’ll often remember the small details, but will forget the next section, meaning you miss out on a massive chunk of information if you forget.
5. Rinse and repeat. Usually after about 2 weeks(?) of catching up like this I finally see the light of day and I can return to my normal schedule. If need be, I usually cut back on sleep to about 6 hours vs. 7.5 hours, but never pull an all nighter. You cannot do this unless you have breathing room the next day (which you won’t because you screwed up in the first place). Unless it is the very last assessment task, there’s a massive risk of ruining your next exam.
6. Try and never do that last minute ditch again.
Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. - George Santayana.
Never again right? Remember that starting early and finishing early is the key to good grades. We’re all just young uni students at the end of the day though, so do remember to forgive yourself if you end up repeating the procrastination. I’ll be cheering you all on!
MY WEEKLY STUDY TIPS
WHAT I WISH I’D KNOWN BEFORE UNIVERSITY STUDY TIPS SERIES
1. Take it a day at a time. You don’t have to know what you’re doing the next day or even the next hour. I’ve learned that the more you think in the future, the shorter the day seems and the months fly past you and you’re left feeling discontent and unsatisfied. It’s almost like everything has been in a blur, and you find yourself saying, “the year went by so fast”, even though you haven’t accomplished much. So do everything in the moment of ‘now’, and cherish each minute like it’s the last minute you have.
2. Let it go. You know nothing is going to change, because you can’t change people unless they truly want to and you can’t change the past either, and the sooner you realize this, you will spend more time being happy than in a constant battle with your mind and your heart. They need to rest too.
3. Take risks. If you never take any, the moment that turned out for the worst could have turned out for the best. This works vice-versa as well, but either way, you will learn from these experiences. You won’t forget how rapidly your heart was beating in these moments and how electric you felt. It will be worth it in the end, trust me.
4. Call up that person that you didn’t spend enough time getting to know, simply because you were too distracted with somebody else or just didn’t feel like you’d become something more than acquaintances. Greet strangers and embrace the idea of diversity. Ask questions about different cultures, morals, ideas, beliefs; educate yourself as much as you can.
5. Go ahead and wear that outfit you keep telling yourself that it doesn’t look good on you. You bought it because you liked it, yes? So, show it to the whole damn world. If you do it with a smile and confidently squared shoulders—even better. You are beautiful.
6. Instead of procrastinating and wallowing in self-pity, get up and do something. Sitting around is not going to do much but make you feel horrible, and you’ll create scenarios that may not even exist or be as big in your head that will cause matters to become worse. You want this to be your year of explosive progress? Set goals and strive to achieve them. You want to look back at the end of the year and say, “I did good”.
7. Spend more time with your family or friends. Build a support system so strong, that you will never feel lonely. In fact, this support system will lead you to feeling content even when you are alone, because you won’t feel the constant need to either be with someone or have somebody who loves you, because you know you’ll have people who love you and the more love you surround yourself with, the easier it becomes to love yourself too.
8. Be kind always and be angry when you need to be. Stand up for the ideas that you believe in and don’t back down from them just because you have a different opinion. Learn to love the sound of your voice when it bounces off the walls of a classroom full of people, because your voice has the power to change a million minds. Remember, you are allowed to feel whatever it is you feel.
9. Go on more road trips or just take a few minutes to be outside by yourself. Inhale and exhale the air around you. Watch the stars, the sunset, the sunrise, the birds flying in the sky, the cars passing by. Walk in the rain sometimes without an umbrella, instead of running. Let the sunlight soak your skin more often. God, isn’t the world itself beautiful?
10. Be faithful. This is the year you hoped to be better. Don’t let anything stop you from achieving that, because you are limitless as long as you believe yourself to be.
Requested?: Yep! Taylor requested this quite a while ago and I finally finished it! (you dug your own grave, twin)
Prompt: “This is my official request for you to write a fic based on those tags.” aka Lin takes you out to the Opera for date night but, he looks ridiculously good in a tuxedo and it’s all you can think about.
Warnings: public sex, biting, unprotected sex, Lin in a suit
Words: 2.9k+ (literally like 20 words from 3,000; holy shit)
A/N: Welp, my first Lin imagine and it is smut. Oh well! Thank you again to @helplesslylins , @diggs4life and @tempfixeliza for reading this damn thing like 3 times and encouraging me to post! Enjoy it you sinners!
It was one of those rare times when Lin was not running from country to country working on projects. He was there when you woke up in the morning and actually listened when you asked him to stay in bed for a few more minutes. You learned to cherish these times and take advantage of it, so when you suggested a “night on the town” Lin was on a mission to find the best thing out there.
“Do you mean casual dress? Or an all out black tie affair?” Lin asked, looking up from his computer as you entered the bedroom.
“Uh, well, black tie! It’s been awhile since we got all fancy.” You replied after some thought, laying next to him and raising a brow as he quickly minimized his window.
“It’s a surprise.” He stressed, kissing your forehead. “Don’t give me that lip.”
You sighed, getting off the bed and heading to the door.
“Fine, fine! Get to planning, I expect to be dazzled!”
And a week later, Lin told you to clear your schedule for Friday night.
not everyone knows that but bob suffers from anxiety and big crowds and being the center of attention kind of overwhelm him. he was hot and sweating all day because of anxiety, he kept fanning himself even though it wasn’t hot there. but he still had a huge smile on his face and stood in front of his table to greet fans and took the time to talk and give a hug to everyone. he talks at least 2-3 minutes to anyone who wants to chat, even if there’s a long line. he almost never takes breaks. if there are any people waiting at his table, he’ll stay past his scheduled time. i told him that his support of mental health and just him in general and the show helped me with my mental issues. and he seemed really touched he said that it makes him really happy if he can help anyone like that. also i don’t wanna spoil anything but he told there’s a project* he’d like to do soon so i’d keep an eye on his twitter in the next weeks. not a professional project btw, i mean something personal
Do NOT let a man make you feel guilty for “acting like a prostitute”, I.e demanding compensation upfront. Ive had 3 situations in my life where the man didn’t pay me upfront, in cash. Each time he has a bogus ass reason, I.e. it makes it feel less genuine, he doesn’t like how the girls act after he pays them, etc…EACH of these 3 times (note I see men multiple times a week over the last 2 years…so, LOTS of experience)…I was cheated!!
1. I was a senior in college. This man sent an electronic bank payment while we were at the hotel. The payment WAS sent, but never went through, I.e the bank denied it the next business day. He never paid up.
2. The man (stupid me, thought I could trust him), said he’ll pay me after. Well after he suggested we go to the bar, then have another round. We go downstairs. I turn for one second, this motherfucker RUNS away.
3. The man convinced me that he’d give me $ after, which he did, but during the act, made me feel like I had to succumb to doing things I didn’t wanna do, so that I’d get paid. He ends up NOT using a condom against my demands and I had to take a plan B and actually considered filing a lawsuit for a long time. FUCK him. Really. I wish the worst on him.
I recently met with a man off SA who just refused to give it to me upfront. We legit argued for 10 minutes. He tried to kiss me as if I was there to play with his saggy azz and give in, I pushed him away and left. Honestly just typing these stories makes my blood boil so Ima stop right there.
Moral is. Of my 100s of tricks I’ve turned, never has it gone well when he refuses to compensate you upon your arrival. Stay safe ladies. Don’t let these disgusting delusional trouts finesse you. Learn from my mistakes. Xo
It’s hard to come up with new healing and buff spells for a system like 5e, so I converted a bunch of D&D 3.5e ones! They then gave me a few ideas so I sprinkled in a few of new spells, as well.
Necromancy spell. Clr 3.
One dying creature you can see within 30 ft. is warded from death and damage while you maintain concentration for up to 1 minute. That creature does not need to make death saving throws and damage does not cause them to gain an automatic failed death save. Only if the creature takes more than 20 damage from a single source do they gain a failed death save.
Transmutation spell. Clr 4.
One creature you target has a DEX score of 20 for one minute using while you maintain concentration. This spell has no effect if the creature already has over 20 DEX.
Transmutation spell. Clr 3.
One creature you touch is cured of poison and no longer suffers from the Poisoned condition as you extract the poison from their body and into a plain stone that could fit in the palm of your hand. The stone turns black and can be thrown at a range of 20/60 ft. When a creature is hit with a poisoned stone, it deals 1d4 bludgeoning damage plus 6d10 poison damage and the creature becomes Poisoned for 1 minute. A successful CON saving throw halves the poison damage and negates the Poisoned condition.
Evocation spell. Clr 1.
As Cure Wounds, except that it heals 1d12 + your spellcasting ability modifier. However, this spell does not have any effect on creatures that do not worship your deity.
Conjuration spell. Clr 7.
You summon a mote of radiant light that hovers just over your shoulder. It remains there for 1 minute as long as you maintain concentration. The mote of light will do one of the following options of your choice during each of your turns. Each turn you may change what you wish for it to do. The star takes up no actions as it acts completely on its own through your will.
The star will negate the effects of up to 1d4+3 spell levels of spells cast that target only you until your next turn.
The star grants you +2 AC as it shields you from attacks until your next turn.
The star casts Sacred Flame using your spellcasting ability modifier and caster level against a target of your choice.
Abjuration spell. Clr 3.
You may use your reaction to cast Mystic Aegis. The next time that a harmful spell targets only you, you may force the caster of the spell to make a CHA saving throw against your spell save DC. If they succeed, you reduce the damage of the incoming spell by half. If they fail, their spell has no effect on you and is wasted.
Abjuration spell. Clr 1.
You may cast Resurgence as a bonus action. One creature of your choice that can hear you may make another saving throw immediately against an ongoing spell or effect that is currently afflicting them. If the new saving throw succeeds, the effect ends.
Necromancy spell. Clr 4.
When a living creature dies within 60 ft. of you, you may use your reaction to cast Soul Vessel. The creature’s soul, instead of departing to the afterlife, is drawn into a focus of your spell. The focus must be a vessel of some kind (a jar, a vial, a basket, etc.). The creature’s soul is stored in the vessel and can be spoken with as if it was still alive. As long as the creature’s soul vessel is not destroyed or damaged, the creature can be resurrected up to 1 year later without the need for a body. A new one is formed out of material from the astral and ethereal planes.
Divination spell. Clr 3.
For up to ten minutes using concentration, a small whispering mote of light hovers just by your ear and gives you advice that you can only hear. While it is active, you have a +1 bonus to Insight and Perception skill checks. You can cast Augury up to three times while the spiritual adviser is active. After the third casting, the adviser vanishes and the spell ends.
Surge of Health
Evocation spell. Clr 2.
You may cast Surge of Health using different actions, having varying effects. You target one creature within 15 ft. that you can see.
If you cast Surge of Health as a reaction, the creature regains 1 hit point.
If you cast Surge of Health as a bonus action, the creature regains 1d4 hit points.
If you cast Surge of Health as an action, the creature regains 4d4 hit points.
If you cast Surge of Health over the course of 1 minute, the creature regains 8d4 hit points.
Transmutation spell. Clr 1.
One creature you touch is no longer afflicted by a condition that you choose, a poison, a disease, a curse, or a spell currently afflicting it. You then become afflicted with the same condition, poison, disease, curse, or spell as if you had just gained it.
Transmutation spell. Clr 2.
One creature you touch regains 1 hit point each round that it has at least 1 hit point for 1 minute. This spell does not require concentration.
While you are working on underverse, what motivates you to do it despite the pressure from others?
I love so much what I’m doing and see people enjoying and supporting this is enough for me to keep going.
I decided to stop thinking about the pressure I’m getting just for one reason.
This will become a long post but I think this will worth it, if you really want to know a little more about me.
I was the only one in charge of the publicity and desgin department of a big company. I was only 17 years old.
They only let me 15 minutes to eating something and then keep working, designing social media content each 15 minutes, programming their website, taking photos for catalogs, learning about products I would never buy in my life to making ridiculous ads, making designs with 3 choices for monthly banners, traveling outside the city to taking 2 photos of their branches, visit clients, create animations and videos about products, corporative stuff, birthday cards for the other employees.
All of this, I had to do it in three days and give a report to the Gerent.
If something wasn’t finished, they discounted me money.
They humillated me in public and also in the business meetings using arguments like “she is just a coward girl” “she is a woman using a computer”
They threatened me to say goodbye to my job without receiving any kind of money.
They forced me to take only 15 minutes of my 1 hour-break to eat something and stay at the office. I even wasn’t able to go to another reunions.
They blamed my “sissy” drawing because they were losing money.
Of course I got several anxiety attacks and serious damages to my phisical and mental health.
I quit that job last year. And now I’m almost 22.
Suffering because of a poor asshole on internet is useless. It isn’t compare to what I lived before.
You sat reading aloud next to the tiny planted Groot. He had
been growing well since sacrificing himself and you hoped he would talk soon.
You never met full sized Groot but between the stories and how much time you
spent sitting with Baby Groot, you were pretty sure you would have loved him. The
group was supposed to be going into the city on the planet you just landed so
that they could collect some general supplies and maybe intel. You hated going
outside so you opted out and just gave Rocket a brief list in exchange for you
staying with Groot.
1. If you’re procrastinating because you’re feeling stuck (eg, if you don’t really understand a school assignment, or you don’t know what’s expected, or you don’t know where to start) then pluck up the courage to ask for some help. When you know what you’re doing, it’s easier to work.
2. Remind yourself that most decisions aren’t major. If you get it wrong, you can start over again … or change your direction … or have another try.
3. If the task seems overwhelming, just take a baby step. That, at least, will get you moving – so the next step’s easier.
4. Tell yourself that you can suffer for up to twenty minutes – and then you’ll return to doing things you want to do. You’ll be surprised to discover that “suffering’s” not that bad.
5. Decide to do the task as soon as you get up – as the more you put it off, the worse it’s going to seem!
6. Don’t pretend that other work counts just as much as what you’re leaving. Simply acting like you’re busy won’t make it go away. Be honest with yourself … and do what’s most important first.
Summary: You and Bucky are friends for a long time, but lately you start to develop romantic feelings for him. One day one of Tony’s parties everything changes but maybe not the way you wanted or expected.
Paring: Bucky x Reader
Warnings: Angst, fuffly ( and a lot of confused people)
You wake up feeling awful, your head is hurting like hell and you feel weak. You know that you need to get up, put some clothes on and eat some breakfast. But you don’t want to move, you are so comfortable and for a brief moment, you feel normal and safe between your sheets.
Unfortunately, the moment doesn’t last long, all the events of yesterday reappear in your mind all at once but this time you can see things with a little more clarity.
You are stuck in a dilemma between sense and sensibility.
You are so overwhelmed by your own feelings that you decide to take the advice of one of your favorite professors in college.Every time that you are feeling confused or your feelings are overpowering you, you should write a letter to yourself explaining what is going on.